Born into this
As much as I like to joke, I couldn't help but feel genuinely sad when I read that Kelis wouldn't allow Nas to be present when their son was born yesterday. That's some cold shit!
It's not just a matter of whether or not he was allowed to be in the room when the baby was born. I don't have any kids, so it'd be hard for me to say how important it is to actually witness a child being born. The video they show in science class in the 10th grade is traumatic enough. I'm sure it's even worse when it's your own wife's vagine that's being destroyed. Though in this case, Nas was already done with Kelis' vagine, so that wasn't as much of an issue. But for a few reasons, none of which have to do with the vagine per se, I'd still want to be in the general vicinity, maybe outside in the hallway.
First of all, I wouldn't want to look like a douche, in case the baby's mother has any visitors. The baby's relatives might stop by to see it, and I wouldn't want them to think I'm across town, balls deep in some hoo-er while my wife is giving birth to my child. That just wouldn't reflect very well on me personally. And in this case, people might read on Twitter or TMZ or whatever that Nas was barred from being present and try to draw some sort of conclusion about Nas being abusive. This incident just so happened to take place at the same time when Chris Brown was apologizing for what he had to do to Rihanna, and you know how people start thinking with that "where there's smoke there's fire" logic. Word to Sam Jackson.
Who knows what effect this might have on the child itself? If the first thing the baby sees when it comes into the world is its mother, and she's got a salty attitude, and the father is nowhere to be found, it could do irreparable damage. For all we know, that could be how people become gay. At the very least, it's getting things off to a bad start. And when things don't start off well, they're probably not gonna get any better. Take for example this post. If Kelis couldn't even put her ego aside the day the child was born, what's the likelihood that her Nas are ever gonna get along well?
Not that Nas necessarily needs to get along with Kelis. The pussy is fucked up now anyway. And now the entire world knows she's batshit. It was one thing when it was just rumors of her being a filthy hoo-er and having a sex tape out, but this is something else entirely. I see Combat Jack is calling for the two of them to patch things up, for the sake of the kid, but I'm not sure if I could look at the little homey the same way if he went back to that. Not with the options he must have. Still, that doesn't mean the two of them can't be civil, which, for starters would entail her allowing him to be there when the baby is born.
It's bad enough Nas and Kelis' son will have to grow up being shuttled between its two parents. Kelis will probably be bringing all kinds of men around it, and Nas might not be able to spend with it the amount of time necessary to make sure it grows up nice and masculine. Which is obviously important in an age when guys are walking around in skin tight jeans, and walking around the mall in big groups, color coordinating and shit. Never has it been more important for a black male child to have a strong male influence. But how is the kid ever gonna have a positive relationship with a woman, if it's drawing from Nas and Kelis' relationship as a template? See, this is how endless cycles begin.
It's only a matter of time before the kid is old enough to learn about the circumstances in which it was brought into the world. It might even find this post and the several other posts I've written about Nas and Kelis' relationship, if XXL is still around at that point. (I know.) Not only will the poor bastard realize what an awful hoo-er his mother is, but he's gonna have that in mind when it's time for him to find a woman of his own. The last thing he's gonna want is for the same thing that happened to his father to happen to him.
And people wonder why so many brothers are out here exploring their options.