Tahiry: “Clearly, Men & Women Are in Two Separate Zip Codes”
This video conversation between Joe Budden and ex-girlfriend Tahiry hit the net right before 2011 came to a close. In the clip, Tahiry lets Budden know that he'd have to court her to win her back again to which Joe gives a hearty laugh. Well, XXL got the ultra-sexy Tahiry on the phone only to find out that the clip was actually from two to three years ago. Here, XXL talks to the super curvy Tahiry about her ever-evolving relationship with Joe Budden, if she'd marry him and her plans for the New Year.
XXLMag.com: We seen the newest video of you and your ex Joe Budden talking. Where does your relationship stand with Budden now?
Tahiry: Me and Joe, we're at that space where from time to time we fall in and out of our friendship. He didn't pop up this time. We're not at the space where we're disliking each other. We have conversations, which is what happened in that clip. We're able to sit today and just talk sometimes as two human beings who were together for a long time. Because he was in my life a long time, pretty much in that age range where you're growing up with somebody, we have conversations. We go times without speaking, where I disagree how he runs his life and he might disagree with mine. Then, there's times when we get back and it's like, 'How are you?' We always manage to, whatever's happening, check up on each other. That day was pretty much having a conversation about relationships and what went wrong.
When Joe had his fallout with another ex, Esther Baxter, he got in the booth to rap about the experience and he specifically mentioned sleeping on your couch and how it felt good to have an ex that understands him.
There's times in your life where you share things with an individual and no matter what has been done in the past you care about people and you never close your door, no matter what has been done in the past. You let go and you let God. So, when he went through this rough situation and I wasn't clear of all the facts, I allowed him to go through the situation, but I didn't turn my back on him. It's a part about being a human being and letting go.
There's a part of the video where you're telling Joe he would have to court you to get you back. Can you explain?
That was pretty much clearing it up because...clearly, men and women are in two separate zip codes. We speak two different languages. I meant every word I said on that clip. It's pretty much me explaining to him why we got to where we got to today or two, three years ago when we broke up. It's explaining to men that it's important for them to do things for their woman. It doesn't matter if she's crazy independent...little things matter to keep a relationship alive. Showing that you care and not forgetting what was there. Him laughing and still not thinking about how he moved in the past was wrong. A lot of men go through that. They're like, 'I know you!' Well, the reason why you know me is you've done somethings in the past that you've seemed to have forgotten and this is why things fade. It was general conversation about what men tend to forget that women need.
Could you marry Joe Budden if he were to propose?
Uhh...really? I don't really have an answer to that. It was pretty much a general conversation that two exes were having. Life goes around in circles and you never know, but that day I was just getting things off my chest. I'm very expressive. Men listen with actions, but today I don't sit around and mope. I do what I have to do for Tahiry. That clip, I was letting it all hang out. Now, what Joe does, that's what Joe does.
What do you say to people that say that you and Budden shouldn't be airing out your lives for all to see?
I am an open book. I really enjoy being in front of the camera. I really don't care about what anybody has to say. I'm a regular human being and I'm sure a regular human being can relate to it. It's cool. I don't really care.
What do you have in store for 2012?
I've gotten a couple of scripts. The Heavy Hitter Angel calendar is officially out right now, hosting my parties and let's see what happens with everything else.
Do you have a New Year's Resolution?
New Year's resolution...not at all. All I can say is I live for today. I don't think about yesterday because it's done and tomorrow doesn't even matter because you just never know. As far as resolutions, I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing.