Proof’s Estate Sued by Family of Shooting Victim

Proof.jpgAccording to an Associated Press report, the family of Keith Bender has filed a wrongful death suit against the estate of the late Detroit rapper Proof, who police say shot Bender before being killed by Bender’s cousin. According to the suit, which was filed yesterday (May 1) in Michigan’s Wayne County Circuit Court by Bender’s mother and wife, Proof “violently assaulted and battered [Bender], culminating with the infliction of a gunshot injury that caused the death of Mr. Bender.” The suit also alleges that Proof was known to carry weapons and had “violent propensities.” No specific monetary damages were listed on the suit.

  • Tyson W.

    U reap what U sow. I wonder what Curtis Jackson has 2 say about this or if he’s man enough 2 say anything about it 2 the fans & kids that listen to his shit.

  • Shysun

    WTF does C.J have to do with this ??

  • realest kid

    kill the motherfuckin etheridge’s whole motherfuckin family
    they better all be scared
    they arent even worthy of tryin to sue anything that has to do nearly wit proof
    they are little pieces of shit compared to Proof
    fuck u “war vetteran”
    usually veterans have a brain and dont go to clubs and fuck wit the craziest niggers in the club so u better watch your back
    cause u will be avenged on so fuck you and i hope they kill you

  • realest kid

    **bender not etheridge**

  • FITTYZ A BITCH

    now dats fuct up,i honastly think both them being dead kinda makes em even.. i mean like why does this stupid whiteboys(assuming he white) family have to get money involved?? just put this shit at rest already.. damn

    RIP BIG PROOF.. oh and fuck fitty, fuck gunit, fuck yall, n if ya doubt me.. nigga ask about me

  • Nee

    I feel that this is just such a sad display in hip hop. I can’t imagine how both families are coping. Shit what a time to talk about money!

  • sweetie

    what!

  • n/a

    the family of kieth bender has filed a lawsuit for being a dumb d-bag. don’t get mad if ya’ll don’t get the estate.

  • bonkers

    if proof wasn’t a rapper they wouldn’t have sued stupid niggas trying to get rich of my nigga proof

  • pena capital

    And soon the vultures landed…hope they choke!!!!!

  • S. Maxwell

    That is bull shit

  • BEN

    ——————
    now dats fuct up,i honastly think both them being dead kinda makes em even.. i mean like why does this stupid whiteboys(assuming he white) family have to get money involved?? just put this shit at rest already.. damn
    ——————

    HE WASNT WHITE YOU RACIST SHIT – SKIN COLOR HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING YOU FUCKING IDIOT

  • whitey bulger

    listen up u darkies, whitey bulger is back and taking southie over…i killed proof and i killed bender…i killed pac, biggie i killed em all!!

  • RAMMY

    Whatever you fuckin freak! I think this is all bullshit. Both of them are dead and I just wish it could of been this War Veteran faggot but it had to be a great rapper like Proof.
    Yo Em keep ya head up homie!

  • @Large

    How unfortunate that someone be disgraced even in death. “Bender” was a career soldier, Die in the street or die in the desert… Its the life of a soldier. “Proof” was a gifted MC with roots to a lifestyle that results in such travesties. To think that a family transforms this tragedy into a day in vegas leaves me speechless and without concern for their wellbeing. I am truly saddend by the disrespect given unto both parties families.

    Lets be real… If he died in battle we they be trying to collect a deadmans wage? I am gonna go as far as to say NO.

    “Proof” Detroit loves you, Hip hop misses you and your family is looking up.

    Oh, and Whitey. Be safe behind your desktop… The streets are a savage place… Fuckin’ Cakeboy.

  • @Large

    Oh, and enough with the racism already. We all are here united under the ideals of hip hop and pushing this culture to new levels free of idiocy and falacy.

    I am a white father of two beautiful lil’ diva’s and one lil’ romeo whom are destined for great things. My wife is a strong black woman fighting these hardships each and everyday so that our children may not have to.

    So please… let off the bias

  • HUSTLEHARD

    listen up whitey booger, or wutever the fuck u call yourself kill yourself.FUCKIN LOON!!!! R.I.P PROOF.

  • HUSTLEHARD

    R.I.P WHITEY BOOGER.

  • antm52

    It’s simple why Bender’s family got money involved… they’re american

  • http://xxlmag.com jerseyjake

    Man fuck these broke ass families that want something for nothing.Take ya losses and move the fuck on or get rolled on.Proof was a famous nigga doing his thing and im sure the other dude disrespected him in some type of way to deserve what he got.As far as the fag ass nigga who shot Proof,He definetly got his coming to him and thats a no brainer dumb ass gossip ass niggas!!!Oh and fuck yall race card ass niggas from the fucking boonies,come to Jersey with that bullshit and get gang raped nigga!!

  • dipset nigga

    why is it being more popular to sue dead people now. shits rediculous

  • Lamar Murphy

    I think it should be noted that no one is dicussing, or even seems to be familiar with the facts of this case…

    The official police reports coming out in Detroit cites the evidence as showing that Proof drew his gun and shot Keith Bender in the head after beating him severely… It was apparently over an argument over a game of pool. No charges of murder or manslaughter were ever filed against Proof’s shooter(who was not the man Proof killed), as the shooting of Proof has been officially recognised by the state as an act of self defense.

    Now, the following are my opinions, based on the facts that I am aware of:

    I wonder, what could have Keith Bender, or anyone on this Earth possibly do to deserve this kind of a sudden death? Disrespecting someone, as some of you have expressed?

    Well I ask you, what is more disrespectful than stomping someone, and then shooting them in the head?

    If you really believe in justice and a romantic idea of honor, then what do you think Proof “deserved”? Is he somehow exempt, just because you’ve heard of him and you admire him? Well who was Keith Bender? Another fact is that NONE of us know… We’re all just blowing smoke out of our ass in judging his character. It is unfair because dead men tell no tales. Proof on the other hand, did tell us alot about who he was, and in his lyrics, especially in the songs “Forgive Me”, and “Kurt Kobain”, it is clear that he considered himself a violent sinner who had hurt people during his life, and moreover, that he wasn’t proud of this. Only his actions now live to show whether this was cathartic confession and rebuke, with an honest hope for change, or simply observation or boasting that offered little or no insight or change in him. If he did long for change and failed, then the tragedy is only compounded in lewe of that.

    I don’t believe in a human being “deserving” anything from another human being, but I do believe that the choices and behavior that Proof engaged in that night, and perhaps up until that night in carrying a concealed firearm illegally, directly resulted in his death. There’s simply no way this could have happened otherwise.

    It’s sad to say, but no one else did more to instigate Proof’s shooting than himself.

    This is especially tragic for a man who had had some success, and who had every opportunity to make his life about making music for his fans, as he claimed he was most about in his lyrics, instead of feeding on the perhaps very bad conditions and mindset that he came from and continuing to get involved in violence. No matter how any argument starts, it’s always your decision how it ends. Especially if you are holding the gun. Escalating it to the point of even brandishing a gun is never neccessary, except in the case of self defense, which, in Proof’s case, is the exact opposite of how it went down, according to the evidence and multiple eyewitness reports.

    As a fan and follower of Proof’s music, I am indeed hurt by what happened. My hurt stems from his loss, but also from the sense I have of having believed in something positive happening in his life with his music, some positive change beyond material wealth and fame. Stealing victory from the jaws of defeat. Coming from nothing and turing your life around. Attaining a public platform to use to point out hypocrisy and to help others and affect change. This is what I believe rap, or almost any kind of music is supposed to be about. How can this happen when you can’t succeed in affecting that change in yourself? I always felt it sad when someone, like Proof, who should have made it out of the “fuck the world” mentality through creative endeavors, can’t find an inspiration beyond that. In listening to his lyrics, the way his life ended seems prophesized, and sadly suicidal in how avoidable it really was. The decisions he made in his personal life have let down the many fans who could only have wanted him to continue doing his thing and, moreover, to simply survive and stay on this Earth as long as possible. As far as his family and friends go, I have no idea how they feel, and I won’t speculate, save to say that if they loved him and enjoyed having him around, then I don’t imagine that they would think his honor, or his anything else was ultimately worth his life.

    The fact that someone else had to be taken with him on his self destructive trip only compounds the pointlessness and tragedy of this “death over dishonor” mentality. Did Proof’s honor come out in tact? If so, was it worth his own life? Simply put, in this game, no one wins.

    If you truly think that Keith Bender, who none of us knew, deserved his death that night, and the incident was justified, then what kind of a fan are you of Proof’s? Wouldn’t you rather have him alive today? Or if he had lived- on tour, and not in a jail cell? Is his “realness” as a rapper more important to you than his life or even his quality of life as a person? Do you think that those of you who refuse to let someone elvove as a rapper, or moreover, change as a person after they’ve had some success, could have led to this in some way? Did Proof feel he had to preserve his “realness” in the eyes of nihilistic hip hop fans? -The people who applauded where he came from rather than where he could have taken his life? If this is the case, then we all bear some responsibility for this in what we support as fans and the message that that gives to rappers. Maintaining an image, a credibility, or a mentality to stay inspired and “real” shouldn’t have to take this sort of toll. And fuck anyone who thinks this was all worth it somehow, and that anyone got what they deserved. Some people, or both people may have got what they were flirting with and perhaps asking for, but that’s only makes it more sad.

    Of course, I don’t expect anyone who assumed Keith Bender must have been a whiteboy(which he wasn’t) right off the bat, and/or deserved to die for “disrespecting the realest man in the club”, would ever be able to look into this any deeper than they obviously have looked into the lyrics and life of Proof himself.

    Had Proof survived, he would have most likely faced murder charges in Michigan. Another person would still be dead, and Proof’s career and life would still be fucked up. There is no silver lining to this in any alternate possible outcome.

    In my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with a grieveing family seeking some sort of official decision or statement for posterity in regard to holding their loved one’s killer publicly responsible, especially if he is dead and cannot face any repercussions for his actions in life. Is this detrimental to Proof’s family and legacy? Yes it is. But I ask you, who escalated the violence and could have stood to prevent this in the first place? It is yet another, posthumous, repurcussion of the choices Proof made that night.

    Proof’s family would have been equally eligible under the law to this recourse had he been in murdered in the same manner as Mr. Bender.

    The fact that someone has expressed the hope that Keith Bender’s family is killed over this is so appauling, and so obviously borne out of a solipsilstic psychosis that it would be an exercise in futility to discuss why.

    There is nothing in the report of this lawsuit that specifies monetary damages so far. Perhaps that’s not truly the motivation, but rather, it is peace of mind, or exacting whatever justice is possible under the law. I don’t know. But if it is money, then how does that somehow make any difference? Have any of you ever lost a loved one and known exactly, through indisputable evidence, who was responsible and that it could have been prevented? I haven’t, but I can only imagine that any amount of money could only be a cold comfort after that.

    It would seem that some of you are quite passionate about justice, and defending honor. But if you truly don’t give a fuck, then how can you expect anything more out of this world than chaos in return if that’s all you give? It’s hypocritical to not accept the fact that someone else may take the measure to defend themselves or perhaps even their “honor” in the same way you do and have it come back to hurt you.

    At the end of the day, if that’s how you feel, then you should be elated at the way this unfolded. Proof lived up to his lyrics. Sadly, in my opinion. A triumph for the “realness” of the rapper, and a tragedy for the life of two men.

    I can only imagine the what the next inflammatory posts will say about me, but I don’t care. I value life, and I had respected Proof. This whole thing was an upsetting dissapointment, but nothing more than some of the disgusting and hurtful opinions expressed here on xxlmag.com I felt compelled to express myself on behalf of anyone who gives a fuck about anything in this world and was really listening to the man himself. Maybe if he felt there were more of us out there really listening in the first place, he would have been in the studio, venting, having fun, whatever, instead of in the club with a gun looking for, or at least gladly accepting trouble, and this never would have happened.
    -Lamar Murphy

  • openeyes

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    It would seem that some of you are quite passionate about justice, and defending honor. But if you truly don’t give a fuck, then how can you expect anything more out of this world than chaos in return if that’s all you give? It’s hypocritical to not accept the fact that someone else may take the measure to defend themselves or perhaps even their “honor” in the same way you do and have it come back to hurt you.
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    wow lamar, very nice passage, for those without the common sense or morals to think that anybody deserves to die is retarded. why are people so ignorant, those who just talk up a storm trying to create an image of their idols without using common sense or facts. i mean i dont know the dude (proof)but shooting a man over a game of pool and thats honorable?

  • openeyes

    It’s better for others to think you’re stupid then to open your mouth and prove it.

  • Lamar Murphy

    Thanks OpenEyes…

    You know, I just think that nothing is learned from this kind of tragedy when all it amounts to is Proof being lionized and his victim being demonized… As fans of his music, he have the opportunity to make something out of this, and learn something from Proof’s life and music, but only if we don’t kid ourselves about what really happened, and how stupid it was to have to have it all end this way. It’s creating a mythical idea of Proof’s death out of what really is a huge dissapointment. No one will ever really know what led to it all, except for the fact that it was preventable, and that’s why violence like this is just bullshit all around. It’s not like someone just pulled a drive by on him like Biggie or even Pac(who had supposedly stomped his suspected killer the very night before, so can we really call that person a no good reason havin’ hater?)…

    You just can’t say that Proof was minding his own business and got popped by someone who just wanted to take him down.

    Maybe sometimes we have to accept truths about our heroes even when they are upsetting… That’s keepin’ it real. And the more I think about it, I think the way you live is more important than what you say on the mic. As it turns out, a lot of Proof’s sentiment in his lyrics was really just bullshit. At the end of his life, he rapped about wanting to be forgiven, tryin’ to change his life, make things right with his kids, and not end in a blaze of bullshit glory. And as it turns out, that just wasn’t real, or he would have at least walked away after he had beat the fuck out of that man, and not decided to blast him in the face on top of it.

    I suppose, at the end of the day, that both Pac and Proof told us in their lyrics that they knew they would be deserving of this kind of death if all the things they ever did would catch up to them… The men themselves wouldn’t want us to look to them as role models in life, or innocent victims. Just, for once, listen to their LYRICS, and don’t be “the dumb who are mostly intrigued by the drum”(-Masta Killah).

  • Fitty cent on top of NY

    Ppl get shoot everyday weather famous of not. Could be you next…Fitty Is fo real. fuck anyone you doubts him. If you aint done what hes done shut your mouth cus you a bitch!

  • Fitty cent on top of NY

    R. I. P. Proof.
    ..D12 Purple Pills..
    ..Pour out some Liquor for ye..

  • N/A

    I think that this is a horrible thing R.I.P Proof and I think that if the guy gets off with nothing then he is gonna have to watch his back because I know that someone is going to go after him. Who knows why people do what they do but 99% of the time the have a really good reason for doing it and I believe that in this case. I say what is done is done let it go move on.

  • alyxnyc

    Proof was a murderer. He should pay for what he did.

  • JD

    that is fuckin bullshit if you read the article in the xxl about proofs death there was a witness who was his buddy and he said proof did not even shoot he pistol whipped the dude then his cousin started fire and may or may not shot his own cousin and shot proof dead doing so and he also went on to say proof didnt even have a gun on him and before the police came they told everyone to say he was shoot at a dinner and brainwashed the whole media and they have the whole thing twisted and everyone believes that proof shot this dude dead when he didnt.

  • James

    R.I.P Big Proof R.I.P The One And The Only!

  • D-Zz

    if i see Keith Bender ill fuck that mutha fucka up

  • D-Zz

    Proof is alive!!!! i saw on 3rd street!…..i wanna get a shout out to this sexy babe named kelly…Kelly i love u *wink*

  • D-Zz

    Proof is alive!!!! i saw him on 3rd street!…..i wanna get a shout out to this sexy babe named kelly…Kelly i love u *wink*

  • Triple D

    RIP Proof bro, We’ll forever miss you.

    Deano.

  • Dolly

    D-ZZ fuck you bitch I know what you meant by 3rd street faggit. fuck off

  • solo130

    for the ni gga that said that shyt im not a fan of d-12 but theyre last album went 3times platnium u dumb fu ck study the sells not wat u think for your personal beliefs.

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  • http://proof ali

    its soo sad that benders family put a price on his head if it was one of my famliy members i would not take the money it wont bring them back and it makes you look like gold diggers i would want a live benders socalled wife was not even with him i guss it takes money to remind you how much you love a person how sad.

  • http://proof ali

    i do fill for benders mother but his socalled wife who he was not with is looking for her pay day if someone killed my husband i would not take money it wont bring him back i would wont revege i guess you can put a price tag on a socalled loved one if i was bender i would be pissed and his socalled wife is a golddigger.

  • http://proof ali

    i do fill for benders mother but his socalled wife who he was not with is looking for her pay day if someone killed my husband i would not take money it wont bring him back i would wont revege i guess you can put a price tag on a socalled loved one if i was bender i would be pissed and his socalled wife is a golddigger.

  • common sense

    some of you ignorant motherfuckers in here need to get a job/education….