Industry Rule No. 4082: Friends vs. Homeboys


Yesterday, I mentioned being raised as a military brat, so anybody that knows about that life knows that you have to get adjusted real quick to being around different people. From an early age, I learned about the difference between friends and homeboys. Now, as a producer who has had some success in the industry, the difference has become even more apparent.
I’m a naturally laidback person and don’t trip too much off of anything but I do have friends who have been with me from the start and homeboys who hang out with me occasionally. The difference between the two is that my friends know my kids’ names and birthdates, and what records I got playing on the radio, while my homeboys only know the latter part. Both are cool to have, as long as you know the difference.

The music business—really, the business of entertainment in general—is a bunch of smoke and mirrors. It’s mostly about perception and less about reality, which is why you have to be careful about who you call your “friend” and the people you surround yourself with. I have that kind of personality where I get along with just about everybody, but I’m also aware of the purpose certain people play in my life and handle each relationship accordingly.

Everybody ain’t meant to be ya friend and everybody you meet shouldn’t be considered ya homeboy. A homeboy might have your back in a fight if something went down. A friend will have your back in a fight without even knowing what happened.

I’ll be 31 next year and it’s been kinda amazing the clarity and wisdom getting older brings you. Stuff my parents used to tell me to watch out for when I was growing up only gets magnified when you become a full-grown adult. I want to be part friend, part homeboy to my kids. I want to be that parent that will always tell ‘em the truth and keep it 100 but also blow ‘em up a lil bit so they feel like they the life of the party.
You know, more mirrors (truth), less smoke (hype).

How do y’all determine who’s your friend vs. your homeboy on the day-to-day? Is there a even a difference for you?

  • Chrissy Corey

    Good Shit Zaytoven

  • ra

    zay,nice blog. industry phony,but as long as you know that they can’t fuck witcha homie….do your thang,i’m jammin “brand new” right now!!….lol

  • ra

    jammin “brand new” right now!!…lol…

  • http://TrackHustle.ning.com Indy

    I really identify with your story. I was a military brat myself. Keep up the good work and I look forward to buying your book.

  • The Decatur Dictator

    Well, I have very few friends and less homeboys. When you cross that 30ish threshold, you quickly realize that those around you if they are not helping you they are hurting you. So when I came to that conclusion that most of my “homeboys” were not helping me, I faded to the background and did my own thing.

  • Axeo

    Friends are the ones who would know you’re on probation and don’t let you anywhere near any drugs/stuff even in California that can get you put back in prison. Friends also wouldn’t chill with you themselfs if they are convicted felons untill you get off probation.

    Homeboys are the ones who say #1 movie in the country you untouchable, lets get some drugs. I got the pot,tiny got the pills lets get fucked up before we even get home.

  • Apollo 13

    as a 16 year old dude, I find it hard to tell, i appreciate the blog. I find homeboys are everywhere, friends are 2 maybe 3, but sometimes i even feel my friends pullin me down. shits rough, and the best friend you got is always you. in high school everythings propaganda, it aint the real world… that was for my other young people out there. Word

  • detroit by way of 6mile

    zay i love your music now i love your words too im 21 and i realised when i was 14 having to move from the brewsters to the eastside that alot of people just wanna hang with you cause you’re popular or fresh but my project niggas down with me for life before the gear and girls came til after the gear and girls gone they still have my back those aren’t even friends they’re bros while on the eastside niggas fuck with me cause im on but when i ain’t they’ll be gone i never trip over it cause from the beginning i knew it was only going be me in end

  • Coolin

    Zaytoven, all I wanted to say is that “Missing” song on Gucci’s new album is nice. Keep those comin.

  • http://www.myspace.com/siriousfpr SIRIOUS

    MAN I IDENTIFY WITH THIS ALOT,I AM ONE OF THOSE GUYS EVERYONE CALL WHEN THEY NEED TO DEPEND ON SOMETHING,IF THEY WAN’T THE NEWEST MUSIC OR IF THEY WAN’T FREE BEATS OR WHATEVER,BUT WHEN NO ONES IN NEED,THE PHONE NEVER RINGS,I FOUND VERY EARLY I HAVE ONLY ONE FRIEND,AND ALOT OF HOMEBOYS,ITS LIKE YA FRIEND IF THEY AIN’T HEARD FROM YOU IN A CERTAI AMOUNT OF TIME THEY AINT CALLIN,THEY COMING BY THE HOUSE LIKE MAN YOU GOOD,YA BOYS AINT GONE DO SHIT BUT WHEN THEY SEE YOU SAY”MAN WHERE YOU BEEN,WE WAS WORRIED BOUT YOU”FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT SHIT,DEF FEEL YOU ON THIS ONE,I WONDER HOW MANY FRIENDS I ACTUALLY HAVE WHEN I START CHARGING FOR BEATS LOL