Hating is For Suckas & You Suck

Haters are just confused admirers. I know because in my life I have been prone to hate. When I think of hate I think of 1 Corinthians 13:11, which reads, “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”

Well, I like to say, “When I was a child, I envied like a child, got jealous like a child and hated like a child. When I became a man, I put my childish hateful ways behind me.”

Now, there’s a difference between hate and someone’s honest critique. I don’t like being labeled a “hater,” I prefer the term “Cultural Critic” but there’s a very fine line between hate and cultural critique.

A cultural critic would say, “Nicki Minaj is dope, she’s doing her thing. I actually think her rhymes were a lot harder when she was doing On The Come Up DVD’s but she’s still nice and I hope she does the right things with her cult-like following because she has a lot of young girls looking up to her and trying to be her. I hope she leads them to do the right things because with great power comes great responsibility.”

End quote.

A hater would say, “Fuck Nicki Minaj, the bitch can’t rap; she’s a fake Lil Kim and she be trying to sound like Wayne. Fuck her and all the Barbies that want to be like the bitch.”

End quote.

Do you see the difference? The cultural critic gave his honest opinion on the Nicki Minaj movement. He said what he thought about her, what he used to think about her, and what he thinks she should do with the power she has. The hater had nothing good to say, it was all disses and insults. You know why; because with ENVY comes needless criticism.

JEALOUSY destroys from within. Haters can never think rationally about a situation because they are too busy wondering why they are not in that situation. They are unhappy with what they’re doing so they bash what someone else is doing because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Most losers are haters; that’s why you should never listen to a loser’s opinion. They sit around on their keyboards all day and throw insults about people via Twitter and FaceBook and they post negative comments on different websites, which is what LOSERS/HATERS do. Go to any news article on XXLMag.com right now and I guarantee that out of the 50 comments on any one article only about two or three will speak on the artist mentioned in a positive light. That’s because in this day and age there are so many people LOSING at this thing called life that everybody hates anyone that’s winning!

Think about some of the most storied franchises in sports, Los Angeles Lakers, Boston Celtics, New York Yankees and my favorite team ever the Dallas Cowboys. People either LOVE or HATE these teams. If you love them it’s because you’re a loyal or fanatic fan like me. If you hate them it’s only because you grew up watching them beat the shit out of your favorite squad. You hated seeing them win Super Bowl after Super Bowl, World Series after World Series, NBA championship after NBA championship and you wished it was your squad that was winning so the jealousy and envy you felt manifested itself into pure hate for these teams! It’s the same exact thing with people!

I personally feel like nobody has experienced more hate than Sean Carter aka Jay-Z. Since 1996 he has done nothing but win. When he first came out we all wanted a movement like Roc-A-Fella. He was the star player on a team he owned but there came a point when you started to hate Jay-Z because he was winning WAY too much.

Haters started to look for flaws. Haters wanted Nas to knock him off his pedestal, and cultural critics just wanted a good hip-hop battle. Haters graded his presidency at Def Jam an “F” because LL didn’t sell records, or Meth and Red didn’t get proper promotion, or because Memphis Bleek and Young Gunz didn’t do what he said they would. Cultural critics took all those aforementioned things into consideration and still gave him an “A” because he was instrumental in Kanye, Rihanna, Ne-Yo, Rick Ross and Jeezy’s careers.

I remember when Kingdom Come came out and people bashed it and still do, but I loved it because it was grown, executive, Jay-Z reporting live from the boardroom. He was taking us someplace we had never been and I appreciated that. Music is like books, when we read about things we’ve never experienced it takes us places we’ve never been but shows us where we can go. That’s what he did with that album. It had a couple of wack joints on it, “Anything” featuring Usher and Pharrell was one of them but overall I thought it was solid. Haters just said, “Fuck Jay-Z, he need to stay retired with his old ass; he’s wack now,” with no real reasoning behind why they feel he’s wack.

American Gangster I didn’t like so much. Musically it was great but I felt like he was going backwards and using the movie as an excuse to rap about the D boy lifestyle again. I feel like Jay-Z was bigger than the trap lifestyle. We know he used to do that and didn’t need to hear about that anymore. Then when he dropped “D.O.A.” haters (me included) said, “Why is he declaring death to AutoTune?” All the things he could declare death to in hip-hop and he chose AutoTune? Why not death to the drug culture in hip-hop? Why not death to rappers disrespecting women?

Then, when I stopped hating, I understood why he did that. Jay-Z is all about the culture of music, the pure grassroots boom bap of hip-hop. He wrote that song because he felt that’s what the cultured needed at the time and it did. Then he brought it right back around full circle from where he was on Kingdom Come with the BP3. He was spitting like the grown man, veteran, executive/slash kid from the projects that he is and I respect him for that.

But, you know what a hater would say?

“Fuck, Jay-Z! If Big and Pac were alive he wouldn’t be shit. He hasn’t dropped a dope album since the first Blueprint; all he does is bite Biggie… What the fuck he mean death to AutoTune? Niggas is eating off that shit and his old ass want to hate? Man, I hope Beyonce leaves his ass. I can’t stand that camel-looking nigga! You know the only reason he on top is because he part of the Illuminati and he worships the devil, right?”

What kind of world do we live in, when people are losing so much that whenever they see a Black person winning they have to say it’s because he worships the devil? Forget God, talent, and hard work, the only reason he’s winning is because he worships the devil?!?!?!

That’s when hate has gone too far.

We must challenge ourselves to understand the difference between honest opinion and hate. Honest opinion and constructive criticism are great for you. It can only help you get better. Hate is destructive and it doesn’t cause you to grow as an individual and you’re only hurting yourself in the long run because instead of focusing on how you can become a winner you are too busy hating on whose winning to the point that you’re falling behind in the race and not even realizing you’ve lost!

Next time you speak on a person ask yourself, “Am I jealous of this person? Do I envy this person? Do I want to be in this person’s position?” If you answer yes to any of these questions then don’t speak because you won’t have anything constructive to say. It’s better to remain silent and be thought of as a hater than to speak out and remove all doubt.

In closing, I would like to end this how I started by saying, Haters are just confused admirers. As you grow older remember my remix of 1 Corinthians 13:11: “When I was a child, I envied like a child, got jealous like a child, and hated like a child. When I became a man, I put my childish hateful ways behind me.”

Being a hater is childish and we cultural critics are quite grown.

May Allah bless you all.

Charlamagne Tha God

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  • Lagos

    This is a great write-up, but I think Charlamagne is kissin Shawn’s a** for makin him the topic of this blog.

    • Curtis75Black

      Unfortunately, I feel the same way. Honestly, I feel alot of fans are way too sensitive and it started once that that word because part of the venacular. You can tell the difference between contructive criticism from hating but if you’re gonna label everything going at you’re favorite emcee as hate then something might be wrong with you. That “God” complex might’ve hit you too hard or you just happen to believe everything a nigga say !! I can only judge a emcee for what he brings to the table and what he chooses to expose of himself. Other than that, its off limits. If wants to drop a song, I will give my thoughts on that song only. Whether I believe his catalog is shitty has nothing to do with what he’s dropping today. If he chooses to take over a company playing CEO, he will get looked at like a CEO would get looked at. He’s no longer the “Emcee”. They are not one in the same. Two different positions. Getting money and fucking up a label for personal gain don’t mesh well.

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  • http://www.personalchewtoy.ca/blog RBeezy

    Doesn’t a hater always dictate the terms of how everything should be expressed? By saying “cultural critics do this, haters do that” aren’t you setting out the rules of engagement?

    An uninformed opinion can’t be backed up with straight facts. An uninformed opinion categorizes, labels and uses talking points to bolster the argument. Labeling people as “haters” is as weak as labeling someone as a “leftist” or “backpacker” or “teabagger”.

    It’s easy to shove contrary views into tight little packages. It’s harder to disseminate those opinions and take them on one by one.

  • Toya

    Very well said. It amazes me how so many people think any criticism is constructive criticism. If you’re going to say something, make it count. Critique involves analyzing what is there and how it could be better, not what you think based on bits of information glued into a valid statement in one’s head.

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  • goodluck

    wee thank you very much

  • Sha

    Man! This is probably the dopest article I have read from XXL in a minute. Dude definitely educates cats about the difference between Hatin’ and critique.
    The only thing I would say is this…. The Jay-Z hoopla has not only been unjustified, it has downright been misplaced. I personally think Nas whipped Jay-Z’s ass on the mic, but I give respect where it is due. Jay-Z is the best MC and all around Business man that hip-hop has ever seen. It should be celebrated. Not bashed. He’s not Puff. He gave so much to the culture. He didn’t come into the game on explotation of his fellow rappers (like Puff). I don’t see all these young rockers bashing OZZY OZBOURNE or THE ROLLING STONES. Sometimes Hip-Hop be on some seriously ignorant shit. Other genres don’t become cannibalistic with their elder statesmen.
    And the biggest hater on XXL is BOL. If XXL were seriously into the culture, they would dead this clown’s blog. It just goes to prove that ignorance will always be exploited to sell magazines and businesses. While this article is real, it doesn’t mention the fact that ignorance and haters are given a venue because there is a level of profit (Fox News, Bol, BET). But this article is a step in the right direction. Real talk.

  • realnigga

    I’m so tired of people talkin about haters stfu, If I think Soulja boy or Waka flocka is hot garbage then that’s my opinion call me a hater if you wan’t.

  • Adj-B

    Im not sure if i think all so called haters are confused admirers.
    If you really disagree with what a artist stands for. And someone askes you your stand on it. You can express your feelings. And give a example of a artist that you’d prefer

  • http://Pierzy11@gmail.com Pierzy

    I agree with most of your points, hating is problem, especially when you say, “I don’t like ______’s music” and someone says, “He’s getting money! Stop hating!” That’s not conducive to the culture or the music.

    However, I can’t co/sign the Kingdom Come/American Gangster thought process. While I feel you on his subject matter going backwards (as someone that works in corporate America and went to business school, I appreciate non-trap muzik), I thought AG was just a better overall album. More than anything, he sounded vibrant & fresh, probably because, as he said, that film took him back to that time period in his life. KC – to me – sounded a bit lazy, especially on the 2nd half of the album (minus “Dig A Hole”).

    But overall you’re right – people will hate for no other reason than to do it.

  • http://www.jamal7mile.blogspot.com Jamal7Mile

    Good post, C.

    I don’t consider myself a hater of any one rapper. I step back and look at the overall current picture of Hip-Hop (not just Hip-Hop music) and smh at what I see – and hear and read. Although I think the picture is improving in 2010, I couldn’t say the same a few years back. I miss scratching on albums (using vinyl), B-Boys breakdancing on stage/videos, real freestyles (real freestyles aren’t written young’uns, what’s hard to understand about that?), positive movements and a host of other things.

    I miss Hip-Hop Culture being a more balanced Culture than what it is today. Like all cultures, there are positives and negatives. Creative and boring. Authentic and fake. Ground-breaking and run-of-the-mill. Hip-Hop has always had those elements. Once upon a time, I was able to enjoy what I wanted to enjoy from those elements (to my heart’s desire) and ignore what didn’t appeal to me.


    Hypothetically, if the unappealing becomes dominant in the Culture and I raise an eyebrow or two, does that make me a hater? I mean, there are some things in Hip-Hop that I can ignore. And then there are some real TURDS being shoved in my ears from what used to be my favorite Hip-Hop radio stations and tv channels (on repeat). And when a knowledgeable fan or Hip-Hop vet tries to suggest a better route we get called an old-ass hater. So what’s a brother to do??? If I had the means/power to refocus things I’d do just that. Truth is, I ain’t shit but a commenter on a website. Again, what’s a brother to do???

    Oh yeah, there’s no envy or jealousy here. IMO it’s just a constructive observation.

    Again, good post!

  • DV8

    “If I dont like it, I dont like it, doesnt mean that I hate” – Common

    Minaj is wack son period. I cant get into her. I congratulate her on all she has (coughs) achieved thus far. Happy shes doin it movin and all but she aint fuckin with Lil Kim, Jean Grae, Rah Digga, Lauryn Hill (if she was to ever come back), or Lady of Rage.

    and co-sign J7M’s whole comment.

    I think everybody has a little hate in them. There is always something/ someone that somebody hates.
    For instance I HATE WHAT HAS BECOME POPULAR IN HIPHOP. The majority of whats pumped out on T.V. and radio nowadays is garbage. period.

  • Worley

    You’re going in the right direction with this article but it presents a false dichotomy between hate and honest critique. Sometimes a person’s honest critique can be misconstrued as hate. As a matter of fact, I have noticed that labeling someone a hater is a cheap and reliable means of foreclosing a conversation and making honest critique almost impossible, no matter how insightful the critique. The logic pretty much goes: you’re a hater if you don’t support me. Noooo. Could it be that whatever you do is wack? You’re just a fuck!ng clown whose work is without merit. No confusion or admiration involved. Call that hating if you want.

    • DV8


      • http://www.bboycult.com $yk

        ^^^ +1

        • http://www.emcdl.com EmCDL

          ^^^^ +3

  • Hussle’s Way

    how about FUCK YOUR ARTICLE son???

    Call me a hater! POW!

  • AZ40

    The problem with this is that hip hop is such a bandwagon culture if a small group of people like something and you don’t agree or you dislike it you’re perceive as a “hater”. Nobody wants to be objective in hip hop or go against the grain, so to speak, sometimes I’d just like to avoid the niggerdom that comes with some of these conversations about rap artist and their music

  • Deadly MIME

    ya kno i agree to a certain extent. Tha God was saying about being a cultural Critic is someone giving an honest opinion when a hater is someone that disses people and have nothing good to say. When actually, its not always the case. A person that has a cultural opinion about someone it depends on who the person is. I’m one of those people and I’m very strict and harsh about my comments because I care so much about this so called culture now called hip-hop. A hater is everyone in existance. Just because someone says fuck nicki or fuck wayne or fuck gucci doesnt meam they hate them because the person is one at their level. See when people say they hate people like that they arent in envy they actually hate them as an individual. Besides its America and hip-hop has always had its critics. Like I tell to other people if you cant handle haters and critics then you shouldnt be in hip-hop. cause wheather your that dude on the block making hood music or a brother making classic hip-hop records someone is going to judge. you cant escape it.

  • DaColdest

    This post coming from the Notorious Lil Wayne hater? Seems a little odd…

    Well I hope this has helped you get past hating on Weezy because you was doing that for a while… and Drake

  • El Tico Loco

    Helping the author make his point more clear.

  • The187Worm


    • http://www.myspace.com/slotchmusic ms_spittuh

      To 187Worm: I guess we’re both haters because I can’t stand them niggas you just listed either! I rather be a hater and hate bullshit that dumbs down the youth than to be a kissass…fuck that shit…and my mama a hater too. Every time my mama see Nicki on tv she says “Ol’ bitch just nasty ol’ goat” lol! Excuse her she was born in 1948… ;-) Thats mama ms_spittuh for ya!

  • El Tico Loco

    Nobody wants to be objective in hip hop or go against the grain
    Not anymore and that’s what’s wrong, then people are quick to say that you’re hating when you have standards, they’ll say that music has evolved into what is now, no is not evolving is degenerating getting watered the fuck down, and the people that are noticing get called haters. You mean to tell me that we go from 1st week plat lyricists to 3 weeks to go gold ABC 123 rapping ass niggas is an evolution? Keep drinking that Koolaid.

  • geico lizard

    The powerball is 260 million for tonight so I dont wont have time to hate on anybody after I win that.

  • Brooklyn

    there are over six billion people on the face of the earth, we’re not bound to like all of them, ergo, we’re all haters. it has little to do with envy or admiration, sometimes you just don’t like a motherfucker. if i have nothing positive to say about a person, that may just be because that person has no positive qualities that i can see. “hater” and it’s many variants has become as overused and obselete as “swag” and it’s many variants. it’s just an excuse for verbally illiterate people to defend their talentless idols.

  • ff1one@yahoo.com

    good write and best bloggers. Givem something else to hate about.

  • http://www.bboycult.com $yk

    Student Enrollment #6

    Why does the devil keep our people illiterate?

    So that he can use them for a tool, and also a slave. He keeps them blind to themselves so that he can master them. Illiterate means ignorant.

  • Escobar9300

    Paging Ronnie Mexico, Paging Ronnie Mexico. XXL Blog section is in critical condition. Mr. Mexico, please come to the ER as soon as possible.

    • Axeo

      Go to his website ron mexico city and hear his blogtalkradio pieces he rips this guy apart.

      He basicly said how can someone be the former sidekick of the biggest hater in the world Wendy Williams and talk about not wanting to be labeled a hater or say what is and what is not hating.

  • 3rd degree

    Many of you missed the point. What the author is stating is that one is a hater not becuse one offers a critique, but because the critique is based on envy. I dont enjoy nascar, I dont say fuck nascar, bitch ass drivers! Nor do I enjoy soulja bo… so i simply dont listen. Hip hoppers need to grow up- remember… dont knock the hustle ( if its legal…)remember opinions need not be hateful…ie the term hater….

  • Jaydc

    I can agree with some points but not everything.just because someone says of say nikki minaj doesnt make someone envious of her,they just really do they think she is wack.Thats called an opinion.

  • Jaydc

    I mean,I guess everybody is actually just envious of eli porter.


    Your first two posts were my fav xxl guest blogs.

    I didn’t like this one so much.


    First two blogs***

  • ff1one@yahoo.com

    I had to read this blog again. I was busy at work, so i glanced through it earlier. For Charlamange (one of the biggest haters on radio) to admit he use to hate is big. What is even bigger is the fact that he has grown. In addition, the jayz drop goes hand in hand with his growth. Jayz is the most successful rapper EVER. He is a modern day success story in our day and age. He has way more supporters than haters, but his haters draw from delusion, jealous, envy, HATE. They are the worst type. They are the type that make you look at them with that WHAT face. They are the type that would vote republican just because. Just on the Nas v Jayz tip, look at how Nas handles his ladies vs how Jayz does. Compare their careers. You can say Nas is a better Lyricist. Thats true. Hell, Reggie Miller has a better J than MJ. Barkely a better Rebounder, but MJ is still and will be always the most successful baller. Can you really seriously say Clyde The Glyde is better? Only a hater would take it there.

    • http://www.bboycult.com $yk

      Yo f squared can u elaborate on that? Thanx.

  • Anonymous


    Not one person this planet can say they’ve never “hated” on something in their lifetime,you might not be aware of your so called “hating” ways but that’s life.

    You can’t have an opinion these days without being called a “hater”.Life goes on.Stop crying about it!!

  • Who cares?


    Not one person this planet can say they’ve never “hated” on something in their lifetime,you might not be aware of your so called “hating” ways but that’s life.

    You can’t have an opinion these days without being called a “hater”.Life goes on.Stop crying about it!!

  • Who cares?

    I’ll probably be called a “hater” for my last comment. If someone doesn’t like Nicki Minaji “can’t rap for shit” so what? That makes them envious & jealous now? Hell no, it just means they don’t thinl she can rap for shit.


  • The Spaniard

    I hate this silly ass post, a lot.

  • Jhon da Analyst

    I’m not a hater, just a “Strong Disliker”!

  • ff1one@yahoo.com

    I had to listen to Kingdom Come and American Gangsta again. They are two different albums. Same Jay. I think American Gangsta was better. He didn’t go back on the streets, but he did kick more street tales and had better flows and more passion for the game. Kingdom Come was like a Warm Up.

    As i watch the Lakers Game. I’ll say the Lakers have some of the biggest haters. Too elaborate, People hate the lakers just because they are winners. They have a rich tradition of winning. Ya, I dislike Kobe for snitchin on Shaq and breaking man code #65, but you have to respect his game.

    Likewise, Jayz has been winning. You can break Jayz’s career down into acts. Some people only appreciate Reasonable Doubt. They don’t understand the My liftime Era. If jay was shot or walked away after Reasonable doubt everyone would be like Jay is the greatest. Truth be told, nobody really appreciated that album until later. Because he’s still in the game and still on the top. You won’t appreciate him till he is gone.

    People who don’t ride with jay gotta rep boston. they are anti Jay. they are going to hate on him just because. I mean, you have to hate on him because he’s winning or you’ll just help him win.

    what makes jayz the best is that he’s not great at one thing, but he’s good at all things. That balance to kick something for the streets, burbs, clubs, “secret societies” lol smh and etc. his lyrics. his punches. his flows. his celeb status. his trend setting ability. Dude fills a stat sheet.

    too add, nas is without a doubt a better lyricist. The best. I’m trying to get nas’s lyrics on a college syllabus because they are that dope. However, nas chooses wack beats, has messed up with two crazy women, and made some bad buisness moves. That alone kept nas out of jayz postion. You can name atleast five other rappers aka ball players aka teams that could be in that postion. But there is only one winner.

    • http://www.bboycult.com $yk

      I can understand how dudes sometimes are cool with winning, and not really interested in winning big, because they won anyway, and that’s all that matters. They can explore life and the land, which is what a lot of wealthy people do when the cake is enough to feed a couple of generations.

      Then you have wealthy people who don’t stop working until there’s blockage in the aorta. They’ve been won, some cases 5 times over, and “Puffy It (can’t stop wont stop)”.

      Depending on your individual moral code it will determine which path you will take when it comes to “winning”, or wanting to win.

  • ff1one@yahoo.com

    I agree. With puffy, i really don’t think puffy has a soul. Plus, he doesn’t have the talent. I can’t say the same for jayz tho. Take the money and wealth away. just look at this lyrics and jayz is pretty tight. He may not be the best but just on pure lyrics he is pretty good. “we” want jay to be a pure emcee tho. “we” want him to be more lyrical and less buisness savy. the glitz and glam take away from his lyrics.

  • Notorious AGC

    oooh this column was straight FIRE, totally aimed @ Bol (nas vs Jayz of the Blog world) ??
    LOL im tryin to start some bloggin beef.

    jk, this was a nice ass post.100 percent COSIGN

  • geico lizard

    C tha G you and Lil Duval should do those hood reports every week. They are the funniest thing on WSHH. That part about Trey Songz is most likely to catch an STD from a groupie was hilarious. Trey probably already has 3 or 4 diseases as wild as that nigga is.

  • ri067953

    If you say that somebody is wack without thowing in some sort of niceties, then you are automatically a hater? Naw…I don’t think so. If somebody sincerly thinks that a rapper is wack and is biting somebody’s style, then they have the right to say so. This is not hating my friends, in fact, many of the beefs (KRS-One and MC Shan) were a product of this kind of critique. If anything, if you call somebody a hater, then you must be insecure about the spot you are holding. I know that I don’t really care what anbody else says about me…I’m going to continue to do what I gotta do regardless. The fact that you even acknowledge them makes you look like you’re losing.

  • megulito

    I think his idea wasnt to open the dialog about what you dont like and why. i think he leaned heavy on the jay reference but he made his point. i cant undertsand all this oh hate is natural every one hates i cant get with that. i feel like there are things we dont like and all nthat but we should be able to sit down and list what they are and how they can be improved. to be honest i hate a lot about what has happened to the rap game i think soulja boy type of rap has ruined the genre but that would be a hater version what i really think is that he has a lot of influence and has apparently very catchy tune however i find his lyrical content lacking. I find wack flocka flame to be in the same or similar category where i personally cant see the appeal i dont wish death on him but id like to see that hes earning all the money hes making by putting out lyrically diverse, interesting and thoughtful music akin the art form rap is. all that shit is short for i hate them niggas but i think that is what c was getting at lets not just say we hate them niggas lets give so whys and hows

  • Otto

    This blog is G.O.A.T.

  • sway-z

    On point as usual. You niggas need to understand that just because you don’t like something doesn’t make you a hater. I was fucking with the Carter II, I just don’t rock with Wayne’s new shit, that’s my opinion, but nowadays, if you don’t love something, you get labeled a hater, niggas need to check they definitions:

    1) Saying you don’t like Jay-z, Nas, Eminem or Lil Wayne is your opinion

    2) Saying those niggas can’t rap AT ALL is just hatred

  • Phareedah