The one that’s a writer

Every now and again I’ll find myself being reminded that not everyone else is as jaded as I am about the media. A lot of people are really impressed by that sort of thing. That’s probably why there is such a thing as XXL in the first place. Who’d a thunk it?

The other day, I was at Christmas at my cousin’s house, and this one cousin of mine comes up to me all like, “Dude, I’ve got this artist I need you to check out.” As if I’m Diddy or somebody. Then it occurred to me: Oh yeah, that’s right. When I’m not working like a Hebrew slave at the BGM (which seems like more often than not these days), I do sorta kinda work for a rap magazine.

Then it also occurred to me that the last time I’d seen this guy was at this birthday party that took place a couple of years ago, but seems like a good 10 years ago. I remember, it was the same day that Lupe Fiasco was invited to guest blog on this site. It was either on or around 9/11, appropriately enough. (If I’m not mistaken, my cousin’s birthday is on 9/11.) This was in my first year of blogging for this site. I’m coming up on the rough side of the mountain on the end of my third.

Brendan, one of the many people now who’ve been in charge of this site, hit me on my cell that day, and I lied to him and told him I was at work. More often than not back in 2006, I would be pulling the day shift during the week at the BGM. I would wake up at something ridonkulous like 4:30 in the morning and come up with a post, so I could be at work by 7. You can tell I was in my early days of “professional blogging,” and hence somewhat concerned with making a name for myself. There’s no way in hell I’d do anything like that now.

If people aren’t that impressed with me… well, what can I say? I’m just not a very impressive person. That’s how I got into blogging in the first place.

Anyhoo, the reason I didn’t want him to know I was at work was because I was having lunch at a Chinese buffet, and I didn’t need too many people knowing I’ll occasionally have lunch at a Chinese buffet. Again, this is one of those things that just doesn’t bother me as much at the ripe old age of 27. For what it’s worth, if it’s one of these shitty buffets where there’s no seafood or anything, you’re kinda better off going during the day anyway. You save two bucks – it’s just, you gotta have a system that’s capable of going six plates deep of mysterious looking deep fried meat at 11:00 in the morning.

Brendan called me up talking about how he invited Lupe to do a guest blog, and the first post was all going off on me, and that if I wanted to, I could probably mount some sort of response. If you were around back in those days, you might remember that shit. He called me the dreaded n-word and threatened to jump off in my ass. Nullus. But I don’t want to get off topic here. So I had a decision to make: Either head home and see what this crazy Muslim sack of shit said about me, or finish what I came to do at this buffet and then go read it. Of course, I chose the latter.

Then, later on that day, my mom called me and asked if I wanted to go to the Cheesecake Factory for my cousin’s birthday. It sucked, because I had already been to the Chinese buffet that day, and if I’m gonna spend $8 on a meal, I’m gonna try to make sure I don’t have to buy any more food that day. And you know how they do at the Cheescake Factory. Some of that shit’s just wrong, even by Bol standards. But if you’ve been reading my shit for any amount of time, you know I’m not about to turn down any free Cheesecake Factory just because I went hard at the Chinese buffet a few hours earlier. Fuck that noise, Jack.

I can’t remember whether this guy was already reading my work for this site at that point, or if I mentioned to him that night that I’d recently begun blogging for XXL. But as a writer, i.e. a petty motherfucker, of course that sort of thing is gonna be important to me. Don’t even let a broad tell me she reads my shit. Which, I’ll have you you know, not only happens more often than you’d think, but it’s almost always at least reasonably attractive women. I figure it’s because I spend so much time dogging ugly broads that my female audience has mostly been reduced to women with fairly high self-esteem. If that really is true, it lets me know that the important work that I do here hasn’t been all for naught.

At any rate, there’s hardly anyone I deal with on a personal level now who isn’t aware of the work I do on the Internets, and now also in the print version of XXL. For example, at this other party I was at the other day, people kept coming up to like, “You’re the one that’s the writer, right?” A few people, none of which fit the XXL demographic (i.e. children and inmates), even came up to me like, “I heard they’re letting you write for the magazine now.” Then my parents had actually bought a copy of the issue with Fiddy on the cover and had it sitting out on the coffee table. (My college diploma, meanwhile? Probably water logged in a box somewhere.) So now pretty much everyone they know has experienced me chuckling at the fact that Eli Porter is a tard, and Mos Def’s wife is a hoo-er, and so on and so forth.

Which is a trip. Of course, it’s occurred to me the sheer reach of my words over the Internets. But I never really think about other people reading my shit when I’m writing it – because it’s just me down in my mom’s basement, getting it in. If I did, I might have to change my whole style up. You know how important it is to me what other people think about me. I can’t have people thinking I “make fun of retarded kids,” or that I’m “obsessed with pr0nography,” or anything like that. Fortunately, everyone who actually stood there and read my column in front of me, or claimed that they’d already read it, pretended to like it, despite the fact that it’s not really that good.

It just goes to show the importance of being polite.

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  • Jova

    Bol….Cheesecake Factory is bomb!! At least out here in Cali. I dont know what kind of trash they give out there in St. Lou. U gotta try the Spicy Tuna Tempura Roll…very good!

  • tony grand$

    I heard about the Lupe fiasco (pun intended). But check this bruh, ur doing what a lot of ppl wish they could, juice. Keep it true to self, all else falls in place.

    Eventually, u’ll get outta ur moms basement, I have faith in u. One day u’ll b gettin rich white widows pregnant & drivin a helicopter to work. Who knows, u might fuck around & be as big as Lenny Bruce.





  • eddiesixes

    i had that same epiphany when i started writing stand up, do i really want my mother’s suspicions of the awful person i grew up to be publicly admitted to get some laughs? i came to the conclusion my morals are fucked enough these days that’s the last of my worries.

  • geico lizard

    “Don’t even let a broad tell me she reads my shit. Which, I’ll have you you know, not only happens more often than you’d think, but it’s almost always at least reasonably attractive women.” OK Bol the million dollar question is have you gotten any of those women to put their cankles up on your shoulders one night? If they look decent you should have tried to ask a few of them out.


    Grandma’s basement is much more comfortable. She feeds you more often and never minds when the buddha smell wafts upward into the kitchen through the floor vents. Plus she irons your draws.

    Ahh, the good old days of no rent and free food.

  • amar

    congrats bol, but idunno why u’d be ashamed of chinese mystery meat. It’s always fun figuring out where the hell the ginger is in the ginger chicken, or why the lemon chicken has no lemon sauce on it, thus making it one oversized chicken nugget.

    but anywya, i figured out what ti stands for, but help me out, wtf is bgm?

    • Biz

      You gotta add that sticky, yellow cum sauce the keep in the corner. That’s the lemon sauce right there.

  • Seattle Slim

    Bol, you piss me the phuck off sometimes but you’re one of my favorite bloggers, and I’m a chick. I’m not white though, so you probably wouldn’t find me attractive. I know you like Becky and Kristen and shit. I’ll still read your shit though. You’re good.

  • Brahsef

    I kinda feel sad that I completely remember that spat between you and Lupe. Like, maybe I should stop reading this website haha.

  • thoreauly77

    lupe = dog-tail. bol = unnecessary self-degradation. fuck the PR disses. this shit has been funny for a long time. now write about some hip hop dude.

    and bgm = BIG GHEY MART aka big k-m**t

  • og bobby j

    word to the chinese buffet. No lie, if they aint right with bringing them crab legs out…i will straight short the bill. Them lil chinos dont want no drama.

    I had cheesecake factory the other day…and those buffalo blast joints are what it is. Trust.

    Anyway…to all the snitches and dickriders….beat some stank pussy for the 09 and tell em OG sent ya.


    A few people, none of which fit the XXL demographic (i.e. children and inmates), even came up to me like, “I heard they’re letting you write for the magazine now.”


    you’ve come a long way since you reviewed ‘on my way to church’

  • P-Matik

    I’ve been reading your main site for some years now and this column since you started it. I’ve seen Bun B and Lupe try to jump off in your a** and DJ Drama have that meltdown on here that time (LOL). Keep doing your thing.

    One thing I hate about hip-hop these days is everyone being politically correct and scared to tell the truth about real issues. Camron and Jim Jones talking slick about each other doesn’t count. It wasn’t like that back in the day. You’re this generation’s Reginald C. Dennis (if you remember who he was/is.)