Who knows how it works in the South, but where I went to school, in the corn fields of Northeast Missouri, it was understood that if you banged a chick who was drunk you were taking your chances. It might seem worth it at the time (obviously!), but if she woke up the next day and realized how much of a loser you are, you’d be facing a date rape charge.
It didn’t matter whether or not she consented at the time or even if she spread her legs and damn near shoved your joint up in her without your consent (I know a guy who had this happen to him). Like one of R. Kelly’s girlfriends, a broad who’s drunk enough is considered legally incapable of offering her consent, regardless of how much she may seem to be begging for it.
I bring this up because I’m sure you’ve all heard the news about Terrance “DJ Bay Bay” Stewart, the guy who inspired Hurricane Chris to write that song “A Bay Bay,” which could very well be the most popular rap song in the country right now. (Take some time to reflect on that.) He was arrested the other day and charged with raping a chick who was found lying unconscious around 4 a.m. at the club where he DJs.
To tell you the truth, I wasn’t even aware that A Bay Bay was an actual guy until just now, but of course I find it hilarious that he’s being charged with a sex crime at the same time that his eponymous megahit is reaching critical mass. Imagine if that song “Good” by Better than Ezra was secretly about that one Kennedy brother that liked to rape people. It may have been too much for my 13 year-old brain to handle!
That said, in a case like this I think it’s important to note that the guy is innocent until proven guilty. And even then he might still be innocent. He’s just gonna have to go to jail for a while. Those of us old enough to know why the Boston season of the Real World was the best one evar (new season starting tonight!) know it’s far too easy for a guy, let alone a black guy, to be painted as a rapist over some shit that probably never happened in the first place.
Either way, who wants to bet how long it takes for one of these anti-hip-hop beeyotches to try to draw some sort of connection between the alleged culture of misogyny in hip-hop and what’s obviously just an example of some yokel trying to capitalize on his 15 minutes of fame? I mean, how often do you have an example of the most popular rap song in the country being named after an alleged rapist, in the same year that hip-hop is coming under fire for it’s alleged misogyny?
And if you notice, these anti-hip-hop broads tend to be pretty short on real examples of the detrimental effect misogyny in hip-hop has had on black women. Damon Dash has been charged with rape once or twice, but I’ve yet to see him go to jail. (Though it could be because he commits his crimes down in Brazil, where one hand washes the other.) Before that, you’d probably have to go back to the incident that caused Rev Run to find Jesus, and I’m not even sure what happened in that case.
To tell you the truth, I’m not that crazy about the song “A Bay Bay” anyway (the jury’s still out on the man himself); I’d be lying if I said it’d hurt my feelings if it was never played on the radio again, because the McCarthyite ant-hip-hop community tried to argue that it celebrates a known rapist. But at the same time, I can’t help but be bothered by the idea of yet another one of our brothers being brought low by some scandalous beeyotch. So I guess you could say I’m pretty conflicted on this one!