The comedian Greg Giraldo has a great bit about that guy Brian Nichols who went ape shit in a court room down in Atlanta. He managed to steal a gun from a court officer, pistol whipped a buncha people, murdered a couple more people, then held a woman hostage for about seven hours. But then the woman made him breakfast and he let her go.

The message there, according to Greg Giraldo: "It wouldn't kill you girls to learn your way around the kitchen."

Similarly, I wonder if it wouldn't kill black women to make themselves more likable both in terms of their appearance and their attitudes. And I only say this because important members of the black community such as Oprah and Russell Simmons have been calling for dialogue between black women and the hip-hop community, and I think dialogue has to be a two-way street.

You 'bags know I live to disagree with Oprah Winfrey, but in this case I have to agree with her about a lot of things. For example, I've been complaining for years that hip-hop is turning into the modern day equivalent of a minstrel show. Not to turn this into a regional thing, but is it any wonder that all this is taking place during a time in which hip-hop radio is overrun with god-awful southern rap?

But, then (and this is the part where the whole two-way street comes in), would this even be nearly as much of an issue if there wasn't such a state of romantic disfunction in the black community? As the incident with the crazed chinaman down in Virginia proved, not having anyone to make love to during the even can cause a person to lash out, and I wonder if that isn't the case here as well.

The thing about stereotypes that makes them particularly hurtful is that there's usually an element of truth to them; and the truth of the matter is that black women aren't exactly the most lovable group of people. I mean, we can go back and forth with the name calling and what have you, but it's not like they became the least married group of people in this country by choice.

Men lie, and nappy headed hoes lie, but the numbers don't, people.

Like I said, I tend to agree with Oprah, Rush, et al. that something needs to be done about cleaning up the airwaves, but I wonder if the airwaves wouldn't have gotten so filthy in the first place if black men had a better overall opinion of black women. If that's the case, and I think it is, then we all might need to take a look in the mirror.