Why does hip-hop hate black women?

The comedian Greg Giraldo has a great bit about that guy Brian Nichols who went ape shit in a court room down in Atlanta. He managed to steal a gun from a court officer, pistol whipped a buncha people, murdered a couple more people, then held a woman hostage for about seven hours. But then the woman made him breakfast and he let her go.

The message there, according to Greg Giraldo: “It wouldn’t kill you girls to learn your way around the kitchen.”

Similarly, I wonder if it wouldn’t kill black women to make themselves more likable both in terms of their appearance and their attitudes. And I only say this because important members of the black community such as Oprah and Russell Simmons have been calling for dialogue between black women and the hip-hop community, and I think dialogue has to be a two-way street.

You ‘bags know I live to disagree with Oprah Winfrey, but in this case I have to agree with her about a lot of things. For example, I’ve been complaining for years that hip-hop is turning into the modern day equivalent of a minstrel show. Not to turn this into a regional thing, but is it any wonder that all this is taking place during a time in which hip-hop radio is overrun with god-awful southern rap?

But, then (and this is the part where the whole two-way street comes in), would this even be nearly as much of an issue if there wasn’t such a state of romantic disfunction in the black community? As the incident with the crazed chinaman down in Virginia proved, not having anyone to make love to during the even can cause a person to lash out, and I wonder if that isn’t the case here as well.

The thing about stereotypes that makes them particularly hurtful is that there’s usually an element of truth to them; and the truth of the matter is that black women aren’t exactly the most lovable group of people. I mean, we can go back and forth with the name calling and what have you, but it’s not like they became the least married group of people in this country by choice.

Men lie, and nappy headed hoes lie, but the numbers don’t, people.

Like I said, I tend to agree with Oprah, Rush, et al. that something needs to be done about cleaning up the airwaves, but I wonder if the airwaves wouldn’t have gotten so filthy in the first place if black men had a better overall opinion of black women. If that’s the case, and I think it is, then we all might need to take a look in the mirror.

  • http://blog.myspace.com/bloggindre dc36

    Everybody is to blame

  • http://hmblog.wordpress.com Reecie

    “the truth of the matter is that black women aren’t exactly the most lovable group of people.”

    Wooooooooooow! I’m amazed by how overwhelming ignorant you are and how you just don’t even seem to see a problem with it. If we aren’t the most lovable group, it’s because self-hatred in the black community, particularly with black men, such as yourself runs rampant.

    To not love black women is to not love blackness. Black women are the mothers of the black nation, and all we get is a kick in the ass from thankless black men. We get called bitches and hoes, disrespected, denigrated, and dehumanized all for the sake of entertainment.

    Black women are loving and nurturing…if you don’t see that then that speaks volumes about your character not ours.

    Please excuse me while I go throw up.

    • Doobie

      I know this is way late but I’m just now reading this and I just *have* to respond to Reecie.

      “If we aren’t the most lovable group, it’s because self-hatred in the black community, particularly with black men, such as yourself runs rampant.”

      I think you may have a point about self-hatred in the black community, but particularly with black men? I think black women are the ones the lions share of the self-hatred, which is why so many of them won’t give a black man the time of day unless he’s some emotionally unavailable, pimped out gangsta thug who treats em like shit. I had one cousin who used to work at the state prison, and some of the finest women that he had ever seen were lined up around the building to see and meet inmates. I had another cousin who met his wife while doing a ten year bid in the state prison. The women in both instances were overwhelmingly black. The same black women reject good hearted hard-working black men on a daily basis because they are “too nice” or because their rap sheet isn’t long enough. Yet you think black men are the ones with the “self-hatred”?

      “To not love black women is to not love blackness. Black women are the mothers of the black nation, and all we get is a kick in the ass from thankless black men. We get called bitches and hoes, disrespected, denigrated, and dehumanized all for the sake of entertainment. “

      This is complete bullshit on so many levels, I don’t even know where to begin. First of all, I want to know if this same standard applies to black men, because I’ve met a lot of black women who have no love for black men. I’ve met black women that only mess with white men, and even more black women who won’t deal with a man unless he’s doing dirt in the streets; a black women who falls into either group has no love for black men as far as I’m concerned. Why don’t you get after black women about that “kick in the ass” that you mentioned? Black women are some of the biggest supporters of rappers who call women bitches and hoes. The most illuminating moment on that BET hip-hop special was when Nelly said that people don’t give women enough credit for knowing that when they talk about bitches and hoes, they aren’t talking about THEM, but are actually talking about OTHER women (the women sitting immediately to left and right but not them), and all the (black) women in the audience clapped, as if to say, “see, now live our niggas alone and let em keep talking about these bitches and hoes”. And as far as the disrespected, denigrated and dehumanized thing, I know that it doesn’t fit your agenda, but a lot black women like and will only deal with a man who treats them that way, why do you think so many women love pimps, gangstas, thughs, roughnecks etc? If men who treated women that way stopped getting all the ‘tang, men would stop treating women that way.

      “Black women are loving and nurturing…if you don’t see that then that speaks volumes about your character not ours.”

      First of all, how can you even make a blanket generalization like that? I’ve met plenty of black women who are truly loving and nurturing, and plenty of black women who tell their kids to shut the fuck up and go back into their rooms so they can get the G ran on them by the five niggas that they’ve invited over to the house. Some black women (just like with EVERY other racial/gender group) are selfish, shallow, cold and callous assholes, and if you and other black women with a similar agenda don’t see that, then you’ll just continue to look lost and confused to those of us who know the real reality on the ground.

      • C. Hop

        Let the church say amen..

  • smog

    I think black women are the lease married becuase they are the best at being self dependent, cuase they need to be, cuase dudes be wrightin crazy articles like this. Plus they dont believe they need to be lovin some dude all the time to be ok.
    Finally how is your black mom, does she need to be more lovable?

  • http://blogs.hiphopdx.com/meka Meka Soul

    incredibly deep.

  • http://straightoutleodis.blogspot.com Analogue

    “We all need to take a look in the mirror”

    Bol, that’s actually a pretty balanced comment coming from you… you normally just have a go at the women, innit?

  • http://www.xxlmag.com/?cat=29 noz

    “not to turn this into a regional thing, but ‘regional thing’”

  • http://www.first.com First

    As a white male who finds black women very attractive, I have to agree with this post. I’m good looking (nullus), am very paid, and have a lot to offer. However, whenever I even come remotely close to approaching a fine black woman, I get treated like a piece of shit. Maybe I’ve been trying to talk to the wrong ones, but what the fuck? Yes, women of all races can be bitches, but I agree with Bol’s theory that numbers don’t lie. It wouldn’t hurt to be a little more polite.

  • Dr Flav

    “I wonder if it wouldn’t kill black women to make themselves more likable both in terms of their appearance and their attitudes” Are the pickings for you that bad in your area and I know you see white girls that are just as bad “For example, I’ve been complaining for years that hip-hop is turning into the modern day equivalent of a minstrel show. Not to turn this into a regional thing, but is it any wonder that all this is taking place during a time in which hip-hop radio is overrun with god-awful southern rap?” Blanketed southern rap sterotype, CHECK!
    ” As the incident with the crazed chinaman down in Virginia proved, not having anyone to make love to during the even can cause a person to lash out, and I wonder if that isn’t the case here as well.” Dude was Korean, and as far as the end of your quote, I dont know, you are familiar with that situation, why dont you tell us. “and the truth of the matter is that black women aren’t exactly the most lovable group of people. I mean, we can go back and forth with the name calling and what have you, but it’s not like they became the least married group of people in this country by choice.” Wow sistas have really dogged you out, huh homey? I know a lot of great women that are quite pleasant and caring, being unmarried is not equivalent to being unloved.

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol

    >I think black women are the lease married becuase they are the best at being self dependent

    *gives up on life*

  • Fernando

    “they are the best at being self dependant”

    ^^^^^^^^^^

    I feel dumber just for reading this. That seems like a nicer way to say that they are the best at not being marriage material and are good places to drop of jizz.

    You could also say they are the best at getting AIDS too.

  • http://www.akirathedon.com AK DONOVAN

    Mister FIRST: maybe you ought to consider some history, and get over your cracka ass self. And why do you need a “nullus” after “I’m good looking”? Have you no self worth?

    Bol, given that we, as a people, have a role increating our own reality, does it not make sense that if you call someone a ho for long enough, they’re might just turn into one?

    Words have power, innit.

    @!

  • Fernando

    First:

    Dont worry about it. You dont need that kind of drama. They need a strong brotha to take care of em until they get pregnant. Then they can go it alone because they are “the best at being self dependant”

  • http://www.myspace.com/sinistahmoneybagz Sinistah aka Sin Piff

    i wouldn’t say hip-hop hates women, i would say it’s more of a personal perception about who we callin ho’s or whateva, and why we do it! Not all females are “ho’s” and at the same time all females don’t carry themselves as respectable women on da flip side of the coin either.

    I was watchin entourage da other night and da homie Turtle and Drama said the word “bitches” in reference to snaggin a stray broad to smash while Vince and “E” was goin on vacation with their “str8-haired ho’s” of the moment……..

  • these posts are racist

    BOL-

    Stereotypes are despised by critical thinking people because it takes a certain behavior/phenomonon etc., attributes this behavior/phenomonon to a group of people (i.e. “black women”) which is always overreaching and innaccurate and fails to explain why it is true for those it does apply to. For example your comment about numbers not lying, re: black women’s low marriage rates. You give no real statisical data backed up by any real research…you simply say, well it must be because of “black women”. I don’t even know where to start, this is basic stuff man.

    Being a black woman is the most difficult group to be in in the US. They suffer and have suffered the brunt of all that is bad in this country. Its insecure men like you who would look at some of the black women that work in my law firm and who have advanced in a career dominated by white men and say “she’s got an attitude, etc.” simply because she doesn’t take your crap. And chalk it up as another example of black woman attitude. Then you’d go to a low income neighborhood and see a black woman behaving in a way that is a result of poverty, etc. and nothing to do with her blackness and chalk that up as black woman behavior.

    Do you understand, as a black man, that you can not attribute anything to a person’s skin color? You clown. You self hater.

  • Hip Hop since 79′

    “Similarly, I wonder if it wouldn’t kill black women to make themselves more likable both in terms of their appearance and their attitudes.”
    ^^^^^^
    BOL
    I hope you get to “bag” some “stinky pinky” real quick.

    BTW, who quotes comedian Greg Giraldo?

  • BklynBandette

    Forgive us, but we deal with too much REALNESS in the world to be running around all Suzy Sunshine all the time. We’ve had our hands full since day 1. When we were separated from y’all during slavery we were on our own. And trusting that our kids weren’t separated from us also, we had to tend to Them, Ol’ Massa and his brats, and everybody else-ALONE. Because of the conditions, y’all were unavailable to help us. Either you were sold away or you were whipped into a submissive state. And I believe that the situation you found yourselves in made you resentful. You were ill-equipped to protect or provide for us and; to add insult to injury, we did the damn thing on our own. You couldn’t lash out at Ol’ Massa (understandably for fear of being killed), so you took it out on us. And the mental ramifications of that realness still holds true to this day. Overall we DO love y’all, but y’all don’t make it easy either. Too many of us are still being beat down (Emotionally & Physically)by the brothers who have been beaten down by an oppressive system themselves. Some of y’all hate us for being “TOO Independent”. But if we take you up on your offer then we’re gold digging hoes. Can’t y’all see it’s designed that way? We are now hating the very thing we need for survival- EACH OTHER!
    As an African-American Woman I Know Who I am. And it’s because of that I know what I want in a Brother and WILL NOT settle for less. He ain’t gotta come to me with the materialistic trappings. But he must have a good heart, a sense of self, self-sufficiency, and a drive & Passion to excel in all he does. Brothers: Start setting a criterior for the type of women you want in your life. And stop basing everything on looks and booty.
    So I appreciate this post. Let’s get together and work it out. ANYWHERE! Laundromats, Coffee shops, diners, etc. I’m Game.

  • http://www.first.com First

    AK DONOVAN: What history should I consider? The history of me getting repeatedly turned down? That history has lead me to talk almost exclusively with non-black women. The nullus probably wasn’t necessary by the way, but you can never be too sure.

  • Fernando

    ahhhhh yes, TPAR.

    So nice to hear your excuses. What then, is the reason for nobody marrying black women? Racism? Poverty? Jobs?

    My theory is that since black men rarely stick around to father their kids much less get married, and they rarely mess with crackaz, that there is nobody left to wed the american black woman. And you know that nobody is desperate enough to mess with an Asian man given their noted “shortcomings” (x-tra Nullus)

  • The Spaniard

    I am black and I have only dated 1 woman that was not black my entire life. This is due to a matter of circumstance and not some grand plan or scheme. I don’t have all of these “black women” problems that, it seems, so many men are having. If women are rude to you then maybe, just maybe, you fucking suck or you need to buck up and keep campaigning for women that are in tune with your vibe. I have associates that belly ache all the time when we are out at events about “black women ain’t shit” or “these bitches are acting stuck up”. I usually turn to these chumps a say, man, shut your pussy ass up! Stop acting like a whiny trick and your outcome will be different. The funny thing is this behavior is universal with all of my buddies whether they be black, white, asian, indian, or whatever. There are quality women of all races and asshole women of all races. The reason the vibe from other races looks different from the outside is most likely due to a limited scope of experience. Get out of your usual circle and open your god damned eyes.

  • Dr Flav

    Dang my comment was bunched up. Im going to build on what Smog said since it was hard to understand, Smog is saying black women dont need to depend on a man to live or feel worthy. Smog also points out that some black men are psychologically damaged, while using some of Bol’s warped ideas as examples. Smog also points out that as a black person you probably have a black mother and if she didnt love you or was loveable, then sorry for you.

    “You could also say they are the best at getting AIDS too.”

    it should be noted that those same women have Fern near the top of thier list of former lovers.

  • Dr Flav

    “My theory is that since black men rarely stick around to father their kids much less get married, and they rarely mess with crackaz, that there is nobody left to wed the american black woman. And you know that nobody is desperate enough to mess with an Asian man given their noted “shortcomings” (x-tra Nullus)”

    Dude, my theory is that you are a loser and I bet it holds far more weight than yours, why dont you reveal your race so that we can throw negative sterotypes at yours as well.

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol

    TPAR-

    Why do you think black women are the least married group of people?

  • The Spaniard

    By the way, Fuck a marriage. If you take care of your children financially and emotionally, do not be deceitful and malicious in your relationships with women, give and expect respect, and stop acting like tricks you will turn out all right in the long run. I could not care less about marriage rates. If you want to be married that fine but get your personal shit in order first.

  • http://www.first.com First

    Maybe there’s a higher percentage of dykes?

  • Dr Flav

    Disproportionate number of black men in prison. Traditions of broken homes. Rate of failed marriages in America due to social and economic issues. False statistical information from narrowly conducted surveys to create a negative bottom line.

  • whitechoco

    We can only hope for more hip hop based off cornbread and candid yams!

  • Tha truth

    i love black women, nothin will make me change my mind. some of em are hoes, most of em are really eduacated and dont have time for someone that wont contribute nothin postive to their life spiritually and mentally. educated women want an educated man, point blank.

  • king blair

    black women don’t get married cuz they to busy talking back instead of cooking dinner

  • ced

    Hoes are not just black women. There are more WHITE hos than black hoes. A hoe ain’t just female. You do have male hoes too. Why do white america think the rappers just talking about black women who fit the description of a hoe. Hoes exist people and that is a fact. I have a daughter and she is not a hoe. She does not do the things that practing hoes do like sell kitty kat or do hoe activities.

  • http://www.myspace.com/sinistahmoneybagz Sinistah aka Sin Piff

    i love black women, i smashed a few multi-ethnic females, but neva one that was plain outside of race. It was nothing premeditated or thought out for me to say “oh i aint gonna fuck wit latina’s, or snow-bunnies” or any bullshit like dat, so after all the labeling and belittling is said and done, and the smoke clears, i personally have a tremendous admiration in terms of the potential overall beauty of black women in general. I can do bad 4 myself, i aint da nigga dats chasin white women in hopes of a financial come-up. I neva asked any of my ex’s for shit but to let me sleep in peace if i decided to let them keep me company after i got my smash-n-splash on.

    some of these dudes have been damn near programmed into this whole color-stigma shit where it’s “oh i don’t fuck wit dark-skinned chicks cause they ugly” or “i aint beat for light-skinned chicks cause they conceited.

    I got a big problem with that, i mean if it’s personal preference for reasons beyond popular stereotype, by all means stick to ya guns. In my stay here on earth, i can say i’ve met Darkskinned women with physical features that would put Beyonce to shame, and i have also met light-skinned women who are some of the most down to earth, and reality-based females to eva cross my lifeline.

    i mean i take offense to topics like this not for them being spoken, but because it’s being spoken out of truth. From da outside lookin in, meaning being anotha race, when i do get bored to the last extent and watch a music video, it’s full of black women shakin their ass and rubbin up on some dude who probably only got into music to get pussy to begin with. It’s funny cause i was baggin bad ass chicks when i had a bus-pass and not too much goin on for myself but a style and a smile.

    personally the foul shit i been thru in life could neva be to the minuscule level of a female with an attitude. actually that shit makes me laugh and hurt at the same time to see niggaz using that as a scapegoat to go interracial. Trust me, some black dudes really don’t fuck wit black women because they get intimidated by the strength and fury of a black women who got her priorities in order and knows what she wants in life and willing to get dat shit witout having a part-time profession and then stripping as da night gig.

    Do i fault rappers for using the term “ho”? Fuck nah, it’s been here b4 hip-hop. And in this game, u got plenty of females lookin to smoke weed for free and get into a dudes pockets just because that “ho” is probably the baddest chick he’d eva been wit and she was willing to fuck him to get that dough.

    My whole take on this is, if you don’t wanna be around “ho’s” why give them the chance, backwards ass clowns. I keep myself in the company of positive females, and those who aint so positive, i don’t try to save em in a “save-a-ho” manner, i try to give them some enlightenment and direction for i still believe in theres somebody for everybody and what doesn’t make me content, may just be the next dudes potential wifey one day.

  • smac

    My post is completely off the topic, but I was just at former Roc artist Rebel’s myspace page who works with Ski and Charlemagne (yes, “Jay-Z” ski and charlemagne) and he had a song where he claims to have started the whole diamond sign for Rocafella quote “what has a diamond got to do with a dynasty anyway?” he also includes the “Where I’m From” video from Streets is Watching where he throws up the sign as proof (you might remember some random dude throwing up the sign in the background) I’m not gonna include the link cos it will look like i’m posting some bullshit to advertise this dude, but if you google “myspace rebel skibeatz” it will be there

    he’s not bad either. and ski is claiming to produce tracks on Jay’s next album???

  • Dr Flav

    Damn It Sinistah, that was right on point homey!

  • http://junglemission.blogspot.com jimmy starburst

    TPAR:
    “Do you understand, as a black man, that you can not attribute anything to a person’s skin color?”

    does anyone else see the contradiction in this statement?

    all i know is this: you can’t trust a big butt and a smile, and AMERICAN black women, at least the ones i have lived with and loved dearly, can be VERY moody.

    as for rappers’ widespread disrespect of women, we need to consider a typical rapper’s life story – visions of Scarface aside. many of them are unattractive. and while some of them have probably lead a popular life before fame, many of them were probably the introverted/smart/self-concious kid in school who couldn’t get a chick worth looking at to talk to them for a minute.

    “back then hoes didn’t want me,
    now i’m hot the hoes all on me”

  • Fernando sucks dick every Tiueday and Thursday afternoons

    There are lots of sistas out there doing their thing. So this does not apply to them.

    On the flip side, there are lots of ducks running the streets. They have absolutely nothing to offer you, but they come at you like you owe them the world. In exchange for some ass, they think that they are entitled to a share of whatever you worked hard for.

    But that’s where they are wrong. I learned in college that women of all races like to fuck. So, pussy is not special. It’s a necessity, but just like any commodity, the more of it that’s available, the lower its value.

    So, I hate it when a lot of sistas walk around like their shit is gold. They act like they are the only ones at the market.

    I got fed up and started checking for women outside the race. I see that women of other races are willing to date without half the hassles, restrictions and expectations of a lot of sistas. Although, I am not looking for a wife, every relationship is an audition for marriage. More than anyone else, sistas tend to blow it.(No Cam’ron)

    All I’m saying is, I don’t hate the sistas, but a lot of them turn me off. Don’t ask me to pay your bills when all you offer me is some bills and some ass. White girls come with no bills and no ass, but they can sure suck a mean dick at the drop of a hat.

  • these posts are racist

    Jimmy Starburst:

    You’re post is so silly, but I’ll respond. There is no contradiction homey. Black people in America have a shared experience and have all seen in some form or another, racism. My point was, as a black person, you’ve seen the harm when white supramcy would push forth ideas that blacks were inferior, had certian inherent abilities, tendencies, etc. based solely on the color of their skin.

    Step your game up.

  • PHARO

    MEN ARE FIRST
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    WOMEN FOLLOW MEN
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    SO IF MOST BLACK MEN LIKE HOES,
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    .MOST BLACK WOMEN WILL BECOME HOES,
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    FOR EVERY DUMB ASS NIGGER
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    THERE’S A HOOD RAT HOE,
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    IF WE (BLACK MEN) LEAD THE WAY AND SET A NEW TREND
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    WOMEN WILL EVENTUALLY FOLLOW
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    NOMATTER WHAT YOU THINK…
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    THE TRUTH IS
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    WOMEN FOLLOW MEN….THAT’S NATURE

  • jonjon-23

    It all goes back to being trained correctly at home. I think the media in general has a hand in making blacks (men and women)the poster children for stupidity, criminal behavior, and everything that is wrong with America. At the same time blacks have succumbed to believing that we are ignorant and inferior. When you look at a lot of black families, they really usually consist of a young, untrained, uneducated female (that was never really raised to be successful herself) and a bunch of wild kids. The foundation of education and values are never instilled and as a result the kids grow up governing themselves largely by emotion and lust since they don’t get much discipline. I believe that’s why you see so many black men locked up and so many single black female parents with not much education or financial means. Corporate America exploits this by promoting self hating rap artists, making us believe we need the highest priced clothes,most expensive rims, and just general silly guidelines for our lives. These kids don’t know any better because they were never taught. All they know is whats cool. When they here a shithead rapper who dropped out of school in the 8th grade brag about prison, fucking and beating up ho’s, and drug pedaling they fall victim becuase they were never taught any real values-it’s all a cycle in my opinion. It all goes back to never recieving the proper training as a child and letting rappers “raise” kids. White corporate types don’t care about us disrespecting our women, especially if they can profit from it-which they are. The only way for this to change is for blacks to man-up and focus on things that matter, like education, family, and accomplishing things that require work and discipline. I think rap definitely is a reflection of where we are as a people on so many levels, and the only way we can reverse black women bashing is to instill values at home. Black men need to step it up as well as black women. I always looked at rap as a novelty and when I was younger it was funny to hear Too Short go hard on a “ho”, but I never really took it seriously or bought into it because my parents did a good job giving me core values. I realive now these kids really do believe in what these rappers are saying and want to do what they hear in the records. They don’t realize that same rapper is being exploited by a record label and most of what rappers are saying is largely fiction. I believe blacks are one of the smartest and hardest working races on the planet. I think blacks in America have become lazy and brainwashed as a whole.

  • http://www.myspace.com/petelastname1 Pete Lastname

    You are a cold-hearted snake.

  • GATE13

    You cant put women in groups no matter what their skin color is cos everyone is different.

    It all comes down to if the man likes the woman and vica versa.

    If you aint gettin much. You got no game.

    If you aint gettin any. Then you aint got charcter or game.

  • niggawitmoney

    I think black woman are very beautiful. Yea some have attitudes but all woman do. Bol your not married. Why is that huh? Maybe you should change your appearance and attitude. Isnt that the reason you arent married.

  • http://www.myspace.com/sinistahmoneybagz Sinistah aka Sin Piff

    thanks Dr. Flav, i understand the demographics on websites are virtual reality to the outside world. but i try not to get too deep, so just scratchin the surface a bit homie.

  • M.Garvey

    Using the reverse of a Katt Williams joke, maybe you aint shit thats why you keep getting shitted on by women.
    Too many single family black families are who are they usually led by, women. In the end, you can say we as men have failed our women. Fatherhood by any means neccessary–as seen in the God Son Album pictures.

  • niggawitmoney

    i agree jon-jon. bol where do u live? How do you meet woman surely not in the club, because thats where all the hoes at. Have you ever tried going to a nice restaurant, or the library, just any place that doesnt symbolizes sex. You really need to lower your standards bol, your fat, broke dont really get out the house, live with your mom probably, or in a rinky dink aparment. What type of black woman wouldnt have an attitude with you? Do u really think other than hoe wants to be in that type of environment

  • Dr Flav

    To Hell with the Demographics, real talk is universal. I got a question for the remaining critics of rap lyrics. If we as a people can overcome slavery, whippings, lynchings, segregation, crack, broken homes and racial ect., why should we fear words to a gosh dang song? How can the recent increase of blacks seeking higher education be explained? Could it be, humor me now, opportunity?

  • CRIP

    I never agree wit pharo but what he said was the most intelligent thing on here. you don’t have to go that to find the answer.

  • moneyovahaters

    PHARO Says:

    April 18th, 2007 at 7:33 pm
    MEN ARE FIRST
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    WOMEN FOLLOW MEN
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    SO IF MOST BLACK MEN LIKE HOES,
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    .MOST BLACK WOMEN WILL BECOME HOES,
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    FOR EVERY DUMB ASS NIGGER
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    THERE’S A HOOD RAT HOE,
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    IF WE (BLACK MEN) LEAD THE WAY AND SET A NEW TREND
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    WOMEN WILL EVENTUALLY FOLLOW
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    NOMATTER WHAT YOU THINK…
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    THE TRUTH IS
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    WOMEN FOLLOW MEN….THAT’S NATURE
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    I agree

  • 40ozking

    Currently playing on itunes: Nas “Black Girl Lost”

  • BklynBandette

    As ghostwritten by Dr Flav: I think I have been about 10 people @ least on here since the format change and this is actually a dope female username, @ least I hope its a female. lol

  • http://www.akirathedon.com AK DONOVAN

    Shit, this is the dumbest “conversation” EVER, dot com. I have come to the conclusion that Bol is winding us all up. These Posts Are Racist is holding it down regadless, FIRST has a five year memory span or something, and remembers nothing of the circumstance that lead us to this Dark Year Of Our Lord, 2007, where such fucking stupid sentiments flood the gaff like dirty water.

    Me, I’m a bang my head against a table till it bleeds. Or go outside. It’s sunny. There are people out there. People rule. They get born into skin sacks, and then stuff happens to them and makes them do stuff. CRAZY, No?

    @!

  • jrjomo

    Damn man, you act like you just started listening to hip-hop when the south started getting some play. Almost every rapper know to man has disrespected black women except for Will Smith, PE, and Run DMC. It wasn’t right then and isn’t now, but you make it seem acceptable when your favorite artist is doing in and it’s not getting air play. This is another one of hip-hops dirty little secrets and now it’s in the open and everyone is offended. Hip hop has been on the decline since NWA’s 2nd album. As far as being detrimental to the black community as a whole Luke,Jay-Z, NWA,2-pac(post Suge) and Biggie have some of the worst albums ever created as far as popularity and negativity.

  • http://DDupointdos.state.fl.us Ghost of 2Pac

    JR JOMO, what the fuck is you saying! The worst albums ever! What ya smokin’ on boy! I think you need to go back and study some history!

  • The DJ Formerly Known as N-CREDIBLE

    hey ignoramus…America and society has corrupted our black women…back in the day they were more respectful…now they give up the twat just because…i dont think it is the males fault it is the females fault…they need to close their legs and stop trying to be men…

  • EReal

    Black Women have bad attitudes and short tempers.

    Who wants to marry a Women that acts like she’s on the rag 24/7/365???

    my .02

    1 hunned.

  • Greg

    This was one of the worst blogs you’ve ever written Bol. Even if we accept your dataless statements as fact, we also have to accept that the amount of marriage-eligible black men is lower than any other race. For the most part black women only want to date black men, but when take into consideration: the incarceration rate of black men, black men who date outside their race, black men who refuse to/or are unable to support a family, and the rising trend of homosexuality, there aren’t many options for our sisters today.

  • stoneyisland

    Hip hop is dead and Bol for once in your sorry ass life I have to agree with you. Name the last number one rap song that spoke about a woman in a positive manner? I mean a song that praised her not destroyed her self esteem and degraded her? yes some women are whores, as are a whole lot of you so called Playa’s and pimps. If you are told you aint shit enuff you eventaually start to believe it, so if young sistas grow up being told and shown in videos ass hoes then over time subconsciously it starts to stick. I hate what rap has become. I hate it as much as I hate the KKK and Jim Crow.

  • Moe Real

    Bol has bigger breasts than most black women. Nullus.

  • these posts are racist

    “…America and society has corrupted our black women…back in the day they were more respectful…now they give up the twat just because…”

    -N-Cred-

    I’m disappointed man. What are you talking about? Society in general is promiscuious, especially in an open social enviornment like the US. It comes with the territory of a free society. For you to single out sistas like that is bogus, unfair and perpetuates all the other crap they go through just for being black women. That’s out of order brother.

  • Mychel

    PAY ATTENTION!!!!!!!Theres a reason why u don’t see alot of athletes or successfull men with blacks wives…im jus saying…facts dont lie!!!!

  • tybe

    mindless chatter

  • tybe

    mindless chatter

  • tybe

    mindless chatter

  • A.Cambry

    I feel as though a lot of Black Women wouldn’t come off as being so hard and shrew if we had a race of men who wanted to protect us more than they wanted to participate in our exploitation. And I don’t direct that comment at every Black Man because I know that’s not the case but when you grow up through life without a father figure to explain things to you and mold you, you have find out shit the hard way and learn to protect yourself. Again, not blaming this on Black Men because a lot of Black Women don’t know their worth period and allow themselves to be used.

    A lot of us have to end up with men who don’t have goals or jobs, live at home in mom’s crib playing Playstation or X-Box, not contributing one dime to any of the living expenses that they are helping to make, bring in multiple girlfriends, get them pregnant, aren’t responsible for that child when it comes, smoke weed all day etc. and they put up with it because they are tired of being alone. And those that don’t settle throw themselves into work because it’s the only area in their lives where they can continually progress and don’t have to settle.

  • dutchess

    THIS IS WHY EVERYTHING IS THE WAY IT IS IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY….WHEN ARE WE GOING TO TAKE CONTROL?
    What

    had to say in 1712

    The following has been credited to William Lynch, a White slave owner, who reportedly made the speech on the banks of the James River in 1712. It was quoted at length by Minister Louis Farrakhan at the Million Man March where it stunned m any in the audience because of the cold-blooded way it described how the minds of African-Americans could be enslaved.

    According to an essay appearing in “Brother Man- The Odyssey of Black Men in America- An Anthology” Lynch was a British slave owner in the West Indies who came to the United States to tell American slave owners how to keep their slaves under control. The term “lynching” is derived from Lynch’s name.

    Gentlemen, I greet you here on the bank of the James River in the year of our Lord one thousand seven hundred and twelve. First, I shall thank you, the gentlemen of the Colony of Virgi nia, for bringing me here. I am here to help you solve some of your problems with slaves. Your invitation reached me on my modest plantation in the West Indies where I have experimented with some of the newest and still the oldest methods of control of sl aves. Ancient Rome would envy us if my program were implemented. As our boat sailed south on the James River, named for our illustrious King, whose version of the Bible we cherish. I saw enough to know that your problem is not unique. While Rome used cord s of woods as crosses for standing human bodies along its highways in great numbers you are here using the tree and the rope on occasion.

    I caught the whiff of a dead slave hanging from a tree a couple of miles back. You are not only losing a valuable stock by hangings, you are having uprisings, slaves are running away, your crops are sometimes left in the fields too long for maximum profit, you suffer occasional fires, your animals are killed. Gentlemen, you know what your problems are: I do not need to elaborate. I am not here to enumerate your problems, I am here to introduce you to a method of solving t hem. In my bag here, I have a fool proof method for controlling your Black slaves. I guarantee everyone of you that if installed correctly it will control the slaves for at least 300 hundred years. My method is simple. Any member of your family or your oversee r can use it.

    I have outlined a number of differences among the slaves: and I take these differences and make them bigger. I use fear, distrust, and envy for control purposes. These methods have worked on my modest plantation in the West Indies and it will work throughout the South. Take this simple little list of differences, and think about them. On top of my list is “Age”, but it is there only because it starts with an “A”: the second is “Color” or shade, there is intelligence, size, sex, size of plantations, status on plantation, attitude of owners, whether the slave live in the valley, on hill, East, West, North, South, have fine hair, coarse hair, or is tall or short. Now that you have a list of differences. I shall give you an ou tline of action-but before that I shall assure you that distrust is stronger than trust and envy is stronger than adulation, respect, or admiration.

    The Black slave after receiving this indoctrination shall carry on and will become self re-fueling and self generating for hundreds of years, maybe thousands. Don’t forget you must pitch the old Black male vs. the young Black male, and the young Black male against the old Black male. You must use the dark skin slaves vs. the light skin slaves and the light skin slaves vs. the dark skin slaves. You must use the female vs. the male, and the male vs. the female. You must also have your white servants and overseers distrust all Blacks, but it is necessary that your slaves trust and depend on us. They must love, respect and trust only us. Gentlemen, these kits are your keys to control. Use them. Have your wives and children use them, never miss an opportunity. If used intensely for one year, the slaves themselves will remain perpetually distrustful. Thank you, gentlemen.

    Back to the AWARE main page. Source: The AFRO-American Newspaper

  • dutchess

    ANYTHING ELSE DUMMY?

  • ak47

    i blame robin givens.

  • http://myspace.com/lfabuloso IcarusOU

    BOLLLL….yo check this video of Akon goin Kels in Trinidad during a concert

    Bitches F**kin’ like AIDS don’t exist

  • http://www.xxlmag.com/?p=9324 Kool G

    Yo im 19 years old and i got it in my blood to respect anybody off top who doesnt disrespect me. Its pretty cut and dry if a chick aint acting respectable den i cant help to call it like it is. “A spade is a spade” now as far as black women ALL bein ho’s dats pure bullshit I can’t fuckin believe u got dickhead’s like fernando on here talkin bout black ppl get aids truthfully wat da fuck ru man??? Da same ppl that get up on here talkin shit would neva call a black girl a ho in they face cuz black women can fuck sum shit up when it comes down to it. I was wit a girl dis weekend and i only known her 2 days (got sum :) but i respected all the way from the time i seen her up to when i came back to VA, matter fact i got her number and I still talk to her like she deserves the respect i give her. Black women aint ho’s but ho’s are ho’s. You can’t pin some shit like dat on 1 race BOL shame on u ya mama should kick yo fake spike lee ass for even thinkin bout some shit like dat. Like somebody mentiioned earlier REAL RECOGNIZE REAL and if you really deserve respect then you will really get it. So with that said….FUCK BOL and all these other black women haters.

  • http://www.xxlmag.com/?p=9324 REAL TALK

    formely KOOL G

  • The DJ Formerly Known as N-CREDIBLE

    these posts are racist Says:
    I’m disappointed man. What are you talking about? Society in general is promiscuious, especially in an open social enviornment like the US. It comes with the territory of a free society. For you to single out sistas like that is bogus, unfair and perpetuates all the other crap they go through just for being black women. That’s out of order brother.
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    Im not singling anyone out…we are talking about black women so that is what i centered my comment around…i said that because there are people(who despise us) that have intentions on degrading my black sisters (i.e. videos) they push this stuff and back it and you find our sisters wanting to mock this behavior because that is what is in and gets the attention of the males…so I take it back…it’s not just the women…its us men and lowering our standards…

  • these posts are racist

    n-cred-

    Much respect my brother.

  • http://nun T

    I agree with BoI’s entire post, but first off let me just say that not all women are all the same. Not all black women have attitude, not all are ignorant, its just when the majority of the ones you know or happen to see on the jerry springer showing there ass off, it gives the really hard working ones out there a bad name. But there really is no reason to be upset and ask them to change there ways and the reason why i say that is because, in the end, all that is going to happen is that they will end up finding themselves alone, and lonley and wondering why nobody will love them. I have seen this my entire life, ghetto ass hoodrats looking for love so they go hook up with a dboy and try and get him to change…?… like the old sayin goes you cant turn a hoe into a housewife and you can take the nigga out the hood , but u cant take the hood out the nigga. So then in the end she sits there and cries to her self on why she cant find her self a good man and find somebody who would be down for her, kinda like that bitch new york from the flavor of love, Until they change there attitude you are going to contiune to see more and more interacial dating, and honestly they have only them selves to blame.

  • http://www.myspace.com/antiniggermachine Smogs English Teacher

    Just because you dropped out of highschool doesn’t mean you do not have to give up on education

  • Malik C.

    I didn’t read all of the comments but I’m pretty sure black women getting married less statically is because how often do black women marry outside their own race? I’m sure that number is dramatically lower then any other races.

  • You all are funny

    Wow! I’m obviously getting to old, educated, and refined for my peers and I’m not even 30 yet. If this is what qualifies as critical thinking, reasoning, and research in our community now…just wow! I’ve often found that I ignore much of the undertones in these posts bc. I see that you’re trying to go the shock value way and/or your have some underlying issues that you need to take care of, either way, I previously have been able to laugh at many of them, but…this may be my clue to move on bc. I’m just not understanding any more.
    - Ms. Diva, Esq.

  • Fernando

    NBRED & TPAR

    You two are sooooo ghey. Society is quite promiscuious these days. But what about nobody marrying the black woman? I would love to hear how whitey is to blame.

  • Frenzy

    A shithead is a shithead, if someone is shit then they are shit regardless of colour,sex,age, religion…Wateva, My Dick is Hugeee!! AM I WHITE, ASIAN OR BLACK?? LOL S.T.E.R.E.O.T.Y.P.I.C.A.L, i bombed a plane..if i was white and from washington id be ‘plane bomber’ if i was from iraq im a ‘terrorist’, people label things (quicker than a black bitch shakes her ass..it is a joke chill LOL) and thatll never change, but anyway feel how you feel thats what makes us individual, stand up represent yourself if people dont like it then fuck em, do what YOU want to do, dont let no-ONE tell YOU what you gotta do, LMAO if your thinking ‘yeah ill do what i wanna do’ after that your basically doing what I wanted YOU to do LMAO anyway Peace, be what makes you feel good because only you know how!

  • Q

    R Kelly Quote said it best ” ALL WOMEN ARE GOOD TILL A MAN MAKES HER BAD” ON THAT QUOTE FROM THE MAN IM SURE HIS NEW ALBUM WILL SHUT THESE CLOWNS DOWN AND HIP HOP IS NOT DOING SO WELL AND THA GOVERNMENT IS TRYING TO DESTROY OUR FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND OUR RIGHTS. THEY WOULD HAVE NEVER TRYED THIS WHEN HIP HOP WAS DOING ITS THING AND I BE HONEST WITH YOU I BLAME THE LABELS. THEY ARE HIRING PEOPLE THAT DONT KNOW WHAT THE F THEY ARE DOING AND PEOPLE ARE GETTING POSITIONS BECAUSE WHO THEY KNOW AND IT IS HURTING THE GAME.

  • ProBlackWomen

    BLACK WOMEN HAVE ATITUDES!!! so what it’s apart of who we are, BLACK MEN HAVE THEM ALSO.

  • DJ Serious Bizness

    Truly this whole dialogue is an illusion. Does hip hop hate women? Does rock hate women, does country hate women? Does the entertainment industry or just the arts as a whole hate women? Did black women all of sudden start becoming “hated” when rap came along? Where there no bitches and hos in our community before hip hop? Are all of our women flawless and perfect in every way, truly undeserving of any criticism because they make no mistakes, tell the truth without fail, and represent themselves with only the highest of virtues? Is every black woman as loving, caring, or worthy as your mom just because they share the same ethnicity? Or better yet, is the only reason you love moms is because she’s black? Does all that your moms ever did for you mean nothing when compared to her almighty skin tone? We can go through all the psychologies of slave conditioning, and explore all the theories and hypothesises of the disfunctional black male psyche, and we can argue and debate all day about whose fault it is that shit is the way that it is but what does it really accomplish? Take away all the rap and will there still be women(black, white, or otherwise)acting like bitches and hos, selling themselves for money or fame? Maybe instead of asking if hip hop hates black women, the question should be what are black women doing to make hip hop hate them? Just a thought..peace
    God is love

  • Ruiz

    “Maybe instead of asking if hip hop hates black women, the question should be what are black women doing to make hip hop hate them? Just a thought..peace”

    thats what the whole aricle’s about dumbass. WHY does hiphop hate black women. and hiphop doesnt hate black women

  • Mr.Defrosted

    We as BLACK AMERICANS have been geneticlly molded to be the way we are and it is showing as of now. For as the unstability in the 1400′s it is showing now. For as Black women being the least married that is becuase we as Black MEN love to be involved with women who are passive to our pesonalities(hint) and that is not the nature of a Black women so we tend to blame them for our own personal issue and short comings. Every Black women is a reminder of some type of women in ANY Black man life so it easier to redirect the problem instead facing it. Hip Hop exploits women in general it not only black women you see on videos now a days.

  • Jason

    Wow, all of your fingers should be broken for typing such rhetotric.

  • http://www.myspace.com/ntomoentertainment NTOMO ENTERTAINMENT

    THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS CALLING OUR SISTERS, MOTHERS, AND DAUGHTERS BITCHES AND ALL OTHER TYPE OF DEGRADING WORDS…THINK OF YOUR MOTHER WHEN YOU’RE DOING THAT!! AND THIS APPLIES TO ANY OTHER RACE!!! LET’S FIX THIS STARTING WITH OUR OWN HOMES INSTAED OF ALWAYS BLAMING RAPPERS FOR EVERYTHING THAT GOES WRONG IN THIS COUNTRY!!

  • http://www.myspace.com/ntomoentertainment NTOMO ENTERTAINMENT

    I am a music producer.

    GO LISTEN:

    http://www.magicentertainment.hi5.com

  • http://AOL Lynn Simms

    Until all black men learn to respect all black women, no matter what race they prefer as a mate, there will be black women with issues whether shown through attire, attitude, etc. When we feel left out, looked over, ugly, unappreciated, we may stoop to whatever level to get the attention we long for without realizing that we are actually making ourselves look bad to society in general. Why are we “black women” (not all, but certainly too many) not protected and cherished by our men. Who makes most of the rap videos? Who chooses the ladies in those videos?
    AND if a man can’t deal with a little attitude, “Poor Thing.”

  • 4 ya momma

    ill tell u whut its niggas fault that these bitches dont respect us or themselves we all know women need direction and us as black men have been lacking and too passive so i must as u this what came first the pimping or the whoring

  • Y.

    In reading the comments of posters and of the writer of this article, I am reminded of many experiences in my teen years. As a young Catholic school girl, I was constantly assaulted with a barage of unwanted come-ons and sexualized comments from men in my community. As a young African American woman, considered attractive, leaving the house was like walking a gauntlet of insults and perverse commentary. Even my school girl uniform was considered sexual fodder.

    I was always soft spoken and quiet. My brother would comment…”These hankerchief heads yell at you because they see you are soft, so you have to toughen up to deal with them. They would never say those things to the local hoodrats because they know she might shank them.! You have to keep them scared or they might run all over you!”

    I was told over and over again by men in my family and others that I had to “toughen up” to defend myself or I’d never make it in the black community.

    No one here has commented on the way African American men approach young girls and women in public.

    I would question what these very men on this board have said to their daughters about handling agressively sexual approaches that are COMMON in the black community.

    Ultimately, I did not “toughen up”, I simply moved to a different neighborhood.

    Black women are raised to be “tough” as we are told no one will defend us or help us..and we only have ourselves to count on…and as you can see by the author of this article it is so true….so very true.

  • Y.

    Further, I would say judging by the looks on the faces of most BW I pass on the street in New York, most are unhappy and possibly unkind to others as the writer implies. Yet, as I was enouraged to harden, I am sure many other BW were as well.

    I was told repeatedly by male relatives and others…no one would help me and so I had to help myself. What would follow in my teens was horrifying, not only the daily barrage of unwanted aggressive sexual comments which continue until these day…but also sexual advances by older male neighbors and family friends. Men who had daughters of thier own and would smile in the face of my relatives by day, yet pursue myself and other girls in secret. These were the “upstanding citizens”. Had I accepted these advances I would have been a evil whore, of course, yet nothing is said of the men. It is my feeling that young black girls are seen simply as flesh to be used and discarded. You can urinate on a black female child and still perform to adoring crowds, because of course she was an evil whore who lured this 35 year old man to unspeakable acts.

    The question everyone avoids…how these young girls become sexualized at such young ages? And further how it evolves into the harden core you see on many older BW.

    I was not a promiscuos teen, nor did I have a reputation of being so…yet that did not stop the continued assaults on my youth. I was simply an over friendly incessantly chatty teen girl, behaviour common among my white private school class mates. Behaviour that is eventually beaten out of most young black girls. The fact that these sexual advances upon a CHILD were so common shows the lack of respect and protection young black girls have. I have witnessed this scene a couple of times in my life….Older adult black male approaches teen girl on the street, the girl responds “GET AWAY FROM ME YOU NASTY OLD N*GG*, WHAT THE F*CK IS WRONG WITH YOU! And the response to this from other adults on the street has been howls of laughter, not concern for the girl, not a SHAMING of the man, because these men have no shame…but laughter.

    So these girls had followed the cues given by her community respond with force to protect yourself as you are on your own. With no fathers to support or protect them…no uncles, no grandfathers…, no one to question the behaviour of men, because of course men are expected to be sexual aggressors, right???? Well as I said you are on your own.

  • Xhausted

    I can’t believe what I’m reading. Unmarried, married, does it really matter? Does that constituate being loved? I would think a man would want a woman who knew who she was and could hold down her own? Don’t you guys want someone who can be your equal? Sorry for not being inferior. Here I was thinking being independent would be a turn on…

    I see double standards all around here. You don’t want us to be loose and trashy, yet you complain that we don’t do ourselves up and call us cold bitches when we don’t respond to your played out game.

    Hello. We want to be loved for who we are, not some painted on version of ourselves. We also don’t want to be spit game. Come to us like the real you.

    I think the real issue is your own shortcomings. If you don’t have confidence in yourself and know who you are and where you stand in life… Well, all i can say is just don’t expect a woman who does to respond in kind.

    This goes for any race because I believe woman are/can be strong no matter what the nationality.

    Oh and for the whole ‘Bitches and Hoes’ business- I see it like this:

    Would you call your mother, your daughter, your sister or your aunty by those names? Would you like someone else calling them that?

    No. I didn’t think so.

  • KS

    I am succesful black man that has been happily married to a latina for 5 years. I personally have nothing against black women. I have always been attracted to latinas i find everything about them attractive. I am married to a beautiful light skinned mexican woman. what makes her beautiful is her soul and her humanity her physical beauty is just a bonus. I love her because of her not cause she is light or gorgeous but because she is kind, smart, clever and funny. She was born and raised in a foreign country and she gas gone so far she has a great professional career and she also speaks 4 languages. When frustrated or upset she doesn’t resort to yelling screaming or name calling but she actually sits down and talks which is awesome. But for some reason black women cant understand why i am not with a black woman. We go out and we get stares from black women and they have flat out said comments out loud but my wife just ignores it she has told me i am not going to judge a whole race because of a couple of bad apples and to begin with i don’t know what made those apples bad even if they judge me i cant judge them. That right there made me love her even more. And in case any sisters are reading this its not cause i am poor weak brother that couldn’t handle a sister that i didn’t date black women. I have nothing against black women i don’t have self hatred either. I love my wife her family loves me my family loves her i just don’t see what’s the big deal. I am married to a latina that’s just what i like. I just wish black women were a little more respectful and understanding and not so quick to judge u don’t choose who you love it happens. I think black women should be a little more open and date outside our race there is nothing wrong with it. We all should be more open minded and less judgmental.

  • KS

    and yes by the way it is wrong to call black women or any women hoes or bitches we need to give respect to receive respect in order to make a change.

  • KS

    and yes by the way its wrong to call any woman hoes or bitches wether they are black or white or latin. We gotta give respect in order to receive respect only then can we make a difference in our culture. Women have been physically and verbally abused since forever its about time that this generation puts a stop to that!!

  • tha man

    FUCK MOST OF THESE BLACK TRIFLING PICKY ASS MONEY GRUBBING BITCHES ESPECIALLY THE ONES 25 AND UNDA THEY CAN SUCK A DICK AND DIE

  • Mr. Anderson

    Wow, this is a divided issue. Well I have to say as a black male who is married to a white woman, has a good job at a law firm, takes care of my of his family, that i agree partially with this. I grew up in a pretty rough area, and it was predominantly minority. Now in school I was friends with and dated everyone except black people. They hated me, cuz I talked without an accent, used words that were over four syllables and carried myself like I had home training. Maybe it made me a little bitter, I don’t know. Now I don’t say this to say ALL black people. I repeat it’s not ALL black people. But those who are know who they are, and the hoes know they are too. Black women have become the least married women in the world because they act like they’re too good. For everyone. Black white doesn’t matter if your not in a Lexus they think you can do nothing for them. Which is really saying what? That they’re price is a 50,000 dollar car? That’s why no one wants them. If you put a price on yourself (especially one so low) it shows you don’t respect yourself. If you don’t respect yourself don’t ask anyone else to. Which is why everyone just uses them bitches and drops em in the gutter. We need a hoe-dar that will tell you when skanks are in the area. Untill that happens don’t expect anything from me, cuz if you were like that I wouldn’t be like this. Stupid ass bitches made us this way.

  • K-Lillz

    to be sexist at all is terrible.

  • http://yahoo.com dbys

    black men and women are the ones to blame, its not just the men.

  • ryanne

    Well first black men need to stop using that term nappy headed hoes because from what i know black men have nappy hair as well. It’s not the black woman’s fault at all black men do not need their hands held in order to know right from wrong you men are of age to know that difference and it seems very immature that we place the blame on eachother. black men need to realize them speaking out against their own women is what is making them look bad in the other cultures eyes. I’ve noticed a lot of black men date interracially just to gain the respect of white men and people for that matter and are surprised they DO NOT except them or their “BLACK CHILDREN.” My whole take on this is that black people need to wake up and start changing the way they are and think and start becoming good people. Also forgot to add in that black men also need to change the way they approach black women like do not whistle at us like we are your lost pet do not degrade us by talking about what body part on us you like. How about approaching us with a hello good morning/evening/night ect. and if that certain black woman does not acknowledge you than their is something wrong with

  • BeerGangsta

    Black Women are Bitches!! I have talk to a lot of Black Woman. I speak to them and they don’t speak back. They think only thing a Black Man won’t from them is that Azz. They think Black Man hits Women and Cheat on them. They try to put us in the same catergory. Just like them dam Honkeys!! Black Women are stuck up. They start a lot of shit. That’s why Black Men are Fucking Honkey Heffers!!

    • ryanne

      BeerGangasta??? Why would any woman waste their time posting to a dude with that Username?

  • Racha

    Well the first thing black women need to do is stop supporting “african women bashing” magazines like XXL, that seem to have such a problem with our appearance. Its obvious what this article is trying to promote. That black women must look white, hispanic, asian to be considered attractive.Because this “Byron Williams” is obviously comparing what black women look like to what his “distorted” perception of beauty is, which is considered “Standard Beauty” Because to listen to black entertainers and folks like the dude who wrote this, who clearly don’t have a sense of self because if they did they wouldnt be gettin pimped by white folks for their talent; shows a sign of incompetency.

    So just to let black women know I love yall from a true Sistah!!We are the only one’s that do what we do…No other woman can handle the type of stress, and full load that we do…such as: raising children alone, working full time, going to school, have limited options when it comes to men, being bashed and considered unattractive by our own men, economic hardships, dealing with lowlife black men who don’t want any responsibilities, raising boys to men alone, and with all this we can still posses spirituality, and love for our children, our family, black men, and most importantly ourselves.

  • LotusBud

    Well ladies, until you can learn how to be independent and get other types of guys, then you will be treated like crap because you can’t go anywhere else. Nobody’s trying to scoop you up so either deal with the mistreatment, stay alone, or learn how to appeal to other races of guys. We have choices as women, but which one is actually better for you?