Bitchmade?

Yesterday one of my colleauges here at xxlmag.com put up a post that defined the term “bitchmade” as any guy that was raised by a single mom and/or grandmoms, without a male figure present. “It’s easy to spot bitchmade dudes in the comments section,” Billy Sunday writes, “because they are the types of people that have a hard time accepting truth without emotion.” He adds: “It’s not their fault either but they were taught how to frame their communications in the style of a woman.” He goes on to characterize single mothers as being “loose” and “desperate” when it comes to money, and being willing to do pretty much anything to make a quick dollar. Hence, he reasons, their kids grow up to be rappers that are willing to spit straight garbage for a little bit of paper.

Now, normally I’m a big fan of Mr. Sunday’s writing, but obviously I’m not about to let this one slide. I’m not sure how the demise of hip-hop, which is a 99.999% male subculture, can be blamed on women–and the same women that have busted their buts to raise a good lot of you, no less.

First of all, the whole concept of “bitchmade” is just plain wrong. It basically serves as a sweeping condemnation of all single moms trying to raise young men. These women find themselves in a situation where they’re forced to shoulder alone financial and emotional responsibilities that should be shared. They break their backs at (often low-paying) jobs to put food on the table for kids they love more than anything else in the world. They sacrifice hobbies, interests, and a social life to be around for those kids. And then society tells them that no matter how hard they try, their boys are destined to be incomplete human beings. It’s a pretty disheartening scenario.

Second, the term “bitchmade” kinda lets deadbeat daddies off the hook, don’t you think? Instead of pissing all over the women that stick around, shouldn’t the animosity be directed at the jerks that take off?

Lastly, equating hotheaded modes of communication with females is a bit of a stretch. Let’s be honest here, dudes more than pull their weight on this front. (Please see the last 30 years of hip-hop history for examples.)

I think we can all agree that young boys need their fathers. But if your father decides to bounce, does that automatically mean you’re emotionally scarred for life? I think not.

  • Were Read 2 Def

    >Second, the term “bitchmade” kinda lets deadbeat daddies off the hook, don’t you think? Instead of pissing all over the women that stick around, shouldn’t the animosity be directed at the jerks that take off?

    ^^^Different agrument.

  • Ben Gibson

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  • P

    “Get rich by any means necessary or die trying is what these women instill in their children.”

    He can’t really be serious whit that one. Oh Billy, you’re right, capitalist society is completely run by women…

    But this is were it gets deep:
    “So when his kids get grown and they have to choose between being shitbags that will do anything for paper, or being grown folks who can negotiate the moral responsibility that comes with being an adult they will have the foundation in place to make that choice. ”

    What’s he saying? That moral responsibility can only come from a man, and that women can only raise shitbags. And this is the same guy who urges black men to marry black women. And then proceeds to spit in the faces of these very same women.

    I don’t normally even read Billys blog, but for some reason I read that one, and just kind of shook my head. Now I’m not too familiar with his writing, but as I understand it he’s on that “everything was better back then”-thing, which always makes me very uninterested. In my experience these guys almost always displays more or less blatant sexism sooner or later, I guess I just happened to stumble upon one of those displays in that post.

    Props to you for checking him on this, I don’t post in his blog because I don’t want to get his comment-count up.

    peace

  • SilverBack Gorilla

    He goes on to characterize single mothers as being “loose” and “desperate” when it comes to money, and being willing to do pretty much anything to make a quick dollar.

    ^^^^^Silliest shit I ever heard in my life… Has Sunday ever heard of drug dealing, robbery, smash & grab etc. It ain’t just single mothers acting wild for paper.

    “BITCHMADE”

  • JacksonDane

    Lastly, equating hotheaded modes of communication with females is a bit of a stretch. Let’s be honest here, dudes more than pull their weight on this front. (Please see the last 30 years of hip-hop history for examples.)

    ^^^ Ummmm…. he explained why that is the case

  • E AKA THE REAL NORIEAGA

    Billy Sunday Lost……

    Damn don’t mess with Tara or she’ll slap your kufi off.

  • Moe Real

    I’m with you 100 per cent.

    Billy S. (or just BS) is just really macho. He probably has a penis for a tongue.

  • http://xxlmag.com Billy X. Sunday

    Tara,
    I respect you professionally so I will comment here in that vein.

    If you read my drop from an emotional platitude you will obviously be offended. I used my platform to explain the genesis behind a term that is flagerantly used in the comments section here at this site. Like all of the great insulting terms it hits you in the face and below the belt.

    Is the term a reflection of our hyper-patriarchal society? Yes, you’re gotdamn right it is. Does it seek to emasculate the recipient while simultaneously denigrating females? Hell to the yeah. Welcome to America. Have your passport stamped at the border.

    When it time to talk about the dissolution of the family unit I will do it in long form. The comments section doesn’t provide the space.

    And as for deadbeat dads… I look at the women who choose those men to sire their litters as the fools. Why didn’t they properly vett those men prior to accepting them as sperm donors? Women are traditionally left with the bag. When does their thinking evolve?

    Try not to respond… Emotionally.

  • thoreauly77

    good post tara. i would be surprised if sunday didnt agree with you actually and admit he didnt really think of the entire scope of the issue. i would further suggest that the tone of his post was more in the line of dissing the young men that unfortunately his post reflects. at least i hope all this is the case. either way, sexism is not a good look.

  • SONNY CHEEBA

    Billy’s rebuttle was on point…

    Hold that Tara!

  • Were Read 2 Def

    This is a good time to listen to that Jay-Z song: “Sisters & Bitches”.

  • http://www.MOREMENOCAL.com Andres Menocal

    wow that was a good rebuttal. Good job foreal.

    http://www.MOREMENOCAL.com

  • EReal

    “I’m not sure how the demise of hip-hop, which is a 99.999% male subculture, can be blamed on women–and the same women that have busted their buts to raise a good lot of you, no less.”
    ^^
    I never saw where Billy blamed bitchmade pussies for the demise of hiphop.

    “First of all, the whole concept of “bitchmade” is just plain wrong. It basically serves as a sweeping condemnation of all single moms trying to raise young men. ”
    ^^
    This is where Billy and I differ. To Me, “bitchmade” isnt just anyone who was raied by a single female. “Bitchmade” is someone who may have had a father or not, but someone who has never learned how to be a man. How bout, “mama’s boy” same shit. It means that you look at life and act in life from a female mindstate. Meaning, you dont want trouble, you are overly emotional, you read into things too much, ect. ect. When you act like a female in certin situations where you’re sposed to hold it down like a real man should, instead you act like a bitch. Hence the term “bitchmade” meaning your father or mother never taught you how to be a real man. That is what the term bitchmade means to me.
    I know bitchmade kids who had fathers, but their fathers were too busy doing whatever to teach them how to be a man, I have friends who were raised by single mothers, but the streets taught them how to be a man, the og’s, the old heads, ect. So they arent bitchmade.
    I dont know if Billy with all his “praise the queens” “be a man and marry a black woman” rhetoric was trying to attack the hard working single mothers of the hoods. Also, I dont believe that this argument was the point of the post. There were several points.
    I think you may have taken this a little bit out of context Tara-Squad, even tho I know you’re all about protectin the females and I respect that. It just seems like you saw the title, skimmed through and got a little overly offended. IMO.

    1 hunned.

  • P

    “Is the term a reflection of our hyper-patriarchal society? Yes, you’re gotdamn right it is. Does it seek to emasculate the recipient while simultaneously denigrating females? Hell to the yeah. Welcome to America. Have your passport stamped at the border.”

    You know Billy, saying it is so does not let you off the hook for being a part of that problem. That’s like KKKramer responding to his critics with “hey, America is raicst”. Yeah, so?

  • Yo

    Y would someone defend Billy Sunday’s position. It’s absolutely ridiculous. Tara was on point. These chauvinist fools needa pause.

  • My Effin’ Opinion

    Billy X. Sunday Says:

    February 23rd, 2007 at 11:32 am

    And as for deadbeat dads… I look at the women who choose those men to sire their litters as the fools. Why didn’t they properly vett those men prior to accepting them as sperm donors? Women are traditionally left with the bag. When does their thinking evolve?

    ^^^^^
    This is only a valid point if your talking about get pregnant off a one-night stand or to a broke nigga that you know aint’ shit cuz in reality you can never tell when someone is just gonna walk-out on you and it doesn’t even have to be right away. It can be when the kid is 7 or 8 (which would constitute being in a long relationship). No one can predict the future.

    In fact, a dude walkin’ out on a chick is basically him ‘breakin’ up’ with her … Everyone at some point breaks up with their partner (see 50% of all marriages end in divorce). So again, you can never tell who’s gonna ‘man-up’ to their responsibilities after the break up. The break-up in general is most likely to happen.

    I know dude with money who refuse to ‘man-up’ and take care of they kids cuz the girl is wit someone else and they on some “I didn’t wanna be with you, but I don’t want you to be with no one else”-type shit.

    Again, you never know how someone is gonna be until the ‘fit hits the shan’ … This goes for men too, you can’t tell which of these “cool-ass” bitches is gonna turn Kah-razy on you. People don’t show these things up front.

  • My Effin’ Opinion

    Billy, Billy, Billy, .. first Noz now Tara *smh*

    How about we get some tag-team action:

    Bol & Bill vs. Noz & Tara

    Place your bets …

  • My Effin’ Opinion

    XXL Blogger Beef > 50 vs. Cam

  • rkm

    The only problem with your post is by responding you’re giving more shine to one of the worst writers on the whole damn internet. Fire him please XXL.

  • THAT_BOY_NOAH

    ITS JUST IGNORANT TALK BABY THATS ALL IT IS.SO SOMETIMES ITS GOOD TO TURN THE OTHER CHEEK CUZ THERE ARE TIMES WHEN IM ON HERE AND I READ A BUNCH OF RACISM SHIT.BUT I DONT SAY NOTHIN.I JUST TRY TO STAY MOTIVATED ON MY PAPER….KNOW WHAT IM SAYIN?

  • EReal

    Noah, what the fuck are you talkin about??

    LOL @ Effin
    Cosign XXL blogger beef > 50 & Cam > Tru Dyke & Clitset > Game and whoever he’s beefin wit today, or not, LOL.

  • Rizzop

    what happend to da hip hop? We got social commentary in da house? Once again Hip hop on a higher level my ass…..This a human interest story……Its is > than anything Cam vs. Cuuuuuurtis is doing right now though.

  • Incilin

    Yes if ur father bounces on u ur gonna be scared for life (Jay-Z is a good example).

    “Second, the term “bitchmade” kinda lets deadbeat daddies off the hook, don’t you think? Instead of pissing all over the women that stick around, shouldn’t the animosity be directed at the jerks that take off?” -Yes i give u credit for that, it is very true.

    I think the point Sunday is trying to make is that it’s not okay for a man to act like a woman, they need to act like men.

    Tara vs Sunday??? This beef is about as fun as Cam vs 50. I wonder if he’s gonna go off and get at u like Bol did with tha legendary post he had, u know the one i’m talking about.

  • AR

    # EReal Says:
    February 23rd, 2007 at 12:02 pm

    “I’m not sure how the demise of hip-hop, which is a 99.999% male subculture, can be blamed on women–and the same women that have busted their buts to raise a good lot of you, no less.”
    ^^
    I never saw where Billy blamed bitchmade pussies for the demise of hiphop.

    “First of all, the whole concept of “bitchmade” is just plain wrong. It basically serves as a sweeping condemnation of all single moms trying to raise young men. ”
    ^^
    This is where Billy and I differ. To Me, “bitchmade” isnt just anyone who was raied by a single female. “Bitchmade” is someone who may have had a father or not, but someone who has never learned how to be a man. How bout, “mama’s boy” same shit. It means that you look at life and act in life from a female mindstate. Meaning, you dont want trouble, you are overly emotional, you read into things too much, ect. ect. When you act like a female in certin situations where you’re sposed to hold it down like a real man should, instead you act like a bitch. Hence the term “bitchmade” meaning your father or mother never taught you how to be a real man. That is what the term bitchmade means to me.
    I know bitchmade kids who had fathers, but their fathers were too busy doing whatever to teach them how to be a man, I have friends who were raised by single mothers, but the streets taught them how to be a man, the og’s, the old heads, ect. So they arent bitchmade.
    I dont know if Billy with all his “praise the queens” “be a man and marry a black woman” rhetoric was trying to attack the hard working single mothers of the hoods. Also, I dont believe that this argument was the point of the post. There were several points.
    I think you may have taken this a little bit out of context Tara-Squad, even tho I know you’re all about protectin the females and I respect that. It just seems like you saw the title, skimmed through and got a little overly offended. IMO.

    1 hunned.
    ^^^^^^^^
    Co-sign

  • http://www.myspace.com/16kingz da’realestwritin’

    I’ma bitchmade nigga! cuz’ my momma raised a dawg ass nigga! who want it!! rrrr! (all internet tuff on dat ass!)

  • http://www.myspace.com/bookwormbrown booksbrown

    Bitch made means your credibility stems from a suspicious source.
    ex: Dude acts hard but he’s bitch made; he runs with those soft ass bitches from around the way.

    http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Bitch+Made

  • d stapes

    Meaning, you dont want trouble

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^

    dumbest shit i’ve ever read. being a real man means you want trouble. damn…

  • Hannah Smith

    That response from the otherwise meat-headed Sunday pretty much ethered your gal Tara Lara.

  • BlackBoy

    she responded emotionally.. nuff said.

    Sunday won.

  • che

    >Try not to respond… Emotionally.

    What puts you in a position to ask anyone to do that billy?

    >If you read my drop from an emotional platitude you will obviously be offended.

    That ‘emotional platitude’ billy boy, is based on ethics, morals and values. without which, you would rape you’re own mother. and that mental cringe in you’re mind when you read that, is EMOTION. welcome to sensibiltity billy, you just met you’re brain.

    I’m a guy and i can see you for the irresponsible prick that you are billy. you probably have a poster of 50 cent above you’re bed and sleep with a bobby brown figurine.

    you’re scared of emotion, and probably reject the notion that it should exist. I’m not the kinda guy that thinks it’s ok for men to cry once a day and shit, BUT without emotional hatred for what is wrong and what is detrimental to ourselves and society, the human race would be nothing more than animals.

  • Bang

    ”They sacrifice hobbies, interests, and a social life to be around for those kids. And then society tells them that no matter how hard they try, their boys are destined to be incomplete human beings. It’s a pretty disheartening scenario.”

    No, a lot of them are hoes, were hoes, and stay that way, and they raise their sons to be that way. You see it, and I see it

  • Bang

    Tara got “sonned?”

  • http://www.myspace.com/kracktheking KR

    …Tara lost.

    Though Sunday gets his opinion across in some of the most ignorant ways, how Tara tried to counter was just a bunch of feminist bullshit…

  • mannyworld33

    THEY BOTH MADE GOOD POINTS, I CALL IT A TIE.

  • Hurricane Game

    how Tara tried to counter was just a bunch of feminist bullshit…
    ^^^
    Co-sign.

  • NickeNitro

    If you’re paying attention at all, you realize that the point of Billy Sunday’s whole post was to try to stop all the people who disagree with him from expressing their disagreement in the comments by calling them “emotional” and “bitchmade.” Billy Sunday listens to a lot of college rock, so he’s just another follower who thinks people should avoid being “emo,” whatever that is.

    Billy doesn’t know how to respond when someone disagrees with him, so instead he just calls them names like “bitchmade” and says “try not to be emotional.” It’s a classic response to nervous and scared emotions. That’s the only bitchmade move I’m seeing.

  • marlon

    lol at Billy Sunday’s mom. His father must have raised him to think woman (his mom) were worthless. And what did his mom just stand by? I was raised by a single mom (and the block) and for that I am my own man, I wasn’t taught to be a man by another man who needed me to follow his footprints. I make my own.

  • marlon

    and as far as bitchmade. not having respect for women is as gay as it gets.

  • 6-100

    I’m waitingfor Tara’s response to Billy
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    I haven’t got all day

  • http://xxlmag.com Billy X. Sunday

    Tara,
    I apologize in advance for coming up in your lane a second time but I thought I should leave one more dart on some of the blanks that couldn’t glean anything but hate and anti-feminism from the post I dropped.

    Paul Wall has married a Black woman and is being a father to his children. This makes him more of a Black man than any of you cowards. Respect for females, fatherhood and family is at the center of Black manhood. Anything less than that isn’t even a man, nor is it worth discusing.

    Carry on bitches.

    • Soul Child

      FUCK YOU, YOU FATASS COCK SUCKING SON OF A BITCH! How in the hell do you know if any of these people have black wives or take care of their children? Second, of all there is no difference between black or white people so that part is null and void! Respecting women, fatherhood and family (which you lack in every category) are the essence of manhood period and have absolutely nothing to do with race. You’re a disgrace to all level headed black people who don’t think that race matters. I knew you were primitive but I didn’t think you were a pure caveman!

  • che

    >Paul Wall has married a Black woman and is being a father to his children. This makes him more of a Black man than any of you cowards.

    you cowards being…? you don’t know me.

  • che

    >Respect for females, fatherhood and family is at the center of Black manhood.

    are you retarded?? how can you say respect for females when the derrogatory term ‘bitchmade’ that YOU use is a direct contradiction to respecting females.

  • John Brown

    when he says “than any of you cowards” im guessing he is talking bout COWARDS. If you aint a coward it shouldnt offend you. Is like the old saying goes “if the shoe fits”. I am not offended by anything BOL SUNDAY or BILL BOLDAY has said.

  • http://360.yahoo.com/deshawn772004 Federal Ranga

    Che… you a dumbass… Noah… even bigger dumbass… Go back to school, hoes…

  • marlon

    To me that cowards line shows that he is back pedalling. first its all women’s fault until he gets called out then suddenly it is all men are cowards for leaving women to be single moms. some people are men and women are irresponsible i hope his backpedalling shows that he has learned that both sides are equally to blame and that ‘bitchmade’ man can often be more men the manmade man because we become men early, and ‘bitchmade’ nine times out of ten means hungry. hunger drives the world.

  • Cuban Link

    My Effin’ Opinion Says:

    February 23rd, 2007 at 12:33 pm
    Billy, Billy, Billy, .. first Noz now Tara *smh*

    How about we get some tag-team action:

    Bol & Bill vs. Noz & Tara

    Place your bets …

    ^^^^^^I so take Bol and Sunday, $30
    PS Cosign to what u said about XXL Blogger Beef>>Cam Vs 50.In fact XXL Blogger beef>>>most beefs in the hip hop industry today.

  • Voy

    Tara

    Thanks for writing that cause some youngster might read Sunday’s blog and think low of themselves if they are fatherless. Sunday has to think about that when he writes that. All his readers are not 18 and older, what about the 14 year old who read sunday’s blog and was already feeling incomplete!

  • derfla the hus’la

    so black kids need mo role models like paul wall!!!!!.

  • ChuDoc

    if a father decides to bounce on a young son and mother, when that son grows older and eventually gets his girl pregnant, he will either

    a) make sure his kids dont go through what he did, and be a father

    or more likely

    b) get the hell on, because how is he going to be a father when he has nothing to base that on?

    Young kids without fathers are insecure because they dont know thier roots, and thier moms cant teach them the street and how to fight and a shit, so they act tough, and build a wall, so you dont see the fragile inside. That means they’ll get agressive an shit when questioned due to the fact they aint comfortable with the shit themselves.

  • jacquez
  • al-khaliq

    my mama ain’t no bitch.

    the word bitch made ain’t even in my vocabulary.

    to yall dick suckers
    fuck ya!

  • content

    Billy X. Sunday is bitchmade.

    Don’t invade the women’s comment section like the little sore loser you are. Step up and write a post about it like she did. You don’t see her commenting under you shit trying to swing the majority.

    Only bitches don’t fight fair.

  • http://brandonsoderberg.blogspot.com brandonsoderberg

    I’m always with Tara until the final comment when she goes from making sense to taking a side: “But if your father decides to bounce, does that automatically mean you’re emotionally scarred for life? I think not.” while it does not mean the life for a male raised by a single mother is doomed, to suggest that it doesn’t scar them for life is pretty inaccurate. It does. That’s okay, we’re all scarred by some fucked-up shit but don’t say it doesn’t affect them a great deal…

  • http://www.molie-mo.hi5.com molie_mo

    i always thought bitchmade was that u were made my bitch meaning ur mom is a bitch not tht she is a single mother, fuck sunday

  • http://www.myspace.com/sinistahmoneybagz Sinistah…. 973′s Own!

    real talk, and what makes a person “bitchmade” to me is one who doesnt handle their bizness as a man in the true definition and guidelines of what most of us know it as, and not meaning man as in age-wise.

    a bitchmade person to me can be who anotha person may feel is the most thorough dude on their block/hood

  • frostyfreeze

    Dear Unsigned MySpace Rappers,

    No one wants to click on your MySpace link to “go listen” to your MySpace demo. Knock it off, it’s embarassing.

    Sincerely yours,

    Everyone Else

  • BlackBoy

    sometimes I feel an overwhelming sense of dread for our generation looking at some folks’ reading comprehension skills.

    Some of you are reading way too much into what Billy said and are putting words in his mouth and trying to come to conclusions for him… If this is how y’all act on here, I can only imagine how y’all are comprehending things important to the real world offline.

    I hope y’all don’t speak for the majority or we’re ALL in trouble.

  • Melle

    sunday, boy – grow the fuck up. You lost, but maybe you learn from it.

  • yaboy

    Dear Jacquez,

    Eat shit and kill yourself,

    Signed,

    Everyone

  • izzle

    word on the street is billys a punk

  • izzle

    word on the street is, billys always the catcher

  • izzle

    word on the street is, billy sucks at life and tara is bomb

  • izzle

    word on the street is, wayne is a beast and carter III is going to be the beastliest cd ever

  • women can’t raise men.

    women can’t raise men. they raise nice guys who are not fit to fend for themselves or their women in the world. reason being 95% of women are passive agressive, not str8 forward, and are not confrontational(most, not all). that’s fine women are women deal with it. I personally don’t think we could co-exist if the roles were reversed or mixed. which is why we are in such tormoil today.

    now to the juicy part how can you raise us when you tell us one thing but do another. it’s not possible. once again it’s not your fault, it’s how you are programmed. case in point-
    a female will tell her son to give a girl the world and tell her daughter the exact opposite, use what you got to get what you want, which is fine. a mother conditions men to see things from a female perspective so they become nice guys. once again not your fault. but how many times do women say they want a nice guy then turn around and say i need a real man, so they chase bad boys who don’t give a shit about them. not their fault again. long story short bad boys are the closest thing to a real man because they ( notice I said closest) do them and take care of their own priorities first. meanwhile a bitchmade (dare I use the term) caters to their every desire because that’s how they are raised. ladies you only do your job. but he needs a balance. a male around to tell him to stop bitching, to stop being so emotional, to stand up for himself( a lot woman try but telling and showing don’t work the same on a boy. he needs a male to tell him not respond to everything a woman says, not to kiss her ass or she will walk all over you. most important to know when to put her in a place for being disrepect to him as a man. the same works when men can sense it in him. alot of times females with raise him to be polar opposite of his father because of what he did to her ( no doubt he was probably a bad boy). no good, in doing so you normally cut him off from what normally would make him fit in with REAL men. see the social dynamics of society tell us in the new millenium that what makes us men is wrong (due to more single mom households). here is the good part. meanwhile the women are being taught to do what they want, it’s a new day. fuck, get money, w.o.m. women over men. fine but it’s destroying men because we have no one to counter act it. but in the meantime what do all these women do. they scream where are the real men. these nice guys are now the men and they don’t know how to be the men that you need or want.
    long story short…brothers don’t hate them, they do only their best.
    ladies i don’t care if it’s only your neighbor get him involved with more masculine figures and activities.

    finally every situation is different so my last statement doesn’t apply to every female. ( BECAUSE OF DEATH, DIVORCE, OR JAIL..ETC)

    PUT A CONDOM ON. IF HE DOESN’T WANT TO BE A FATHER LISTEN TO HIM INSTEAD OF THINKING HE WILL COME AROUND TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING. IT MAY BE YOUR CHOICE BY LAW BUT SHOULD HE HAVE TO LIVE WITH YOU DECISION FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE (UNLESS U PREPARED TO DO IT ALONE CONSIDER OTHER ALTERNATIVES.)

    NOW TO BROTHERS WE NEED Y’ALL, I NEEDED U’ALL GROWING UP. DO YOUR JOB.

    I AM NOT TAKING SIDES, BUT IT TOOK A WHILE TO CRACK THE CODE TO MATRIX OF WHAT A MAN IS…TOO BAD i DON’T HAVE TIME TO GO BACK AND FIND THE REST…

  • Mygrassisgreener

    If you really THINK about what Billy Sunday is saying, it’s very profound. He makes some very good points about the values prevalent amongst men raised exclusively by women (aka bitchmade). It is very hard to deny that a large number of this type handle themselves like women due to a lack of male role models. I was raised by a single mother due to my parents divorcing. However, my mother was aware of how important it was for me and my brother to have an excellent example of Black manhood in our lives, and she took great pains to make sure we were constantly in contact with some responsible,dignified,assertive men. I agree with Billy S. when he takes women to task for procreating with men of questionable character, leaving their own character to be questioned in turn. A lot of women are single mothers because they dealt with a man that they knew wasn’t about shit, but turned a blind eye to his glaring deficiencies in order to satisfy some superficial or base desires. If the man you’re dealing with right now is a sociopath, becoming pregnant and having his child will not change him. Wake up! Make intelligent choices! Get an idea of what a real man looks, walks, talks, smells, sounds and acts like, and then go get yourself and (if you’re a single mom)your son one.

  • http://www.myspace.com/enigmasept MR. FATSO

    If a dude is bitchmade because he was raised by his mother, isn’t one for that fact. He’s bitchmade because his father was a bitch for not taking responsibility. Single black mothers are some of the strongest, realest people I’ve met. So for anyone to shyt on them must be really caught up on some cracka ass, Bill O’Reilly, George W. for a third term, my farm just got flattened by a tornado, I only see black people on rap video on MTV, I’m really a Mormon and BYU is my favorite team, WASP bullshyt.

  • Castro517

    Any man that has children and doesnt stick around to help raise them (and you dont HAVE to stay with the woman) is bitchmade. You got kids and you dont see em? (when you could) Youse a hoe. You got kids and you spend your $ on clothes and drinking at the bar and not enough on your children? Youse a hoe. If you cant accept the responsibility that comes with sex you shouldnt be Fu***ng. Period. Be a man not a child. Men take care of their children and raise them like a man should. Bitchmade is not accepting and taking care of your responsibilities. Anybody disagree?

  • http://songsresounds.blogspot.com German Simon

    http://www.xxlmag.com‘s done it again! Superb post!