Baby, where did our love go?

First of all happy Valentine’s Day to everyone reading this. I’d be lying if I said my chances of scoring this evening were more than likely, but who knows. If any young ladies in the area are reading this and want to meet me at the Jack in the Box over by the airport for some tacos and some verbal abuse, you know where I can be reached (i.e., in my mother’s basement). Then we could see where it leads from there. A case of Natty back at Bol’s place? Me giving it to you like Jason Patric on Amy Brenneman in the last scene of Your Friends & Neighbors?

Anything’s possible.

No but really, has there ever been a community in such a state of romantic disfunction as the hip-hop community? Probably not, right? The statistics seem to bear this out. Perhaps you’ve read these before elsewhere, but just so we’re all on the same page, here goes.

Black people are the least married group of people in the US. In 2001, according to the US Census, 43.3 percent of black men and 41.1 percent of black women had never been married. I know I hadn’t! (My dorm at the time gave us free Blow Pops if we participated in the US Census.) In contrast, only 27.4 percent of white men and 20.7 percent of white women (presumably the most fucked up-looking white chicks evar) had never been married.

Black women in particular are having a tough go at it. A recent story in the New York Times heralded the fact that more than half of all women in the US are now living without a spouse, but the statistics are heavily skewed by race. In fact, most white, Asian, and hispanic women are living with a spouse. It’s black women, of which less than a third are married, who are dragging down the average.

Liberal Jew-run piece of shit that it is, of course the Times story attempted to portray this as the majority of women up and deciding of their own volition that they don’t need a man. But as a story that appeared the next day in the Columbia Journalism Review pointed out, a) it’s not all women we’re talking about here, but primarily black women, and b) what kind of woman do you know to just decide she’d rather die poor and lonely.

Granted, I’m sure a lot of this has to do with the overall state of social disfunction in the black community, having to do with education, unemployment, the prison industrial complex and what have you, but that can’t be it, right? More black people these days are joining the middle class than ever before, but our relationships don’t seem to be improving. Black men and women just seem to not get along more than men and women of any other race.

What do you ‘bags think? Does the black woman need to work on her attitude? Do black men need to grow up? Is this the white woman’s fault for being so desirable? All of the above?

  • Randomname

    lol

    Ps what happened to YN’s last post. It was really funny, someone must have put a call into the XXL offices. I don’t think he took any shots at G-unit.

  • LONZO

    Currrrtisssssssssss!
    we dont call police five-o anymore, them pigs are called currrtisssss.

  • The DJ Formerly Known as N-CREDIBLE

    What do you bags’ think? Does the black woman need to work on her attitude? Do black men need to grow up? Is this the white woman’s fault for being so desirable? All of the above?

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    Bol you g=disgust me…with that said…yes a lot of black women’s attitudes and mentalities need to change…a lot of them have a hard time supporting and submitting…yes there is a good % of black males who arent being the men they are supposed to be…yes the injustices in the social system has a lot to do with it…and guess what they are lined up like dominoes…what is needed is for the cycle to end…and some of it has to do with the women being the bread winners(which stems from discrimination against black males in the work place)…my point is that there are a lot of factors…the only thing we as a community can do is individually prove the stereotypes wrong…that movie Tyler Perry(New Orleans native) made represents the positive black brothers we have in our communities…the media never shows us black males in a positive light…we as black males need more positive role models…the good black men need to stand up and be heard…OH AND NOTHING IS MORE DESIRABLE THAN THE BLACK WOMAN…

  • http://xxlmag.com robin_tha_hood

    lil’ wayne is a homo thug

    t(‘.’t)

  • lukee lefty

    i think i found out how to kill blogging posts lets see…….how come Kingdom Come wasnt reviewed in XXL ???

    *waits to see what happens*

  • Phuque

    wack.

  • `young

    first biddieyatch

  • `young

    dang, it took me a minit to read that collomn

  • mista23

    big ups to “THE DJ FORMERLY KNOWN AS N-INCREDIBLE” I co-sign

  • derfla the hus’la

    attitudes should change, black men should take more responsibilies for their actions the system should stop pulling us down……

    with that said how bout talking about the rate of divorce in the u.s for both black and white i wanna know who has a higher divorce rate.

  • lonestoar

    1st

  • -MLW

    I wouldn’t know, I don’t date black women. Seems like to much work. I do know i have reservations for two at White Castle tonight. Seriously, they’re lighting candles, handing out menus and providing table side service. I heard they did this last year, but I missed out. I don’t know if Jack In the Box is any further East then St. Louis. I haven’t seen any.

  • j

    I find black woman have deff got an attitude problem!

  • Couda

    Bol, you should give up blogging. You look like a fat donatello. I want the old BOL back. Just because you got exposed, for your herb status and your newspaper clippings on your wall doesnt mean you have to be this scared Bol.

    You aint been on your grind, go back to the days where you was wearing hoodies and timbs(calling people out). You are the cuurrrtiiissss of blogging you might want to fall back from blogging. You singing on these blogs fam. You writing shit ol girl tara would write, and her posts are wack and boring. BOl you lost it. I guess you like that fat kid who loves cake.

    I know you come from a white background and you hang around mostly white people, but why are you blogging about the white rapper show? That shit is wack. Bol I bet you can count how many black friends you got on your hand. Dont front you pointed out the city and demographic that you lived in. That is abercrombie and fitch town/ sketchers and old navy/oshbgosh wearing as fools.

    Dog step, your speech game up. I can tell that you havent had in pussy at all. Your communication skills is straight garbage, you would probably bust a nut if a girl approached you on the humble. SMH at you Bol. Lets go back to 88.

    Nigga go make some neckbol’s. Lupe Fiasco would be proud.

  • john cochran

    Does the black woman need to work on her attitude? Do black men need to grow up? Is this the white woman’s fault for being so desirable? All of the above?
    All of the above definetly.
    Black women don’t really have sense, Black men dont really have sense, and White women dont really have ass.

  • E AKA THE REAL NORIEAGA

    Black chicks need to work on their attitudes. And learn how to make hand made tortillas if they want E AKA The Real Norieaga to holla at them.

  • jacquez
  • http://www.myspace.com/16kingz da’realestwritin’

    IT’S A NASTY LIL’ CIRCLE (NO HERPES)
    BUT THE MATTER OF TYHE FACT IS WE AS BLACKS FUCK IT UP FOR EACH OTHER YA DIG?!, SOME BLACK MEN (NOTE THE SOME DAMMNIT!) WHO LACK IN ERE’THING BUT A DEATH SENTENCE DON’T KNOW HOW TO CONDUCT THEMSELVES AROUND STRONG BLACK WOMEN AND STRONG BLACK WOMEN (RUN NIGGA! RUN!) DON’T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE POSITIONS OF POWER (NOTE I DIDN’T SAY SOME). WITH BLACKS WERE BRED TO HAVE POSITIONS OF POWER FROM THE JUMP, WHO’S MAMA WANTS HER DAUGHTER TO SING BACK UP IN THE CHOIR, WHAT FATHER WANTS A THIRD STRING SON? (FILL IN BOL JOKES ACCORDINGLY). SO THIS AFFECTS ARE VERY NATURE OF DATIN,INTERACTING AND YES THE DREADED “M” WORD.IT’S ALL ABOUT CONTROL AND WHO’S GOT THE UPPERHAND AND WHO’S DOIN WHAT FOR WHO, WE GET SO WRAPPED UP IN THIS SHIT WE NEVER TRULY GET TO EXPERIENCE LOVE LIKE THE OLD DAYS.YOU KNOW, DAT’ SHIT DAT’ GRANNY AND POP-POP GOT.THEY LASTED CUZ’ THEY BOTH CAME UP WIT’OUT SHIT ALL THEY HAD WAS LOVE.FOOTNOTE:pop-pop also had another family so the stress of ya’ granny wasn’t fuckin his high up all the time cuz’ he prolly kickin’ wit’sheila the hula gurl on the side.

    maybe jus’ my family………?

  • Avenger

    Let’s see what could have caused this hmmmm

    Could it be the fact that blacks traded everything including there very soul to escape urban blight and joined the me generation(i.e. the fuck you pay me set) at the expense of there community.
    Yes there are more middle class blacks but this did nothing for the underlying learned hatred for ones on group coupled with the capitalists lust to gain and throw in the prison industrial complex and you have the formula to build self destructive people bent getting rich or dieng trying. See white folks still view marriage as a status symbol they veiw children like pets everybody gots to have some then they fall apart by time the brats are old enough to be fucked up by the divorce. Black folks status is pure money, money rules every aspect of our life now (c.r.e.a.m bitches)even how you whorsip your god. Marraige is an after thought. Besides MArriage requires vision and planning for the future and a level of maturity that most young black folks are exactly cornering the market in now a days. Most cats just want a few sweet nights not a lifetime or building anything stable.

    And all these self hating folks who think sisters have atitudes, black women are your reflection you idiots they are frustrated and stay on the defense in the same way you are forced to be on the defense every day. If I was treated like a hoe by every piece of shit that calls themselves men who look like me and I came from the same fucked up environement that only breads rappers,dealers and ball players how the fuck you expect them to have an atitude like some white broad who grew up with both parents with a somewhat normal american life(at least before there parents divorced and fucked them up).

    Black folks just need to stop hating everything black and figure out what is the true root of the shit. our atitudes and actions are defense mechanism bitches on guard.

    Also most of the fucks that speak negative about women are just folks who have been hurt or cats who need to go to the white girls and wait for there dads to hang them out to dry, The klan ain’t dead there now called neocons wake up fucks

  • nike3

    If you want a good black woman…go for an African. they not full of mouth like their African American counterparts who think they own half the planet. they keep their legs closed too

  • nike345

    If you want a good black woman…go for an African. they not full of mouth like their African American counterparts who think they own half the planet.

  • r

    THE DJ FORMELY KNOWN AS N-CREDIBLY GAY

  • lady

    great topic bol…though I don`t agree with your point on saying the white women are desirable….a black man saying that shame on you …DON`T YOU EVER FORGET THAT IT WAS A BLACK WOMAN WHO MADE YUOUR ASS….DON

  • http://whocareswhatpeoplethink thecollinb

    using a 2001 census isn’t a good look but this is a dope piece bol.
    what can be said man is this…and i know it’s gonna sound moronic but it’s dead real…..niggas are in love with their moms and these black hoes these days dont have mom qualities (and being overweight is not a mom quality)…subsequently niggas dont fuck with them like that anymore unless their trying to score some Uncut style poon.
    think about it
    p.s. i’m 23 and married to a black female who is a lot like my mom so i’m bias

  • http://myspace.com/djchase247 Eastside Bread Maker

    See the problems have to do not with the attitudes of the black women nor the lack of responsibility of the black man, but the lack of knowledge of how to make a relationship work. See when the older generation was watching their parents struggle through life they vowed to not let that happen to them, so they rebelled and rejected the teachings from their parents in an effort to make their future better. But what they failed to realize was that they were rejecting some of the key core elements of how to make a relationship work.

    Because of this coupled with the fact that we are living in a “ME FIRST” generation, women feel that listening to anything that a man says is stripping them of their independence and some men feel that if i have to tell this bitch one more time not to boil the rice for too long i’m gonna kill her… Oops sorry, that was a private thought. Yea men feel that there is no need to bother with supporting and providing for a woman because that takes more effort than tricking some Applebees money on a bitch and then hittin the cot.

    Being happily married is hard and unfortunately the little things that our parents and their parents knew that made it easier was not transferred down to our generation.

  • john cochran

    thecollinb Says:
    and being overweight is not a mom quality
    ^^^^^^^^^^
    You a fool boy!
    But since you mentioned fat chicks. I’d like to talk about them for a minute. See, back in the day (when fat chicks were kinda rare) you could rely on them to be wifey material and hold you down. Now, all these bitches are fat and thewy acting like they dimes. And since some of you idiots fuck everything moving they be getting away with it.

  • RMX ft. Das EFX

    Maybe if y’all didn’t treat yr women like such ish, you wouldna have this problem. Give yr “b*tches and hoes” my digits, bro, I’ll set her straight.

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol

    >using a 2001 census isn’t a good look but this is a dope piece bol.

    Who wants to say it? Because if I said it, I’d just look like an asshole.

  • Belize

    NAw, just most black women are takin care of thier business b4 they get hitched.

    By the way, Ruben studdard wants his swag back. I heard he’s suing u for copyright infingment.

  • http://www.myspace.com/thaanswermikeyd Dip Set City

    Natty is the shit. Perhaps some E&J would be more inticing for em Bol!

  • http://www.thesbdexperience.com livefromthe225

    “Is this the white woman’s fault for being so desirable?”…even if you were actually black i don’t think this line could’ve been funnier…

    you’ze a crazy cracka Bol

  • E AKA THE REAL NORIEAGA

    SKEET SKEET SKEET

  • Jay Smooth

    What do you ‘bags think? Does the black woman need to work on her attitude? Do black men need to grow up? Is this the white woman’s fault for being so desirable? All of the above?

    I think there is too many factors to consider when analyzing and articulating the plight of blacks and the social interaction b/t men and females. But let’s address Bol’s questions above.

    1. I do think the attitude of black women need to change. Now I realize that this is not every black woman but their abrasive(sometimes confrontational) attitudes don’t allow for us men to see them beyond a platonic relationship. Avenger’s comments above said it best that we naturally tend to love the qualities are mothers possess. Unfortunately, with so many young women having babies, they don’t instill the qualities and values needed to be a strong, yet supportive women for a man. Maybe even more important is with many of them becoming successful financially in the new millenium, alot of men don’t feel comfortable having their girls being the bread winner. Unfortunately, alot of these women don’t help the matter by acknowledging this on a constant basis.

    2. Yes, alot of us men do need to grow up. Not just individually, but within our communities b/c even your boyz won’t support you being “faithful” or taking that leap to “marriage” today b/c there is this notion that we need 2 or 3 just to satisfy us! Big misconception! If one focuses their attention on the things their ladies have, rather than what they lack, we may be able to make some significant advances in our relationships.

    3. And lastly, I’m a lover of beauty, regardless of race, but as a black men who goes to college with predominantly white people, I can tell you that their is no race of women superior to blacks. They embody all the physical attributes that makes them irresistable!

    Therefore, in conclusion I simply propose that we as a people change our mentality and outlook on life, not just black men or women. Go back to the old days where having a family and raising your kids to be good indiviuals was important. Morals and values over montary gain(money)!

  • http://myspace.com/gunitsoldier50xl Ether

    I Don’t Agree With You Saying White Women Are Desirable, But Then Again Who Are You To Be Talkin Bout Marriage….

  • http://www.myspace.com/chronikill ROX ONE

    >using a 2001 census isn’t a good look but this is a dope piece bol.
    —–
    “Who wants to say it? Because if I said it, I’d just look like an asshole”

    ^^
    LOL, you gave them a chance man.

    THE CENSUS IS ONLY CONDUCTED ONCE EVERY TEN YEARS.

  • http://www.myspace.com/chronikill ROX ONE

    I already commented on this, but perhaps this site has some sort of “truth-blocker.”

    To the person above THE CENSUS IS ONLY CONDUCTED ONCE EVERY 10 YEARS, THEREFORE 2000 OR 2001 IS THE MOST RECENT DATA AVAILABLE.

  • DRR

    Hey Bol, remember when you used to write about rap? yeah me neither.

  • thoreauly77

    bol- interesting post. i personally think women of all races are desirable, and have dated whites, blacks, asians, native americans, and of course my favorite (having grown up in cali), las chicas mexicanas. i cant comment on the state of the black community, but i can comment on the state of our generation of men and women, and my two cents =

    we are a spoiled group of individuals that are obsessed with all things “new”, all things that “shine”, and when this “newness” wears off, so does the appeal, thereby leading to someone or something getting dropped faster than game from aftermath.

    this, in my humble opinion, is a result of our consumer culture and affects all races.

  • FuckUPayMe618

    A bol what part of the lou u from? Yall ni66as know wht happens when yall cross that bridge and come to the east side.

  • thatwhitedude

    Bol you g=disgust me…with that said…yes a lot of black women’s attitudes and mentalities need to change…a lot of them have a hard time supporting and submitting…yes there is a good % of black males who arent being the men they are supposed to be…yes the injustices in the social system has a lot to do with it…and guess what they are lined up like dominoes…what is needed is for the cycle to end…and some of it has to do with the women being the bread winners(which stems from discrimination against black males in the work place)…my point is that there are a lot of factors…the only thing we as a community can do is individually prove the stereotypes wrong…that movie Tyler Perry(New Orleans native) made represents the positive black brothers we have in our communities…the media never shows us black males in a positive light…we as black males need more positive role models…the good black men need to stand up and be heard…OH AND NOTHING IS MORE DESIRABLE THAN THE BLACK WOMAN…
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    how did i know you were gonna post some BS about how its not black people’s fault at all but the system’s, media’s, and the white man’s for holding the black man down etc.? ps. i think most people would rank the hottest white woman above the hottest black woman in terms of looks alone, no matter what race the person is…

  • mzfinegirl

    bol u are a hater of black woman black msic and black people in all. black woman arent the only ones wit attitude every person in the world has attitudes. and what about all these abusing men out here. or fatass ugly men without a REal paying job like u. everyone has issues quit watching t.v. u dont even goout anywhere so who are u to judge a whole race character. from my opinion women in all are emotional. yes blaack women like me are more louder but my attitude dont affect nothing because i still have a valentine. and i hate women people are ALWAYS hating on black people.

  • mzfinegirl

    white woman are ugly only like back men for thier HUGE dicks. dont kno about u tho bol. but otherwise i dont see wat black men see in whitewoman their so trashy. not all of them but most are.

  • FuckUPayMe618

    Hey bol have you ever been to the East Side? We got the best strip clubs in america

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol

    >Hey bol have you ever been to the East Side? We got the best strip clubs in america

    Well, you’ve certainly got the only clubs with the sheer balls to charge $10 to see an amputee, albeit an amputee with a ridonkulous ass, but still.

  • thatwhitedude

    and if you don’t believe my saying that black women aren’t the hottest of the races, just ask anyone if they are mad about the new beyonce SI Swimsuit cover, just about anyone who is straight would rather see an exotic swedish/european model or hot brazilian/latino on the cover than beyonce, and she is considered one of the hottest black women currently…

  • mzfinegirl

    well alot of people in my family are married and im black and come from a 98% black family background. only ugly disrespectful black men go for white wemon. me being a young black woman know that there are some black men who will treat you so good will do anything for you. But some are fown right dirty and grimy with you.

  • mzfinegirl

    lukee lefty Says:

    February 14th, 2007 at 3:13 pm
    i think i found out how to kill blogging posts lets see…….how come Kingdom Come wasnt reviewed in XXL ???

    *waits to see what happens*

    because jayz knew the album sucked and if he had put it in xxl they would have put iit as a “L” or “M”

  • mzfinegirl

    thatwhitedude Says:

    February 14th, 2007 at 7:39 pm
    and if you don’t believe my saying that black women aren’t the hottest of the races, just ask anyone if they are mad about the new beyonce SI Swimsuit cover, just about anyone who is straight would rather see an exotic swedish/european model or hot brazilian/latino on the cover than beyonce, and she is considered one of the hottest black women currently…
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    Your white u dont count in this argument besides u wouldnt want ablack woman anyway.

  • mzfinegirl

    thatwhitedude Says:

    February 14th, 2007 at 7:24 pm

    how did i know you were gonna post some BS about how its not black people’s fault at all but the system’s, media’s, and the white man’s for holding the black man down etc.? ps. i think most people would rank the hottest white woman above the hottest black woman in terms of looks alone, no matter what race the person is…
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

    SHUT UP U RACIST wHITe BOY WANTING TO BE BLACK. U CANnot comMENt oN bBLACK MEN TASTES. BECAUSE I KNOW I WOULD CHOOSE A BLACK MAN OVER A DUTY STANKING ASS LITTLE DICK WHITe MAN ANYDAY. PROLLY UGLY YO DAMSELF> U UP HERE ON XXLMAG LOVING BLACK MUSIC AND SHIT. BUT YET U FORGOT WHo MOTHERS BIRTHED THeM RAPPERS YO gays LOVE SO MUCH. THE DaMN POST WASNT EVEN ABOUT WHO LOOK BETTER THAN WHo CRACKER. IT WAS ABOUT HOW BLACK PEOPLE AS A SOCIEtY DONT KnOW How TO MAKE RELaTIONSHIPS WORK. NOW I DAREE YO pUNKWHITE ASS COMMENT SOMEtHING BACK or SAY ANOTHER RACIST joKE CRACKER. GO LISTEN TO SOME COUNTrY.

  • thatwhitedude

    white woman are ugly only like back men for thier HUGE dicks. dont kno about u tho bol. but otherwise i dont see wat black men see in whitewoman their so trashy. not all of them but most are.
    ^^^^^^^^
    yeah you are DEF right, white women are so trashy, if only they had REAL class and posted comments on blogs under such monikers as “MZFINEGIRL” (i’m surprised you didn’t go for “Gurl”, was it already taken?)

    and as for your other comments, i just skimmed em cause its blatantly obvious you have no intellect and can’t spell worth a damn, so i doubt you can make a valib point or sentence that makes one bit of sense, but i did notice you called me a racist, which i am not and never made any racist comments/jokes at all?!?!?, yet you are the one calling me a “cracker” and telling me to go listen to country cause in some weird way you think music can be owned and possessed by a whole race, welcome to america where i can do as i damn please, go read a book and banging all your babies’ daddies and maybe you’ll get somewhere with your sorry excuse for a life, so yeah i DID respond and i did talk about your lame living-off-a-welfare check ass while you got 6 kids and no husband, maybe you’re just mad cause this post by bol basically called your ass out…ps. it appears your caps lock is on? but yeah i don’t expect you to know how to turn that off since your hands are probably glued to the crack pipe most of the day. suck my tiny white dick, thanks.

  • thatwhitedude

    Your white u dont count in this argument besides u wouldnt want ablack woman anyway.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    hmmmmm i wonder why i or any man with sense would EVER want a black woman in the first place, judgin by how your acting…

  • Sneaky

    whitedude,

    SHUT THE FUCK UP.

  • EnglandRepresent

    it appears your caps lock is on? but yeah i don’t expect you to know how to turn that off since your hands are probably glued to the crack pipe most of the day. suck my tiny white dick, thanks.

    ^^LMFAO!!! Oh shit, thats good right there. I fucks with any bitch of any colour as long as their not minging. White women are good in my book, black English women are the bomb, them NYC mami’s are whats really good and black african-americans have got a lot of fuckin attitude. I got mad love for my nubian queens but you Yankee sisters need to sit down and every once in a while and SHUT THE FUCK UP.

  • mzfinegirl

    thewhitedude is that what you really think about blackwomen huh? u really are racist. just to let u know im only 17, with no kids and my momma makes a decent amount of money. so i just proved your simple minded ass wrong. you really think white women are so glorious huh? CRACKER. u ever think about white men. 1. yall smell like a wet dog. and yall smell like feet. 2. yall annoying as hell. 3. yall think yall better than the whole world and your not yall jus ugly with them extra pointy nose.

  • Cuban Link

    (My dorm at the time gave us free Blow Pops if we participated in the US Census.)

    ^^^^^lmao but u shouldve put no homo.

    PS all of the above

  • Cuban Link

    Randomname Says:

    February 14th, 2007 at 2:50 pm
    lol

    Ps what happened to YN’s last post. It was really funny, someone must have put a call into the XXL offices. I don’t think he took any shots at G-unit.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^i dont think anyone thought he did considering the dick-riding homo at gunitworld/hh411 posted it on his site (no weezy F baby)

  • mzfinegirl

    and u know what else whiteboy? our generation well mine( dont know how old u are) is much different. because at school alot of my friends be going with these whiteboys. not the dusty ugly ones, but the ones who be acting black wishing they were. and tomyself i be like what is yall thinking? But i guess its changing.

  • You know who….

    Feminism destroyed the Black Female.

  • Belize

    @ The White dude

    i dont normally talk that “internet gangsta” shyt on here but ill pay anybody 100 buck plus some a zip of dat ueberryblay ushkay to personally woop your ass.

    jokes aside, im sayin: U a bitch dude

    matter of fact why do I waste my time on bol’s blog anyway.

    He aint even real. I think ill read Sunday’s shyt until he does a interview that is totally the opposite of the way he writes.

    Now excuse me as I finish doin my laundry as I wait for sum pumpum to arrive.

  • Equanimity

    MZFINEGIRL:

    Word of advice:

    You cant attempt to discredit an individual who makes generalizations about a race, by making generalizations about that individual’s race….

    Your whole argument will come off hypocritical

  • thatwhitedude

    @ people taking my joking comments to one of the dumbest bitches i’ve ever seen comment on a blog seriously, the crazy bitch got “ig’nant” and racist first, all i did was fight ignorance with ignorance cause i thought it was pretty fucking funny a person with the username “mzfinegirl” would come at me like that, obviously the bitch is pissed that white girls are taking all the big black dick from her and she is left with no daddy-less kids to look after…what kinda world we living in nowadays when a 17 yr old “sista” living with her “moms” can’t birth an illegitimate child???? (and yeah i noticed how she didn’t say her DAD was making the money, i assume he is either outta the picture or a deadbeat, typical? black women may be bitches but at least they usually hold they own/take care of the family/get that paper stripping unless they get a hold of that crack pipe) ps. i’m 23 fyi, i didn’t know a 6 yr gap was a whole fuckin generation, and i am DEF not one of those “crackas” who wishes he was black, why the hell would any sane person desire that?????…

    on a serious note, i love women of all colors and creeds, in the end i just hate dumb ignorant ass loud mouthed bitches…c. mzfinegirl (i bet she ain’t even fine)

  • yung ceasa

    >>>>>>>>>>>>Does the black woman need to work on her attitude? Do black men need to grow up? Is this the white woman’s fault for being so desirable? All of the above?

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    bein as i haven’t been on herre to post a reply in a while i guess i’ll take a stab at this one. bol actually has a point seein as he pointed out that women outside of tha black race are more desireable, some black dudes are immature and black women do have stank attitudes but he and tha rest of tha d-bags (i.e. the new york times) left out a very important race of women, tha mixed women. they are tha ultimate women they have tha best aspescts of every race, tha exotic look, tha stank attitude and so-on and so-on. now to me it aint about tha race of women, but then again it is because some full-blooded females be havin really stank ass attitudes, but then again all girls nowdays do so its not that. seein as im goin wit a girl who is black, rican, indian, and white it doesn’t really matter tha race but rather tha connection i have wit that female, dig? far as it goes for black women they have few good and a lot of stupid reasons for not hookin up wit black dudes, like for instance they will hook up wit a white dude or hispanic dude cause they want their kids to have good hair. now thats a double-standard 4 ya bitch.

  • mannyworld33

    TOILET BOL!
    GOOD POST AND A BETTER SUBJECT!
    WE AS A WHOLE(black people)NEED TO GET IT TOGETHER. THERE ARE FAR TOO MANY BROKEN HOMES AND SINGLE PARENTS!

    FUCK A VALENTINE!

  • EReal

    Its all pink on the inside, thats how I roll.

    The white girl problem started when white girls decided they were gonna grow an ass.

    Latina bitches are the hottest, IMO, they got the dime piece game on lock. Just ask Vida Gurrera and The Gayme.

    Who wants to get married anymore peroid? Im on that Gene Simmons, happily unmarried shit. Forrealz.

    Mz Fine Girl, Its hard for anyone to take you seriously if you can’t spell for shit and have zero grammar skills.

    1 hunned.

  • r

    er i hate to break this to black people but white people don’t get offended when u call them a cracker

  • BLADE

    THE THING IS BLACK WOMAN DONT KNOW THE MEANING OF A INDEPENDENT WOMAN, THEY THINK REBELLING AND ATTIUDE WITH THERE MAN IS A STRONG A WOMAN. A STRONG WOMAN IS WOMAN WHO WORK HARD SO SHE DOESNT HAVE TO DEPEND ON NOBODY, TKAES CARES A BUISNESS AT HOME, AND BE THERE FOR HER MAN MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY.
    I HAVE DATED WHITE WOMAN, BLACK WOMEN, AND
    HISPANIC WOMAN; OUT OF ALL THOSE RACES THE BLACK WOMAN WAS THE HARDEST TO DEAL WITH. THERE ATTITUDES IS CRAZY, ITS LIKE IF ITS NOT THERE WAY THEN ALL HELL COMES OUT, BUT IF YOU DONT SHOW BACKBONE THEN YOUR A WEAK GUY. YOU CAN WIN WITH THEM. A STRONG BALCK MAN LIKE MYSELF IS NOT GOING TO PUT UP WITH THAT, SO WHEN I BLACK WOMAN ENDS UP WITH MARRYING A MAN HE MIGHT BE A DIRT BAG. BLESSINGS TO ALL MY STRONG, POSITIVE, GOOD BLACK WOMAN WHO ARE OUT HERE.

  • jon jon–23

    I love black women but I have noticed that white women are willing to do just about anything for their men. Some lazy black men recognize this and take advantage of it by using them for money or whatever. I definitely have found a lot of black women to be a little meaner and non-compliant than white women, as well as arrogant. A lot of black women could be broke, uneducated, with a couple of kids; but if they got a booty they can be arrogant and confrontational. I found that smart and successful black women are some of the sweetest and sexiest on the face of the earth.

  • E-20

    I hate to break this to white people but black people dont care if you get offended or not when we call you crackers or honk honks. It just makes us feel so damn gooood!

  • http://whocareswhatpeoplethink thecollinb

    typing it in caps just shows that it’s still not valid info….just in capital letters.
    i’ve got a college degree in communications bro, i know how often the census is taken

  • 11kap

    none of the above, because you can’t really tell people what to do or how to act. you just gotta let people be who they are, but black people don’t accept each other, because we don’t have much SOUL left anymore. the men want attention, but the women don’t wanna be bothered, so you have to try to work it out on your own, until someone eventually understands who your purpose for being here. you gotta still love each other regardless. we are all we have in this racist, backward country called america. The more we slip behind the more everyone else will too, even tho they won’t admit it. just look around. everyone is miserable these days.

  • JML5150

    We all need to get our collective shit together. We as black people have to learn to submit at certain points in relationships. You cannot win every point arguement etc. I know some women hsve been hurt in the past so you take the “strong black woman” role.You jump out to confront every non satifactory situation no matter how small with emotion and attitude. Its cool to be strong sometimes, but as many have said there is a time to “shut the fuck up” and let a man be a man. Learn to be humble. For men we cant be hard all the time. Show your women some kindness and tenderness. You cant be a thug/pimp/player all the time. They are not all goldiggers. Compliment your woman on something other than how fat her ass is. We also have gotten away from some of the old school gender roles. Sistas who dont know how, learn to cook, clean, sew etc. I dont care how fine, how big your ass is, how good is your head game is, every man wants a home cooked meal at some point. Just cause you look good is no excuse. Men learn how to change a tire, put up a ceiling fan, hang a picture. You know the shit our fathers (for those that had them) did. We can blame prison, no job opportunites, etc for the breakdown of black families. But it does not stop use from making a plethora of kids out of wedlock. Black people we need to learn a little self control/birth control. Why should little Malik want to get married to his babies mama if his father never married his? This shit will only continue if we dont take a active stance to change. But thats just my opinion, I could be wrong…

  • dolo

    Whitedude you must be blind if you aint feelin beyonce on that cover .. Beats 99% of the si swimsuit covers in the past with them skinny ass chicks

  • Trife Da Soul Ripper

    Good post still, on point dukes.

  • Big D

    BOLL YOU’RE PROBABLY ONE OF THE REASON WHY MORE BLACK WOMEN ARE STILL SINGLE CAUSE NIGGERS LIKE YOU LOVE GOING FOR THE MOST FUCKED UP LOOKING WHITE SLUTS THAT NO WHITE GUYS WANT, AND THINK YOU’RE ALL THAT. BY THE WAY HOW DID YOU GET THIS JOB YOU FUCKING DUMB NIGGER LOL.

  • LDN

    u did the same story a while back, quit recycling your articles

  • http://NONE KILLA BLACK

    I think alot of black men and women dont really know what kind of partner is good for them.Thats why i feel when were young you should deal or be in a few relationships to see the tipe of person that is good for you. You dont have to fuck everybody your with, just see what you want out of a relationship, and if the person cant give you that, then move on. But sometimes people dont give there self time to see how their mate is, they just start having babies, then they find out how their mate really is, and by then its too late. Cause in the begining both people are on their best behavior, not trying to turn the other person off with how they really are. And alot of people get together to make ends meet, make it easier on there bills and not on how much they love eachother. please be smart my people, know how your laying with. but we can learn this threw good music, check some out. (myspace.com/blu-black)

  • http://NONE KILLA BLACK

    I think alot of black men and women dont really know what kind of partner is good for them.Thats why i feel when were young you should deal or be in a few relationships to see the tipe of person that is good for you. You dont have to fuck everybody your with, just see what you want out of a relationship, and if the person cant give you that, then move on. But sometimes people dont give there self time to see how their mate is, they just start having babies, then they find out how their mate really is, and by then its too late. Cause in the begining both people are on their best behavior, not trying to turn the other person off with how they really are. And alot of people get together to make ends meet, make it easier on there bills and not on how much they love eachother. please be smart my people, know how your laying with. but we can learn this threw good music, check some out. (myspace.com/blu-black)

  • RLAUREN

    there are several reasons that black marry less…i’ll only touch on a couple… roles of black men and women have changed…”hip hop-and society” tells our women that it is most important what a dude drives, or how much bling he has… it tells our men that you need those things to be considered somebody..we as a people spend more time keeping up with jones’s instead of taking care of home, raising our kids, and being a family. it’s just not viewed as cool…i’m gettin married in 2 weeks…i’m 28, and my homeboys act like i’m going to the death chamber, that it’s over for me. they are all 30 and up…a few with baby mamma’s…(plural) and showing no signs of slowing up. why not? for da club? niggas gonna be 40 + in da club….it boils down to men not wanting to accept responsibility because it’s not viewed as cool, women who say they want a thug, but then he’s too much, then they want and a good dude, but he is just too square…

  • Lil Wil

    I like what you said RLAUREN. I wonder how many people have ever heard of WILLIE LYNCH. Go to Google and search it. Read up on him and you will be amazed. It’s still going on today and that’s why this story is even brought up. WILLIE LYNCH

  • http://www.itsbaltimorebaby.com C Love

    Great topic! ….tho I have wasted too much energy arguing this topic on sites like topix.com and craigslist….so I won’t write a chapter here.

    Black men need to learn to really love black people again.

    YES!!! I putting it on Black Men. You say that we have too much attitude…we are not willing to bend and be submissive….

    WELL ….step up and do some MANLY and COURAGEOUS THINGS!!!

    I feel that black women still know and understance (although some might not live as such)
    our responsibility to our community. We are mothers. No matter what our child does or how unattractive he/she may be…..mothers generally cannot walk away.

    Time has shown…men (of all races) are not often held back by the same sense of responsibility.

    This – IMO – will explain why we (black woman) CAN’T/WON’T date/marry white men in the same number/with the same ease that black men seem to be able to.

    Society and the media would have us to believe that white man (and his money) is the way to happiness…..white men care about their communities therefore they are better….white men eat cooch better (lol! I heard that)…..any yet still…..black women generally will not give a white man the time of the day.

    I don’t even know how to determine if a white man is attractive, but men….your brains are structured differently so there fore many of the factors we take into consideration do not register….cause most black men (this is the only group of men I can say I know more than a few personally)…..want it easy. In life as well as in relationships.

    I know loving me is work….but I also know that I will be a mother that will raise strong children that knows about their history and will give a damn about their communities.

    WHY IS IT THAT WHEN A BLACK MAN MARRIES A WHITE WOMEN THAT THE ISSUES OF THE BLACK COMMUNITY NO LONGER MATTER. If I met a black man that only wanted white women, but cared about his community…I could respect that….BUT I don’t ever see that. There may be some out here like that…my hat goes off too you, but the good majority….NOT!!!

    Bitter, angry, condescending, etc….

    who is ever gonna take up for the black woman. White men and women talk about how we are so terrible…black men talk about our attitudes as a reason to only want white….That’s BS. If you want a white women…you want a white woman…WHO CARES!!! We need to start calling it what it is.

    A good black woman wants a black man that wants to better his community….. THIS IS WHAT IS NEEDED RIGHT NOW!!!

    Because we are often left to live in poverty ……we are angry!

    (NOTE: IT PRACTICALLY TAKES THE INCOME OF 2 PPL TO BUY/AFFORD A HOME AND LIVE COMFORTABLE IN 2007)

    We see the affects of the Black man not being a strong presence in the community. Where are the men to stop the drug dealers from terrorizing the neighborhood. Who sweeps anymore? Who amongst us mentors?

    This is not a male bashing session…..

    Black men and women really need work on how to talk to one another…

    Black men and women really need to care about the problems of the others….

    Black men and women really need to want to work together more….

    etc……otherwise We are fukced!!!!!

    Bol has so many intelligent readers!!! I think many of you made great and profound points!