You already told her twice

It’s not everyday that a story like this one comes across my desk, so you’ll have to excuse me if I get a bit carried away.

Are rappers really putting a shoe on women like that? For all the talk about violence against women in hip-hop, you don’t see very many real examples, now do you?

I notice both this and the VIBE story about domestic violence use the example of Big Pun, who’s been dead for six years anyway, pistol-whipping his baby’s mother. What the VIBE story fails to mention is that Big Pun was hispanic – still somewhat of an anamoly in hip-hop – and hispanics have a strong element of machismo in their culture.

Absent any other real examples of domestic abuse by rappers, I think you’d have to assume that Big Pun’s being a vicious woman beater had as much to do with him being a “latino” as it did with him being a rapper. Interestingly enough, I’m pretty sure the broad that wrote the VIBE story was also hispanic. Conflict of interest? Bueller?

I also like how the article (the Women’s eNews one) tries to conflate the stop snitching movement with this alleged domestic violence in hip-hop. First of all, the way they refer to the stop snitching movement suggests that there isn’t a case to be made about the criminal justice system’s use of criminal informants. In reality, the one doesn’t have very much to do with the other.

When’s the last time you heard of a black woman, unless she was a crack whore or some such, let a jig put a shoe on her, but then not say anything because that would be snitching? Anyone that’s ever dealt with an irate black woman knows that those bitches are just waiting for an excuse to a) fuck with your car, b) go get some nickel to beat you up, or c) all of the above.

And that’s when they don’t try to fight you themselves. The truth of the matter is that some of these broads, especially black chicks, can scrap, if they have to. Busta Rhymes’ lesbian, drug-addled baby’s mother yanked a few dreads out of his head before he ran to five-o. If a woman swings on a man, and then he swings back, does that make him a woman beater?

In ten years now of working in the “service” industry (no!), all of the women I ever met who remained in abusive relationships were white women. Most likely, they understood that if they ran to the cops, that would only serve to break up their marriage, and then they’d be forced to go live, you know, where black women live. You can read into that what you want.

  • http://www.livejournal.com Rey

    First…But I’m not proud of it.

    This has got to be one of your more ignorant posts.

    I eagerly await your snarky rebuttal.

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol

    ^Let me guess, your daddy had an issue with his machismo as well.

  • http://www.livejournal.com Rey

    Na, My father’s a good man.

    I know you don’t really give a shit, but I’ve laughed at some of your other shit that was on the same plain of ignorance, but this struck me as kinda weak, and mostly just mean.

    In any event, this is entertainment, and I’m sure you’d stomp the shit outta somebody who acted on your advice but chose to use it on your mom, or whatever female relatives you might have.

    (I am fully aware of how “Oprah” this comment is–nullus)

  • The ON1E

    NIggers

  • http://www.livejournal.com Rey

    Upon further review… This blog isn’t as ignorant as I previously felt.

    This is just your normal level of ignorance.

    My Bad.

    Carry on, Boll Weevil!

  • http://rockthedub.blogspot.com khal

    ok women beaters…

    if a female swings on a male, then the male swings back, he is not a woman beater.

    if the female swings on a male, then the male proceeds to stomp the ever loving shit out of her, he is a woman beater.

    busta wasn’t a woman beater in that situation, he was just a lil bitch. probably why he started on the ‘roids.

  • BlackimusPrime

    “The women don’t think of themselves as victims because they fought back or initiated the conflict.”

    this semi-quote from that article is like, huh?

    that’s the very definiton of not being a victim.

  • Sarutama

    Heres my rule of thumb. If a woman swings on me and misses, I will yoke her up (ie. bear hug, pin her arms behind her, make it so she can’t hit back) and continue to do so until she calms down.

    If a woman swings on me and connects, she gets back what she gave (slap for a slap, punch for a punch, I try to use equal force.)

    I’m sorry, but just because you have a vagina does not mean you get hit me with out reprecussions.

  • UnFaded Disciple

    Damn….

    This post really does suck

    and didnt you already made one of these type of “Women Beater’s” post before?

    Kinda repetitive…

    You Shouldve talked about the Tru Life and Jim Jones fight…woudlve been better buddy…

  • livinlegend85

    IS DIS REALLY ABOUT WOMEN BEATERS OR YOU DISSING DA LATINO COMMUNITY..YOU SOUND SO FUCKING IGNORANT…LIKE ONE OF THOSE IDIOTS WHO TALK BEFORE THEY THINK….OR THOSE CRACKHEADS U SEE TALKIN TO THEMSELVES…WUT DA FUCK DOES FORGETTING TO SAY BIG PUN WAS LATINO HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THE FACT HE HIT HIS BABY MOMMA…SHUT DA FUCK UP..WIT DIS RACIST SHIT

  • http://rockthedub.blogspot.com khal

    latinos do beat their women though. just like niggas don’t pay their bills, but buy expensive sneakers. why you think niggas rock iced out grills but still live with they moms?

  • youngdelta

    ha ha ha bol u do get ur nazi on. jus lets me know ur a true sell-out!!!!! do ur thing tho pimpin

  • rives305

    bol what the fuck is your ever living problem with latinos this isn’t the 1st blog you wrote discriminating latins.your probably living with some racist ass hicks right now or do you hate everybody else too

  • Meka Soul

    from the link:

    >”The women don’t think of themselves as victims because they fought back or initiated the conflict…”

    if the woman swings on the guy 1st, wouldn’t that make the guy the victim? he has the right to tee off on ol’ girl after that, and claim it as self-defense.

    >I think you’d have to assume that Big Pun’s being a vicious woman beater had as much to do with him being a “latino” as it did with him being a rapper.>

    maybe not latino, but definitely not a rapper.

  • The Dza

    I agree with the post. Latinos do keep their women in check. That’s not news. Black chicks will fuck a nigga up if need be and sometimes even if the need don’t be. That’s not news either. Latinas keeping their mouth shut has nothing to do with the Stop Snitching movement. No news there either. All you lil d-bags getting offended need to grow up. Bol came correct with this one.

  • Meka Soul

    >If a woman swings on a man, and then he swings back, does that make him a woman beater?>

    hell no.

    know what i think particularly stinks about situations like this [if a woman hits you first]? if u swing back on her, you’re a woman beater. if u call cops, you’re considered a bitch/snitch.

    it’s a lose-lose scenario.

    i’m not promoting/supporting dragon-punching a chick if she hit you 1st, but if you need to protect yourself, there are ways of doing so without slapping her through a wall.

  • http://www.livejournal.com Rey

    lol at ‘dragon punching’.. There have been many times I’ve wanted to Ha You Kan a chick, but i’ve refrained. Also, Tru Life vs Jim Jones IS man on woman violence. I’m puerto rican/cuban myself, but even I agree that latino guys can be macho dickheads.

  • Meka Soul

    >Also, Tru Life vs Jim Jones IS man on woman violence.>

    which one’s which?

  • http://www.byroncrawford.com Rey

    Hmm, The Man would have to be Tru Life, but just cuz that man has some crazy ass friends, whereas the Dips are pretty much all closet homosexuals.

  • WOW…

    One of the best columns you’ve done…

  • gees dat dude

    yo any nigga that beat they lady up is fuckin fag. look joe if you a real nigga aint no bitch go wup ya ass. no matter how hard a 5’2 bitch try she cant beat up a nigga thats fuckin 6’4. so all you niggas sayin you slap yo bitch if she slap

  • gees dat dude

    yo no matter how hard a bitch try she cant beat yo ass so all you little puss ass niggas talkin bout you slap ya lady up if she slap you thats bullshit. you gotta yoke her ass you dont want ya lady sittin next to your ass wit a black eye and shit after yall made up and shit.and this nigga bol talkin bout itsa latin thing and black girls fight back shit i know plenty niggas that be puttin they foot in they bitch ass. black white latino all that shit and if you really layin the smack on dem bitches they aint go say shit cause they go be scared of ya ass.

  • MoneyMakin’Mitch

    Lol at “dragon- punching” Meka Soul! That’s the funniest shit I’ve heard since “no Big Tigger”! Anyway, if yo’ chick swing and connect don’t hit her her back r “yoke her up”. 2 me that’s hoe shit. Take it like a man then go fuck her friend. That’s what really hurts! U ain’t have 2 get yo’ bitch back like that! Word 2 Ghostface and Neyo(and Jay since they swagger-jacked him 4 that)!

  • Meka Soul

    >Anyway, if yo’ chick swing and connect don’t hit her her back r “yoke her up”. 2 me that’s hoe shit. Take it like a man then go fuck her friend. That’s what really hurts!>

    now that i’ll co-sign.

  • Meka Soul

    i think some people got “hit a chick if she hit you back” mixed up. i’d like to believe that everyone who’s responded aren’t trigger-temper meatheads who’ll tee off on a chick if she “love tap” hits you. that DOES make you a woman beater.

    however, if said shorty has bolos like laila ali and swings on you, or tries to pull a keke wyatt-style stabbing on you, then i feel you got to do to what’s necessary to protect yourself from harm.

    but fucking shorty’s friend when your girl is like that, i wouldn’t co-sign [you and her might get stabbed].

    even if she is better looking.

  • Danja29

    Damn BOL… you really got a thing against black women, eh??? They musta really snubbed you or just broke your heart, cause you always find a way to make them appear fucked up.

  • http://www.jameslambjr.com J. Lamb

    No group exhibits a racial propensity for domestic violence. None.

  • swagger

    i remember in that vibe article she mentioned how Big Pun used to beat her with a lead pipe. Goood Dammmm. Here’s my thing though. Dude weight about 720 lbs, if you cant get away from a man whose two steps from being short of breath and three steps from an heart attack then you prolly deserve to get your ass beat.

  • DJ Lucky Luke

    It’s like I say:
    ” I won’t hit a woman…but, I’ll knock a bitch the fuck out!” A true woman might slap you–that’s it–but you gotta be really deserving of that shit. However, a bitch will just go off on your ass for some stupid shit she made up herself and in this case, you better swing for the benches (bitches) and knock that ho out the park… A Latino neighbor of mine probably beats on his wife but when he had the cops called on his ass, he just about started crying right in front of them. They do have dominance issues–a woman being the only thing they feel they can control.

  • Rome

    “If a woman swings on a man, and then he swings back, does that make him a woman beater?”

    The cops say yes.

  • Gutta

    hitting a woman is wrong in my opinion but if she hits you first, i think the reaction depends on how hard she hits you and how well you can take a punch. i say this because you do have females who just like to fight and females who hit like a grown man. if ya girl is like 5ft there is no excuse to hit a woman that small but for the big bitches that think they can actually think they can beat up a man, they must be dealt with.

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol

    >A Latino neighbor of mine probably beats on his wife but when he had the cops called on his ass, he just about started crying right in front of them. They do have dominance issues–a woman being the only thing they feel they can control.

    Stories like that are the reason I do this.

  • Meka Soul

    >“If a woman swings on a man, and then he swings back, does that make him a woman beater?”

    The cops say yes.>

    the cops also say it’s illegal to be black in most states.

    >if ya girl is like 5ft there is no excuse to hit a woman that small but for the big bitches that think they can actually think they can beat up a man, they must be dealt with.>

    exactly my point. you have to draw a line somewhere.

  • Tyler Durden

    Bol, the only thing you probably would want to do to a woman IS beat her…You gotta be the least pussy getting-ist nigga on the internet..My little brother got pet hamsters that fuck more than you…you look like a broke ass Sadat X………bitch

  • GetMONEY216

    ^^^^LMAO!!!^^ Tyler Durden, you’se a fool bruh!!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com DEDICATION

    WHY DO U DOG BLACK WOMEN SO MUCH U MUST BE WHITE U CAN’T BE BLACK IF U ARE BLACK BOL THEN U JUST ANOTHER STUPID NIGGA THAT THE WHITE MAN HAS TRAIN TO HATE THEIR OWN RACE HOW THE FUCK U GONNA MAKE IT SEEM LIKE WHITE WOMAN ARE INNOCENT AND VICTIMS BUT THEN TALK ABOUT THE B.A.P’S LIKE THEY AREN’T SHIT GETTING SERIOUS MOTHERFUCKER U ARE A STUPID BLACK MOTHERFUCKER ABOUT 40 YEARS AGO U COULDN’T EVEN SPEAK TO THEM SMELLY HAIR LOSING BITCH SMELL MORE LIKE WET DOG’S THEN WOMAN!!!!!SEL

  • DipSet Affiliate

    This article is weak. Some of this stuff is just glaringly inaccurate.

    This guy really needs to start doing some statistical research before he writes this crap.

    Black women stay in abusive relationships just like white women.

    Every black women is not an omnipotent, fire-breathing succubus that can and is willing to hold her own against a partner that puts a foot in her ass. I have seen MANY a black woman get her ass beat on the regular in a relationship….AND SHE STAYED AND KEPT HER MOUTH SHUT after she uncurled from the fetal position after getting the living shit stomped out of her.

    Why? Because despite the physical, mental and emotional abuse….she did not want to leave the relationship and lose the more materialistic things she had and the decent lifestyle she was accustomed to.

    If she were to leave the relationship, she would be ass-out on the streets looking for a mark to take care of her because she has nothing to fall back on to provide for herself, other than taking someones order at Popeye’s Chicken.

    Black women go through and experience a lot of the same things that white women do, and they all put up with the same bullshit from abusive partners….race and color have nothing to do with it.

  • SMARTASS

    NOW I WOULD, NEVER HIT A WOMAN! NAW! BUT I’LL SLAP THE SHIT OUT OF A BITCH!

    Sincerely, SUGA FREE

  • http://Blackplanet.com Mimi

    I know there are times a sista can provoke a man to a showdown….I’m a sista with attitude and I feel if you are in a relationship long enough you should already know how far to go then there are times when the brain freezes and all hell brakes loose it is all about self control….If you can’t keep your hands to yourself then separate…life is too short for all that madness…trust me I’ve been there…