I could use a tip drill

Are hip-hop videos causing black women to be perceived as bitches and hoes, or are black women causing hip-hop videos to portray them as bitches and hoes?

Maybe a month ago, on my own site, I predicted that ironic white man on black woman sex would be the next wave in hipsterdom – the new trucker hat, if you will. Lo and behold, last week there was this article at MSNBC about how black women can hardly these days go anywhere without white dudes wanting to get their tip drill on.

To wit:

They go to a party, a concert, a nightclub. Twenty-somethings of all colors are flirting and dancing. And then it happens.

Inevitably, a woman says, a white man asks her to dance erotically while he watches. Or he grabs her rear end. Or asks for sex, in graphic detail, without bothering to ask her name.

I don’t mean to suggest that I’m so good that I can predict these things, but there you go. That said, what I neglected to mention in my own post is whatever effect the media – hip-hop, especially – may have had on this phenomenon.

From the article:

Black women stew about the narrow, negative ways they are nearly always portrayed. They are either quick-tempered and full of attitude like Tyler Perry’s Madea character or the comedian Mo’Nique, or they are barely dressed and brazenly sexual like the women mimicking strippers in so many music videos.

You mean that’s not true?

No, but seriously, the thing about stereotypes is that they always contain a certain grain of truth, or else they wouldn’t be an issue one way or the other. They might be true half the time or 90% of the time, but the key here – the take home point, if you will – is that no one just made this shit up out of thin air.

A while ago, there was a special on VH1 (a really hot one!) about the problem with the way women are portrayed in rap videos. Infamous rap industry jizz jar Superhead was featured and had the sheer balls to blame the situation on rappers, rather than herself. As if Ja Rule forced her at gun point to go down on half the jigs in hip-hop[1].

It’s worth noting that in many cases, these broads aren’t even getting paid to dance half naked in these videos. If you take away the old putting yourself through college defense, then what’s left? In that sense, you can hardly blame a guy for seeing a black chick in a club and thinking she might be able to make it clap.

She probably can.

Checkit:

[1] At least, I’m assuming he didn’t.

  • http://thewaltreport.blogspot.com Big Walt

    “Inevitably, a woman says, a white man asks her to dance erotically while he watches. Or he grabs her rear end. Or asks for sex, in graphic detail, without bothering to ask her name.”

    So…it’s only white guys doing that? Yeah right.

  • Doc Flav

    Black women have been coveted by white men, Strom Thurmond, Thomas Jefferson… You really have nothing positive to contribute to hip hop other than its systematic media led destruction, do you?

  • http://www.funkdigital.com funkdigital

    Sad, but true. Much of this perception is the fault of the clear heel wearing “women” in the stripclubs, videos and niteclubs.

    I’m not blaming that stripper for her alleged rape at all. That’s inexcusable but putting one self in a situation with a group of men you don’t know and can’t ascertain the intensions of is an immediate effed up situation.

    Additionally, it is a well known fact that dancers/strippers are up to slob some knob for extra cash. So whether you do it or not, because one chick and her friends did as a stripper it is expected that with enough cash, you’ll do the same.

    Black women need to stone these lewd hoes like Superhead and others for reinforcing this loose image in every vid.

    The other question I have is where were/are the parents? Get some money up so your daughter doesn’t have do lap snorkeling?

  • http://rockthedub.blogspot.com khal

    the parents are just as ignorant as the kids. Look at Lil’ Kim’s mom. they are not good role models, so the kids end up fucked up. thinking that ‘skrippin’ is the way to be.

  • http://www.funkdigital.com funkdigital

    Khal,

    I don’t think it’s that simple. I think even of these attentive parents can’t handle a young female that just decides to let herself be turned out, so to speak. Regardless, a minority of women are destroying the rep of the whole.

  • P-Matik

    Bol,
    What’s the link to that article?

  • P-Matik

    Oh my bad, never mind…

  • P-Matik

    “Rush Limbaugh, for example, called the black student a “ho” on the radio. He later apologized.”

    Man, that a** knew exactly what he was doing. He just knows he’s got priveledge to do it.

  • bhillboy

    Good article numero dos.

  • Trill4real

    First off what are strippers if not hoes? THey are PERIOD…

    Steryotypes are usually right and that what kills the people bein generalized about, they know its right 90% of the time.

    Superhead just did what a lot of black folk do, blame someone else or soicety for their bullshit

  • Nooty

    Great fucking post Bol. That first article documenting this phenomenon, “Ironic Sex With Black Women” was funny as shit and ingenious at the same time. I was glad to see a solid follow-up to it in this article.

  • http://xxlmag.com Bol
  • PMulls

    Let us not forget that the “video vixen” in question has decided to call herself Superhead. No sexual connotations there at all.

  • goodwillsidis

    Any guy who has frustration toward “women” as some kind of group is either fat, buckled, or slanging minidick.

  • UnFaded Disciple

    This is a good article….and speaks the truth

  • ghtht

    BOL this article is from black planet are you serious did you run out of things to say or did you just get lazy

  • Mattric

    Black men do that to white woman, so why can’t white guys do it to black girls… the problem is the white girls are all over it and the black girls just arent…

  • Belize

    yah 2nd str8 article…bol, r u using a ghost writer? haaaaaaaaaaa

  • 50 Cent

    Damn Bol, i used to think you were a clown, but you update your shit everyday. So i’m not gonna hate, even though its in my blood.

  • Ru

    what came first..the chickenhead or the egg?
    girls dressing like whores in videos? or the ppl in the positions of power (the rappers) ASKING for whores in videos?
    yea she had the gall to say that its the rappers fault…do you think women just walk around with pasties on in assless chaps??? no! (unless you are bambi at the strip clubs but strippers are the minority..guys have brainwashed women into believing that they hold the power in being a stripper so its okay to grab a dollar out his hand with your left ass cheek..DONT BELIEVE THE HYPE)..someone asked her to do it and her being a mindless idiot with daddy issues did it.
    yep..im a feminist..but im not overt with it. feminism does not equal being a bitch dammit.

  • BlackimusPrime

    …”jizz jar” ROFLMAO!!!

  • http://myspace.com/krittlej Krystle

    So, this phenomena actually is not new with hip hop. Since early on, black women have always been seen as sexual objects by white men. They raped, beat, and destroyed our black women on the plantations and in slavery, and, they continue to do it today. Only, they have passed on the dirty work to black men.

    Sexism is created in society through socialization. Women can be sexist, as well as men. But, men, having the power in this patriarchal society have a better chance to carry out this sexism in a systematic way.

    Saying a woman should have “known better” to be in a certain area which led to her rape, is overt sexism. It is placing the blame on the victim, instead of the person who is really at fault- the person who assaulted her. But it’s ok, EVERYONE is affected by sexism because we are trained to do so by those in power. ie. white men.

    Hip Hop is simply bringing an age old problem into a new light. Only problem is, now its black men doing it to black women, and because its black men doing it, other black people do not want to recognize it as an issue.

    I guarantee if hip hop artists allowed women to wear some jeans and a t-shirt ( simple stuff) in a video, a woman most certainly would do it. If, she was guaranteed to get money without having to go above and beyond in some way.

    We need to stop buying and selling our women in such a manner. Black people unite, and for something meaningful.

  • Rekboogie

    Man its all about dollars and sense(cents). As long as these women are crying they need money or a man with some they always gonna sell themselves on or off the videos. Nobody puts a gun to these chics heads. they do this willingly.Women are more fame and power hungry than men so they would do whatever to get it. Black women especially. It’s sad man but at a time when black women say they dont need a black man they really need to show some type of unity. the white man these days keep the black man and women divided by using every possible media outlet..the black woman say the black man ain’t nothing but nonworking and non child support paying low wage nigga. And the black man says the black woman is nothin but a attitude having, selfish,materialistic,goldiggin, hoe.
    IT HAS GOT TO STOP….Period
    We all need to get some self respect in our own race fuk what other races percieve us to be…………..Peace

  • Ian

    I agree with dude that wrote this all the way. As a black male I understand why they have our sisters in videos half dressed, but there’s a limit and it seems that the rappers of today don’t see that. Hip hop has been known to push the limits, but someone needs to take a stand and a high selling artist. I support some of the grown and sexy videos, but I also feel that rappers like the Ying Yang twins tear down our black women. We can show our sisters in a more intelligent way than we do. Oh and like I said I ain’t complaining, b/c I like the eye candy section in xxl, but like I said there’s a limit.

  • TONY BMORE

    it,s what happens when you let the cat out the bag..whats was kool when it was limited is ok,, but once it gets out of hand and the world is on it..it needs to stop.. the sad part is they never saw it coming like the commentor said..the rappers didn,t see it either or just don,t care (all about that dolla) and most not that wise or in control to stop it..and the video honey grindin to get in the video,,will do whatever to be seen in it.and the director don,t care as long as he getting paid also..so the blame game goes around and around..when all they have to do is stop and think how they will look in the videos..and what affect will it have on the public..but it goes back to respect,,if you act with respect and look respectful,,he,ll think twice before he step out of line… but everyone want attention.theses dayzz. so it,s hard to kill this attitude.

  • http://UG-RS.com Tyler

    Yo man, they have been showing white hoes doin ill shit 4ever & a minute now. Like Bily Idol video “Dancing with Myself” from back in the day he got a girl half naked chain hangin from the ceiling wit’ some cat walking towards her wit a chainsaw just 2 name 1 off the top of the dome. Black women better be glad they are showing them on the tv at all cause that didn’t use 2. Women run the world but that are so smart they out smart themselves in knowing ‘dat fact. If some of these bitches start checkin’ the niggas ‘dat get out of line wit’ them then they wouldn’t have a damn thang’ 2 worry about but most are like everyone here has said. Lookin’ 4 ‘dat paper wit’ their SuperHeads. Peep the heat at:
    http://www.myspace.com/marcusorealiusmusic
    http://www.mysapce.com/marcmaysrockandrollthug

  • http://www.facebook.com bama

    I AM A WOMEN THAT THINKS SUPERHEAD IS A NASTY LYING DUMB BITCH SHE IS TRYING TO PRETEND THAT SHE WAS SO STAR STRUCK AND NEEDED LOVE AND ATTENTION THAT SHE ” FEALT ABLIDGE TO DO WHAT THEY WANTED TO STAY DOWN WITH THE CLICK.” SORRY THAT EXCUSE JUST DOESN’T WORK AND I SICK OF ALL THESE VIDEO HOE’S TALKING ABOUT THEY ARE MODELS BITCH YOU FAT NASTY ASS WILL NEVER BE A MODEL NOT EVEN FOR BABY PHAT OUT OF ALL THE SUPPOSED “MODELS” ONLY ABOUT 5 HAVE MADE IT IF THAT SO BITCHES STOP LYING AND KEEP SUCK DICK LIKE U DO !

  • http://www.myspace.com/16kingz thebestout!!

    IT’S ALL MY FAULT, I’M SORRY,I’M SORRY!! WHO NEW THAT SOME RETARD BITCH WOULD DO SEXUAL FAVORS FOR MONEY I MEAN DAMN PEOPLE JEZEBELS GO BACK TO BIBLICAL TIMES YA’ DIG! BACK IN THOSE DAYS A KING WOULD TRADE HIS DAUGHTER FOR A NICE HERD OF CATTLE SO WHAT THE HELL DO YOU EXPECT TO HAPPEN TODAY, I’M SURE THE MAJORITY OF US DON’T GOT NO DAMN CATTLE TO TRADE AND i KNOW FOR DAMN SURE A BITCH ON A POLE WOULDN’T TAKE IT! BUT SHE’LL GET A LIL’ STRANGE FOR SOME CHANGE$$$ YADAMEAN! AFTER WHILE THESE WHORES JUS’ GOTTA ACCEPT THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS THEY WHORES!!!A BITCH HAD A CHANCE TO GET EDUCATION,JOBS,MONEY,WHATEVA’ LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE BUT TOOK THE EASY WAY OUT SO ALL IN ALL TAKE IT LIKE A HOE!! WIGGLE YA’ ASS FOR MY CAMERA PHONE!! (IF THIS PERTAINS TO YOU) THE REST OF SISTAS, GET IT HOW U LIVE…..

  • NEW 2 Dis

    Just something quick, I do not agree with a lot of the comments in regards to this. But I also do not feel that that are worthy of commenting on, for it seems to be a lot of immature boys (posing as grown men) making these comments. I will not lie and say I do not like to look at a beautiful and shapely Black woman do her thing. But I would not go as far as to say I like to see it all the time. It gets mundane and it is just another woman with flesh shaking around. Got better things to do with my time then to look at a woman all day, who 9x out of 10 is not looking at you, because your money may not be long enough or she thinks that you are ignorant because you are looking at her. As we as men like to call women hoes, women who strip call us hoes for paying them money to strip, when instead u could be home paying bills or something. Also for the fact that you can not go home or do nothing with half the women in the club.

    Also the jackass who said all women who strip are hoes is retarded; most women do that as a last resort to pay bills or something. How many college females do you know who strip to pay the term bill, but if you saw them out side of the club u would not think that nursing or that business students was working at the Body Tap or the Gentlemen’s Club (Long Live the spirit of that Heavenly Place).

    Lastly the women stripping is the equivalent of what males do when we sell drugs or rob or steal. We are trying to make ends meat or a means to get by, their happens to be legal ours is not. Imagine if all you had to do was dance for a few hours a night, something you like to do anyhow, and could get paid for it all you have to do it show off your body. Half you men would do it, it is faster money that drugs and it is legal, so be careful of who you call a hoe, that hoe might be your future daughter. For most parents do not know their daughters stripper while in college.

  • Wordsmith

    When are our black women going to get the respect they deserve. Black men step your game up and stop blaming women for how you treat them. You are in control of your own actions. Get your mind right.

  • Nice-n-Tight

    I am a black woman and I get the respect I deserve because it’s what I give and demand in return. I’m not bothered when women are called bitches and whores because a generalization isn’t in reference to me. No one who knows me personally would ever think that of me so why is this such a big issue with so many other people? You get the respect you deserve and demand! I’m tired of hip hop and videos being put on the forefront when the Imus situation is mentioned. Those songs containing bitch and ho are,in my eyes,for entertainment. That’s obviously what sells, so the artists are just giving the people what they want. If you don’t like the content of a song, DO NOT LiSTEN! Let these artists express their creativity however they choose. At the end of the day, it’s their right to do so!!

  • Dis_Neicey

    well honestly, i dont blame anyone, i dont think blameing people will fix the underline problem here, respect, women dont respect themselves and therefore men wont either, although men are responcible for there own behavior, if a women doesnt check a man and let him know that she is different, things will never change, instead of women working hard to fight the steriotypes, it seems like were trying our hardest to fit them, of the women reading this msg, how many of you watch the music video to make sure you know how to do the dance?… right, you have although you wont admit it in this context, anyway, i digress, there is nothing wrong with going out and having fun, but if you dont respect yourself and your body no one will, as for super head, poor woman, she is long lost, hopefully she will at least tell her children to aspire for something more meaningful then the muck, she has created, i work on myself, and tell people my point of view, hahaha we were once queens, and now were seen as things… sad reality on so many fronts…

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