FEATURE: Karrine Steffans, Head of the Class

Karrine Steffans, the former video vixen best known for her rap relations and latest memoirs, is releasing her highly anticipated third book: The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce & Keep The Man You Want. Most may find it surprising that this best-selling author is giving advice on how to keep a man, but her past is exactly what makes her qualified to do so.

Don’t expect another autobiography with dirt on your favorite rapper. That’s in the past. The manual is a man’s dream. Karrine, being the gentleman’s lady she is, gives women the inside scoop on how to get a man, and how to keep him running back for more. With chapters titled, “Dating for Love or Money,” “Being One of The Boys,” “Encouraging His Manhood,” and “If All Men Are Dogs…(Then All Women Are Bitches),” Steffans is putting her vast experience to use. The manual isn’t only sex-filled and focused on men, it also suggests that women have to be at their best to get the best man. XXLMag.com caught up with Steffans to discuss her having a man’s mentality, women being able to do more than men and Lil Wayne being her case study.

XXLMag.com: You have an interesting relationship history. What made you want to write the ultimate guide to finding, seducing, and keeping the man you want?

Karrine Steffans: The Vixen Manual started in 2004. For about five years, I’ve been writing it. Something that always fascinated me was the psychology and the psychology differences between men and women and how we relate to one another. So for about five years I’ve learned so much in talking to other women and older women especially. This is the first book that’s organically mine and not part of the machine.

XXL: Now I read the book myself and I saw that you say your strays from the norm qualify you to give this advice. Do you think it will be well-received or blown out of context?

Karrine Steffans: Both. Yea, I mean any good writer is going to be well-received and is going to not be well-received that’s how you know you’re a great writer. If there’s no debate, then I haven’t done my job. So I’m looking forward to debate and I’m looking forward to who may not take it so well. I love that and it creates and it sparks debate which most authors never get a chance to do in their careers and I do with every book.

XXL: So how do you feel about men reading this book?

Karrine Steffans: I think men should read the book. It’s geared toward women, but I feel that so many things in there men will agree with because it’s written by a woman, but it’s not written from a feminist point of view per se. You know, there’s a lot of masculine views in that book and a lot of old folks traditional things I know men wish would come back to relationships and so I think it’s important for them to read it and pass it on to their women.

XXL: The illustrations caught me off guard even though I knew they would be in there. What made you put those in there?

Karrine Steffans: I was inspired by The Joy Of Sex. I felt like that was the only book that had been done and reviewed so widely in the last 40 years. There had been nothing like that for my generation so I called my publisher and said I want to do this, and have this in the center of the book and it worked. I love it.

XXL: I see that a lot of your titles are interesting and catchy, like “If All Men Are Dogs…(Then All Women Are Bitches).” How’d you come up with those titles?

Karrine Steffans: Because I’m super smart. [laughs] And I’m very witty. I don’t know how I come up with those things, that’s what being a writer is about. Everyone has there own thing. It’s almost impossible to explain to you how you come up with stuff. It’s very real things that I say in my own life. You know if all men are dogs, then why aren’t all women bitches? Of course. The point of that title is that you can’t generalize. And so those are things that occur to me naturally that may not occur to other people. I think very differently of course, write very differently.

XXL: You have a very strong point of view and just from reading it, you’ve been around men a lot, has that kind of given you a man’s mindset?

Karrine Steffans: I’ve always had a man’s mindset and that’s why I mostly have men friends and that’s why I’ve been around so many men. I’ve always been a tomboy. And any man that knows me will tell you I’m not a girly girl. So that’s something too that I wanted to be able to express, that this is a woman writing this book, but it’s not necessarily feminist views on things. I have a very traditional way I think. I don’t think that we’re equal to men. I don’t think that we should be equal to men. Because I think that if taken a few steps backwards, we’re actually more equipped and we have a larger capacity than men do for more things. And so why would you want to be like a man, when men actually need you to complete them? That’s not making sense to me.

XXL: I know this is your latest book, but are you doing anything after this?

Karrine Steffans: Of course. There will be no more autobiographies. My second manual is being finished in two weeks.

XXL: What will the second and third manuals be about?

Karrine Steffans: Well the one that we’re writing now, the second manual, is Erotic Fantasies for the Advanced and Adventurous Couple. And what that does is that it takes the “Sex” chapter of the first The Vixen Manual, and it expounds on that specifically and primarily for couples who are married and may be bored and need ideas to spice up their love lives. The third manual I am working on is, How To Attract Wealthy and Powerful Men. It has always been socially acceptable for women to marry upward in society, but in order for a woman to marry upward she’s going to have to know a lot of things. So that’s a really intense manual that will probably take me another two years to finish.

XXL: In our October 2008 issue featuring Lil Wayne on the cover. We had an excerpt from the “W” chapter, which you recently added to The Vixen Diaries. What made you want to release that chapter fully?

Karrine Steffans: It was a relationship that I don’t think we understood and I wanted to kind of put to bed what people thought was happening in that relationship. It was so complicated—I wanted to show that there was a lot of pain involved in that relationship. I thought a lot about who I was with and being around someone who is so talented and who is so great in his own way, it fascinated me. Cause he had always been—though he was my friend, and though he was my confidant for a while and we were very close at some point, he was always to me— a case study. Like I always studied him and what made him tick. I kind of wanted to show the progression of that relationship, you know, how it started, the kind of things that went on in between, the kind of things that were said. This is how it ended, and why it ended. It was important for me to show that.

XXL: Have you and Wayne spoken since the fallout you mention in The Vixen Diaries?

Karrine Steffans: No. No, that was it.

XXL: Do you have any thoughts on Lauren London and Nivea both being pregnant with Wayne’s babies at the same time?

Karrine Steffans: I don’t have any thoughts on other people’s vaginas and what they do with them. I don’t have any thoughts on someone else’s child and if they’re pregnant. I don’t have any thoughts on anybody else’s anything. I just, I don’t think about other people’s wombs like that. I don’t care. [laughs] I have my own womb to think about. Thank you! So I don’t have any thoughts. Good luck to everybody.—Kamaria Gboro

  • PARIS PERSHUN

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  • Syncere

    Nice story title… [Laughs]

  • Silly Willy

    The Head of the class on how to keep a man………it’s dripping with irony……

  • BIGPAUL

    I,strange enough, will read this book. Regardless of her “legendary skull game” I think she is an intelligent woman. For her to survive the bullshit she’s been through & still be striving she’s no brain dead chic. Plus if she can show me some game to elevate me & my lady’s “sexxellence”, Im with it. Stay up, Karrine.

  • http://tonygrands.blogspot.com Tony Grand$

    She seemed to get a bit miffed when the whole Wayne issue came up. Especially the prenancies.
    You know how when people repeat something, its usually because they mean the exact opposite.

    Just an observation.

    Get yours……Superhead.

  • TxTitan

    SOMEBODY PLEASE PUT THIS BITCH IN A TRIANGLE CHOKE….

  • http://xxl SOUTH

    Mr. Marcus needs to stick his dick back in her mouth so she can shut the fuck up

  • render

    this hoes career is in its 11th hour

    nobody gives a fuck about this broads advice on relationships or her unique observations of life. Bitches only buy her books cause they wanna hear gossip bout all the niggas she’s fucked

    bitch is running out of stories to tell

  • GIA

    THERE ARE SEAGULLS AND SKULLYGULLS.

  • $ykotic

    Y’all are not getting brain from her so cut it out.

    She’s @ 14:59:30, let it ride out.

  • http://xxl b.sug

    I will give yall the 20 bucks NOT to buy the book…end her life–uh i mean career, ONCE AND FOR ALL dammit

  • What The ?

    Got dayuuuum. I hope JZ puts out a new track titled DOP (death of photoshop) that pic is the most fabricated shit ever fabricated, then again it could be from all the burkake sessions to the face making that skin so flawless.

  • Ya Boy

    She comes off as being quite intelligent. Maybe thats how she came up with that crazy head game through science? Lol

  • Rx

    Yeah she knows a few things but the fact of the matter is that she has offically been outted so she had to write the book. She don’t know that much cause if she did, she would still be caking off of doing what she was doing. She hit a brick wall and her financial meltdown plus the backlash from niggaz avoiding her made her have to find a new way to make cake through writing. But don’t let her gas you like she really wanted to pick up a pen and start telling stories on purpose.

    And she is pissed that she couldn’t have a baby by a upcoming rap star like a Wayne or a Kanye. That would mean she could do shit for a while and sit on her ass. That’s what being prego is for a bitch, a vacation. Fuck that, these bitches gotta work and she is write that women can do more shit. If they can, put these bitches to work then.

  • Enlightened

    Is this broad serious? Her being an author is the equivalent of Master P being a filmmaker. And she walks around like muthafuckas is really checking for her writing skills. Yeah right.

    • BigBlackRod

      Dawg, “I Got The Hook-Up” was funny as shit…PEACE.

  • Kool Clint

    I first read this shit and thought to myself, “How can this bitch tell anybody ’bout relationships?” But, she has indeed been with a few dudes with big bread and I feel like, if she wanted to, she could’ve had these niggas. So, maybe she can hip these hoes up on some game. Bottom line is she gone sell regardless because the media love’s controversy and she damn near a master at creating it.

  • RotterdamSoldier

    XXl why do you keep giving her time?
    I’m sure ya’ll could do a better feature then this.

  • mindfulljones

    We as people can step into bullshit and never even bother to try and clean it up! K. Steffans represents exactly what a man doesn’t need in a woman. Seriously what man is sitting at home wishing his girl was more like her…before you answer that remember this- no hoes for house-wives!

  • where is hiphop

    didn’t read the interview but…

    “Head of the class” lol

  • http://www.justice.gov.za GO-Getta’

    I don’t have any thoughts on other people’s vaginas and what they do with them. (OOOUUUCHH)

  • My2Cents

    She is getting paid, bitch get ya paper!! I think that writing is a well educated thing to do. Zane writes erotica books and she is a #1 seller and no one hates on her so why can’t she?

  • http://www.myspace.com/l33nylyn Brainiac

    Personally i feel to believe that this woman is madd smart and who cares if she is keeping it 100 about what went on with her and the other male rappers! It is her damn life so remember that when u talk about it! She on her grind for all yall haters!! Step ya lame up!!

  • http://yahoo.com reelniggs

    THAT BITCH IS COOKED UP. SHE’S JUST WON’T STOP OPENING HER MOUTH.FAKE ASS GIRLS THESE MUTHAFUCKIN DAYS.I NO SHE WANNA GET THAT GUAP BUT HOW MANY STORIES U GONE WRITE THAT MAKE U LOOKE LIKE A HO. I AINT SAYIN STOP WHAT U DOIN BUT DAMN BITCH,U AINT GOTTA TELL EVERYTHING…

  • http://Daboxstudios phillyflu24

    Like really wat makes this bitch think she got all the answers GNR she trippin and everybody else for keep makin this fuckin snitch rich im sorry it nothing lady like bout this bitch she’s a hoe (a paid hoe) but still a hoe the dome is crazy lmao maybe suckin all those dicks givin so much head made her smart lol!!!!!

  • http://xxl Trinatrin

    Wow! I cant even say im mad at this broad cause regardless that what shes talkin about dont mean a damn thing, she makin money. By hook or crook Baby thats my motto and thats whats going on here. To keep it a hun dun doe, bitch please, If you really knew how to keep a man you woudnt have sucked so many dicks right? right!

  • Rwayne

    Case Study!!!!! Haha I Almost Died Laughing When I Read That Shit…She Really Wants To Put Herself Out There As A Sophisticated Person…Naw That Bitch Is Casing Studying Dick…This Time It Just Happened To Be Lil Wayne’s….I Wonder Who She’s “Case Studying” Next????…I Can’t Even Lie This Chick Is Entertaining……LOL

  • http://xxl.com Shawninca

    I gotta say first of all, I don’t judge Karrine Steffans on her past activities,who somebody screws is their business. I do, though,kinda have a problem with how full of herself she is. I mean, come on now, she writes a book talking about shaking her ass in videos and servicing a bunch of rappers and athletes, and she’s Maya Angelou or some damn body? Sista, please! Karrine is taking herself way too seriously, and if she really wants the word out to mainstream society about her books, she really needs to stop copping funky attitudes with the few people trying to provide her with opportunities to peddle it, namely people interviewing her. They’re helping her, not the other way around. If she didn’t want her past brought up, while the hell did she publicize it?

  • http://NONE BRIAN L.

    LONG AS SHE WAS GETTING PLAYED AND USED PEOPLE LIKE HER,SO SHE WROTE GUY,S UP IN HER BOOK.THIS IS WHAT THE RAP BUSSINESS IS ABOUT,SOKARRINE BABY,DONOT LET YOUR PASS DEFINE YOU.YOU WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED AS A CHILD AND YOU DID WHAT YOU THOUGHT THAT WHAT YOU WAS.IT WAS NOT.YOUR MOTHER AND FARTHER SHOULD HAVE LVED YOU LIKE YOU LOVE YOUR SON.SO THE PAIN THEY GAVE YOU ,YOU GIVE IT TO GOD.MARRIDE COUPLE ARE ONLY TOGETHER FOR THE MONEY SO PEOPLE STOP JUDGING KARRINE.LOOK HOW MANY PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR MARRIGE,S TODAY.

  • http://NONE BRIAN L.

    LONG AS SHE WAS GETTING PLAYED AND USED PEOPLE LIKE HER,SO SHE WROTE GUY,S UP IN HER BOOK.THIS IS WHAT THE RAP BUSSINESS IS ABOUT,SOKARRINE BABY,DONOT LET YOUR PASS DEFINE YOU.YOU WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED AS A CHILD AND YOU DID WHAT YOU THOUGHT THAT WHAT YOU WAS.IT WAS NOT.YOUR MOTHER AND FARTHER SHOULD HAVE LVED YOU LIKE YOU LOVE YOUR SON.SO THE PAIN THEY GAVE YOU ,YOU GIVE IT TO GOD.MARRIDE COUPLE ARE ONLY TOGETHER FOR THE MONEY SO PEOPLE STOP JUDGING KARRINE.LOOK HOW MANY PEOPLE CHEAT IN THEIR MARRIGE,S TODAY.

  • gregory robinson

    I think she is a very smart writer and very beautiful. I only read the first book but plan to read the others. I wish I could meet her and get autograph books. It would be nice